Because people confuse love with lust or love with the desire for companionship. And the ideal of marriage lasting forever is gone in this society. It is too easy to get a divorce so people to do not really wait and see if they can deal with everything about a person before they rush into marriage. The mentality is "Oh well, if it doesn't work we'll just go our separate ways". People act on quicksilver feelings that dissipate after a few months/years and they don't really look at who their partner is. So many women I know focus only on how much money a man makes, is he stable, is he good looking, a home owner, what type of assets does he have, instead of does he have an anger problem, would he be a good father, is he going to treat me as I deserve-and I don't mean buy me what I deserve. When you go into a marriage focusing on outward appearance and monetary assets, it's not going to last. What happens when he gets fired or gets old. There is no love there to keep you together. Women I know also think they can change a man. Oh, sure, he's violent and angry, but he won't treat me that way---horse****
I'd say that the main reason in all that is not, as another user put it, that love is not enough. The problem is that many people are not really, truly in love with the person they marry. They are in love with an ideal, a dream, a house, a car, a bank account. Love is enough, but it has to be real love for the other person, not love for how they make you feel, the status they give you, the things they buy you.
2007-10-24 09:43:22
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answered by mamak2327 3
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That is sort of a simplistic way to look at such a complex problem.
for A=b b=c so a=c, then all women would have to love all men, and we know that just isn't the case. When you throw personality, conflict, stress, life experiences, love, joy, and everything else that comes along with being human, you have a very complex formula.
small example:
A may have started out loving C, but then C lost his job, they lost their house, and A blames C for all of it, so A leaves C. That is just one example of the possible millions of different scenarios that happen in every day life. People divorce for all kinds of reasons.
2007-10-24 09:52:13
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answered by ? 6
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Because romantic "love" is nature's little chemical trick to get opposites to attract and keep the species going. Most of us tie the knot when those hormones are still in high gear.
The long-term kind of deeper love needed to sustain a marriage over the long run involves a lot of complexities, like commitment and tolerance and a little selflessness now and then.
And usually, a lot of forgiveness.
We're an instant gratification, use-it-and-toss-it kind of society. Amazing that even half the marriages that do survive--have.
2007-10-24 09:45:04
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answered by zarf2154 3
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Great question....reasoning and logic are often not preached at home. Mostly we read fairy tales of 'happily ever after' instead of, "be sure to discuss finances, goals, values before getting married and then work hard to have your happily ever after.'
I believe if people had more reasoning when approaching matters of the heart, there would be fewer divorces, but people allow themselves to throw away all common sense when they are "in love". Who taught them to be this way? Society, their parents, the media?????
I credit my parents with raising me with some common sense and the ability to step back from my emotions and attempt to make logical and reasonable decisions regardless of my emotions. It doesn't happen all the time, I can still be somewhat a slave to my feelings, but on the BIG issues, I do just fine.
Most of what we learn about relationships and life we learn at home.....
2007-10-24 10:14:11
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answered by reddevilbloodymary 6
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Because COMMITMENT went out the window!
Marriage is not considered a "forever" thing anymore, SO when trouble arises people bail out! BUT if you were committed to stay together through the good and bad and divorce was NOT an option then it wouldn't be prevalent!
2007-10-24 09:35:51
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answered by me4tennessee 6
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Because going by A=B and B=C then A=C, if women love men and men love women, then women actually love women and divorce is a given.
2007-10-24 09:35:46
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answered by suspendedagain300 6
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enable me attempt by utilizing the Atomic theory. we've a operating theory the following that we gained't see. we may be able to seem on the schematics of it and say that it fairly works experimentally because it does theoretically. So, we've created this seen variety that works, yet we gained't see it. hence, we in simple terms trust that it is what it appears that evidently like. Now.... enable's seem outdoors and spot all it truly is round us. Did no longer some thing change into some thing then blow up and turn into each and everything (all by twist of destiny) OR did an all-powerful being create each and everything out of no longer some thing. once you ruin down both theories to their center i can see how they both can seem ridiculous. although, even as i look into what technological knowledge has to assert about the guidelines of the Universe and the layout of guy, i can no longer help yet trust that there is a Lawgiver and fashion designer. If it appears that evidently designed, it likely is. So, i guess the best judgment of it is even if you could seem at each and every of the pieces in this international and finish wether or no longer you imagine it appears that evidently designed. in case you imagine it does, then the subsequent question is who/what designed it. hence, creation signifies that there is a author. Now, who or what designed it? I say it truly is God. Why? because we've this particular revelation by his observe that has been chanced on to be fairly precise traditionally and in it really is prophecies that were fulfilled. even as this e book has set the classic for historic accuracy, each and every of the info contained in the international can't wiegh adverse to the middle of what's interior. The second element that "proves" God is our moral sense. Why is it that someone that lives in a much off jungle in Columbia is conscious that it truly is incorrect to lie, thieve, or commit homicide? because God stated that He ought to position His guidelines on our hearts. all of us stand in violation of His guidelines even if we matter on Him or no longer or maybe if we assume of His guidelines are honest or no longer. Our consciences let us know that we are in charge and are in go with of a savior in the different case we will be punished for violating those guidelines. Now, the question will change into what do you want more suitable, your sin OR God, who presented a fashion to dodge out of your sin?
2016-10-22 22:56:05
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answered by Anonymous
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No you are leaving out too many variables.
Men love women---A=B, because they have charm=D, sweetness=E, Lust=F
Women love men---B=C, because they are strong=G, because they are creative=H, because they have big.....muscles=K
And these are just a few of the many many many variables in relationships that can balanced, unbalanced, and ever changing. Unlike mathematics, love and life are neither logical nor reasonable, they simply ARE!
2007-10-24 09:39:42
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answered by Rebecca W 7
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Because in today's culture people don't want to work for anything, money, relationships etc. So when things get tough they immediately look to jump to the next thing, thinking the grass in greener. It's a right now culture and long term relationships take effort and work, and sacrifice. It's that effort and sacrifice that flies directly in the face of our culture.
2007-10-24 09:39:13
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answered by Bull in a china shop 2
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Love, Lust, Relationships...
To many factors and the variables are infinite. It can't be calculated. The human soul does not come with instructions or a blueprint and cannot be successfully programmed.
2007-10-24 09:39:19
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answered by Gary1 2
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