Problem in family?

Question

Please help me ,i donno what to do my father is cheating on my mom and she knows it they talked aout it she cryes every day . But she doesn't want to revorse because of me they don't know that i know about that. I would like to live like happy family again but i don't know what to do !

Answer 1

Im sorry you are faced with this. I know how it feels. I also know of my father's indiscretions and had to watch my mom cry. There is nothing that you can really do, except for pray and encourage your mom that's it's going to be okay. Don't feel guilty. Your mom's tears show that she is hurt by your father and is not just staying because of you. That is often a cop out. If you have a good relationship with your father, you may want to tell him that you expected more out of him as an example and that you need him to make the right decision. He will take your word to heart over your mom's tears right now, if you have a good relationship. He doesn't realize that his actions are affecting more than your mom. He needs to realize this. Best wishes.

Answer 2

I know what you mean and there's not much you can do about love. But if it bothers you that much then talk to your parents and tell them how you're feeling. You know how they say that children would rather come from a broken home then live in one, and I personally think that is so true. I really never had the guts to tell my parents how I felt (i don't @home) but I talk to my lil brother & sis and they feel the same way. We fianally told my that once because I don't want my little brother & sis to feel like I was feeling back then. It helped a bit because now they don't fight as much so maybe you you should give it try. Good luck

Answer 3

I know what you are going thru because I went thru it with my parents.You can let your parents know that you know what's going on but ultimately is up to them to solve the situation.Your mom can choose to forgive him but it is not an easy thing to do and it takes a long time.Your dad can choose to stop being unfaithful,but it is not easy to do if he doesn't have a strong love for your mom.Please know that this has nothing to do with the love he feels for you,I know it seems that if he loved you he wouldn't be doing this,but the truth is that romantic love -the one between a man and a woman-can be over for many different reasons,but the love your parents feel for you is eternal,nothing changes it.I told my parents that I knew,they chose to stay together but it wasn't a happy marriage and when we grew up they went their separate ways.Now that I am old I understand much better the ways of men and women and so will you.I wish you the best.

Answer 4

There is not anything that you can do about it. I would tell your mom when the two of you are alone that you know. Tell her how you know and that you know that she cries. I would also tell her that if she wants a divorce do not stay married for you. That is not helping anyone. Tell her that you want her to be happy and she needs to do what will make that happen. You do not say how old you are or what the relationship is like with you and your mother. My kids would just tell me. Good luck son.

Answer 5

I am so sorry you are going through this. Its very painful for every one. I would tell your dad what you know and how you really feel. Your dad has alot of work to do if he is going to regain your mothers trust again. Honestly its the hardest thing to get past in a marriage . Counceling may help them.
I was cheated on and he choose the other woman. So I understand your mother. If she leaves your dad please do not think it was anything to do with you. I hoped this helped and if there is anything I can do to help contact me.

Answer 6

Maybe you should let them know that you know. It could open up the lines of communication. You could suggest that it would help you for everyone to go see a family counselor.

Keep in mind that it isn't your responsibility to fix their relationship, but if you don't speak up the situation will continue to eat you up and will affect you in all kinds of ways. In doing this you are taking steps to claim your happiness. I'm sure the last thing your parents want is for their troubles to burden you - as they shouldn't. You deserve to be happy!

Answer 7

Unfortunately this isn't something you can do anything about. I know you must feel really powerless, that the reality is that your parents needs to take time to work out these issues in their marriage. The best thing you can do is not take sides, and do well in school. You don't want to cause additional stress on top of their overwhelming problems.

Answer 8

You should be honest and let your mom know that she will be okay...You will be surprise on how reaction....It's a hard thing but, the best way to get thorugh is day by day and together...Your dad on the otherhand will regret hurting both you and your mom by doing this....Theres always guilt when doing bad....She needs to know you are fine and I guess that is whats most important to her....Once she feels that she will start to see things different...I truly wish your family all the best....

Answer 9

What is best? Your mom being miserable with your dad, or them finding someone else to be happy with. Tell them you know, and tell them what you think. Be honest. Stand tall, and face the situation. What would you feel comfortable with? How would it affect your life? You will find the answers.

Answer 10

you need to let your parents go thru the emotions and complications of the problem that your dad got into. Its natural for mother to cry everyday because it is very hurtful news and you have to let them find a solution. Just be brave and hold on, im sorry that your dad made a bad choice. best of luck!

Hopefully your mother moves on and finds a better life for you and her.