How can i overcome my extrasensitive nature?

Question

I am too much extra sensitive and cannot truly express my feelings to anyone,and when some guesses me truly he/she praises me a lot and tells me that i am the beautiful person in this world,but i am always unable to express myself.i also get very hurted when someone does not behave nicely with me.Sometimes i decide not to talk to anyone as i have got fed up with everyone.Am i truly extra sensitive ?????
if not then what sort of guy am i..

Answer 1

Yes, you are extra-sensitive... though I think a better term is oversensitive.

In my experience (as an oversensitive girl) that's not always a bad thing. I think our senses and perceptions are heightened... far more than other peoples. This can be good and bad.

The good is that you are more sensitive and empathetic towards others... you've got a big heart. The bad is that you get hurt too easily and you know that and so you put up a wall to protect yourself and your feelings.

However life is all about balance. You have to make a conscience effort to take things in stride. Not everybody is as sensitive as you, not everybody is as thoughtful or empathetic... And we have to learn to accept and deal with that. You can't just keep your guard up all the time and not let people in just because you're afraid of having your feelings hurt. It's hard though, I understand and can totally relate.

I've found that I slowly had to build a tougher exterior - and try not to wear my heart on my sleeve. I don't want people walking all over me and calling me a cry-baby... that's not how I want to live the rest of my life. I do keep my guard up a bit... but have learned to let people in... and when they bother me or hurt my feelings I think about it and ask myself is this really a big deal? If it's not, then I let it go (which can be hard at times)... but if it is a big deal then I don't wait, I let whoever it is that hurt me know that they hurt me. The trick is to not whine or cry about it. You have to work on keeping your composure.

Your core beautiful person will never change, nor should it... but you can take steps to change your exterior a little bit just enough to grow a tougher skin. Don't sweat the small stuff!!

Answer 2

You my dear friend want everyone to like you, stranger or friend, and will do what ever you can so they will think kindly of you. The bad part about all this is some people can hone in on eople like us, and end up taking advantage of you. You also have to learn to open your mouth, and say what you feel. You don't have to be rude or hurtful, but you can express what you feel. Rehearse to a mirror for a few days, then go for it.

Answer 3

You're just like me! My stepmother once told me that my one flaw was that my heart was too big. I can't stand seeing anyone suffer, friend or stranger. I've given out money to complete strangers because they need a dollar for a drink or something, and though everyone I know takes advantage of me, I just can't help but want to help everyone out!
I don't think you should really change, just don't let people walk all over you like they do me!

Answer 4

wow i am just like you, but the girl version. i feel so fake cause idk if what im saying would offend anyone or idk make them not like me, so i end up not saying anything at all and thats annoying to everyone i guess.i dont think its extra sensitive, its just like idk trying to protect your life and feelings, but sometimes we just need to take risks. idk if like you are like me then idk email me anytime if you need to talk or anything cause i have that problem too, but its bad to keep it all bottled up, i learned the hard way.
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