he has been trying to get me pregnant for the past 4 months now and it doesn't seem to be working but honestly im glad cuz im only 19 and i already have a baby and i dont' want to tell him to stop trying cuz i dont want to hurt his feelingsi love him and do want another baby but not right now or any time soon but he does and he gets all happy and excited of the thought about us having a baby together.....what should i do? oh also we do have a lot of problems right now and we fight alot which is not good and i think his sperm count is down due to the stupid things he does such as puff puff pass....if you kno what i mean....i dunno guys help me out please!
2007-10-24 08:48:50 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and yes i did like to be pregnant i loved it but i went thru my 1st pregnancy alone and im just afraid of the same thing again i couldn't handle my heart broken a second time and a 2nd child to be affected....
2007-10-24 09:01:00 · update #1
but i have to add that i am on the pill but i did get pregnant the first time while i was on the pill and so did my sister which is currently pregnant
2007-10-24 09:09:38 · update #2
also yes we do have problems but even then we do love eachother with all our strength and yes we have talked about marriage im just waiting for him to pop the question
2007-10-24 10:28:41 · update #3
I completely understand your situation however you need to be grown up enough to tell your boyfriend you want to wait. The health effects on your body on top of the fact you already have a baby can lead to numerous problems for you ahead. I had one at 18 and the second at 19 and that was ten years ago.......I have two healthy great kids but the relationship didn't work it is my chidlren who have paid the price. Yes we were married, and yes he wanted another one and I thought I should do it because he wanted it and i didn't want to hurt his feelings to........it only ended up creating another unique human being who was hurt in having to grow up with her mother and father instead of just in front of them. I don't regret her for a second but while you are in a position to wait do whatever you need to make sure you do.....you tons of time to make plenty of babies! It is you who much carry the child and if he doesn't love you enough to accept you want to hold off for a little while then that's the first sign right there that chances are things are as great as they may seem. Good luck and you have every right to wait......never have a child for any ONE person it's suppose to be what two people want if your not fair to yourself tell him you want to wait to be fair to the child......
2007-10-24 08:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by blondandsmart79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop having sex and take a break from the relationship to see if you can work things out before you have a baby. Bringing a child into the world because you don't want to hurt someones feelings is insane. If you are having second thoughts about having another child right now, DON'T DO IT. It sounds to me like you are having second thoughts about the whole relationship. As far as his sperm count being down, I've known several potheads who got their girlfriends pregnant, so I wouldn't count on that keeping you from getting pregnant. If you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex or at least use birth control. The two of you need to sit down and have a long talk. If he really wants to have a child with you, you should get married first and then when you are financially able you can consider children.
2007-10-24 08:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want a baby so badly? Does he realize the amount of responsibility it takes? Unfortunately, "smoking" doesn't decrease spem count b/c my friend's loser-a** husband tokes up all the time and he's got 2 kids.
Tell him the truth. As much as you may love him, you do not need the problems that go along with a child. Besides, if he is doing drugs and you guys are fighting, what if he leaves in a few months - abadoning you and the baby?
Relationships may end, but being a parent is a much harder thing to end.
2007-10-24 08:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship isn't good now, having a child won't help. It will make it 10 times worse!!
When we had our twins, Andrew & I barely spoke let alone have a relationship. It took us 6 months to get back on track, and we had an extremely strong relationship.
If your not ready for a baby, tell him. You don't want to bring a baby into the world around "puff puff pass" anyway.
2007-10-24 08:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound so immature...if you honestly think you can have an amazing future and not end up in a trailer park with some one who "puff puff pass" you are delusional OR have been hit upside your head when you were a baby.
I'm sorry, but don't you want something better for your self and your baby?? it's ok to love him because you can't change your feelings but just don't rush things and be smart about everything.
2007-10-24 11:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by ☆ღღ☆ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first things first--you and your sister both need to take those pills EVERY night, do not skip a dose--ever.
Second, you don't want him to stop trying to get you pregnant because you don't want to hurt his feelings? Did I read that right?? You cannot be serious. Not to mention you're trying to have a child with somebody who you don't even get along with PLUS they are a drug user? You both need some professional help.
2007-10-24 09:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about "hurting his feelings". If you don't want a child, then there is no reason for you to have one. Just explain to him that you already have one, you are still young, and you are just not ready for another. If he loves you, he will stick around for you to have a baby later on.
Plus, he needs to focus on his obvious drug issues. A child does not need to be born to someone who is a drug addict. (I don't care if some of you say "It's just pot". If you smoke pot, you are a DRUG ADDICT) He needs to get into counseling or do what he has to do to work on himself before bringing a child into the world.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 09:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him your only 19 i know your not married and you should be thinking about the first baby and your life ahead of you you need a great job to support kids you should worry about college
2007-10-24 09:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him that you not ready for another baby. I had talk with my boyfriend that he wanted to have a baby in a year after dating. I told him that I might be not ready. I have two children already and my youngest is three and would be jealous and I don't want to lose that special bond we have now. I told him I would want to be married first. And he understand that. Talk with him.
2007-10-24 08:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Proud mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it takes 2 to have a baby. If he doesn't wear a condom dont have sex. You shouldn't have 2 babies when your 19. If your fighting its not a good time to have a baby.
2007-10-24 08:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋