My husband always try to make me agree for swapping with his best friend. I have doubt either it would ruin our relationship or make it stron? We love too much each other and our maried life is happy. He told me to agree for just a thrill and fun in life. If anybody has experience please guide me.
2007-10-24 09:03:08 · 11 answers · asked by asd l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you believe in your marriage and you say you both are happy then you do not want to bring in a third or fourth party into your marriage. Hey, try role playing, go to different romantic places and pretend that you both are someone else and are meeting for the first time. Use your imagination and have fun. I can tell that you do not agree with this swapping stuff, so think of alternatives and present it to your husband. I think you are asking for trouble if you agree with the swapping.
2007-10-24 09:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nettajay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is how do you feel about it? How would you feel getting into bed with your husbands best friend? Things would never be the same again. It could be devastating if your husband later got jealous or felt somehow threatened. He could lose his friendship and you two could end up losing your sense of intimate trust for each other. I think for most people it's a bad idea and I would say from the way you asked the question so hesitantly, it is most definitely a bad idea for you.
2007-10-24 09:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his love for you was so strong, he wouldn't keep trying to pressure you into something you're apparently not all that excited about.
Don't do it. Unless you are also interested in being with others sexually, and your marriage is 100% jealousy and insecurity free, and the two of you set boundaries and agree that if either of you isn't happy with swapping (swinging) that you'll quit immediately with no pressure or issues about it....otherwise, it can be a recipe for disaster.
2007-10-24 09:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no personal experience with this, HOWEVER, I did know several couples who tried this and each one of their marriages was ruined. Be warned, this is not for the faint of heart and certainly not for people who actually care about their spouse,
2007-10-24 09:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lori E 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no,m it is only going to make you feel dirty afterwards. Your husband is being selfish and he is just looking for an excuse to be with someone else. Don't agree to do something which you don't feel confortable doing, especially when it has moral implications that you don't agree with.
2007-10-24 09:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Horrific..Terrible..Insane...Morbid...Self Defeating..and incredably stupid idea. You will never look at each other the same way afterwards! I promise you won't!!
Perhaps the hubby already got a head start and wants you to join in.....Don't Do It...You will hate yourself FOREVER!!!
2007-10-24 09:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by riverrat15666 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It usually means he fancies the other guys wife, and doesn't mind giving away his in exchange.....
Morals aside-- I wouldn't have sex with someone unless I wanted to..and certainly not as an exchange for someone else....
2007-10-24 09:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband wants to have his cake and eat it too
2007-10-24 09:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes not happy sexually
2007-10-24 09:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Starfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR HUSBAND IS A ****'N MORMON.
THERE FOR YOUR IN A DOOMED REALTIONSHIP ANYWAY
2007-10-24 09:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋