Why do people feel that cheating on your significant other is one of the worst things a person can do?

Question

People on here seem to get all high and mighty on their moral soap box regarding this issue. Why can’t a cheater ever be forgiven? Isn’t a person allowed to make a mistake? Aren’t there worse things in the world a person can do?

Answer 1

Forgiven, yes. Trust is broken though. My husband cheated on me and broke my heart. He did it and would not stop. So I left him. Once you devote yourself to someone and committ to that one person, they should be your world. No one else should be let in.
How would you feel if she did it to you?

Answer 2

Yes I believe cheaters can be forgiven! People always say once a cheat always a cheat! But they forget that we are human and we are going to always make mistakes. I think if you cheat on your other over and over, then forgiving isnt an option anymore. But cheating once I think, if the relationship is worth saving, deserves some forgiveness. Even though it will still take a long time to gain that trust back, if it even comes back at all...

But if you are married, then thats different. Because you took the vows and swore in front of God to never cheat...in that case, its very wrong and could destroy the marriage!

Answer 3

Because you endanger a persons life...look at all the STD'S out there. You believe in that person to love you and protect you and when they don't you can't trust them. What starts out as a sexual thing can lead into emotions with someone else and then you hurt that person because their emotions are involved with you.If people want to have sex with anyone and anybody they should not get married or stay in long term relatioships and allow them to believe you are faithful. When you are cheated on and betrayed on by someone you love forgiving them does not mean that you will ever forget it. It only means that you will try to learn how to live with it and work on putting it somewhere in the back of your mind........and that is only if the cheater is truly remorseful and sorry and never repeats the act ever again.

Answer 4

You say aren't there worse things that can be done, but that's really like a cop out statement. You can say that about damn near every situation out there.
I think people look down on cheating so much because normally its a moral issue. People will always have different and sometimes weird morals from one another. Also with marriage it gets into the whole "sin" thing. And lastly most people have been cheated on and they are still dealing with the hurt. Cheating touches on some very sore spots for people. Just like discussing religion or politics.

Answer 5

Its not about high and mighty. and YES there is the moral issue. VOWS are said before those invited to witness and most importantly God. We all make mistakes and need to be forgiven- it starts with each other not the multitudes. As for the last question Yes there are far worse things that a person could and can do.

Answer 6

This question hits close to home because I have been the cheater and the cheated. There are some people on here that believe that you can never have a normal relationship with a person that has cheated on you. For me, this is not true. I think that really depends on the couple and where they are spiritually and all that. Having a relationship with Christ made a big difference in how we handled things in the end. Nobody is perfect, even Chiristians. Cheating is not always a premeditated thing. Sometimes it just happens. But it is usually because the person has made themselves vulnerable to this and their curiosity had been kindled. For me, having a relationship with God kept me from cheating again and when I stopped doing those things that I needed to do to stay kept, I let my mind wonder and things almost got out of hand. Sometimes it is something wrong in the relationship but sometimes it can just be the way a person is because of past hurts or something else. There is a root to it when someone just keeps doing it. Until they find out what that root is and the answer to how to stop(which for me was getting saved) then it will continue to happen. No one is exempt from temptation, it's what you do with it that counts.
As for forgiving and forgetting, you never forget but you can choose to move past it or to hold on to it. To hold on to it might build bitterness inside of you. To move past it is not easy but it is doable. It just depends on you and your spouse or significant other. Someone mentioned something about sin. If you are talking about sin , then just having sex without being married is also a sin as well as adultery(according to the bible). And, depending on what you have invested in a relationship, whether married or not, it still feels just as bad. As for trust being broken, it has to be earned back but that still depends on the person that was cheated on. How far are you willing to go for that person? Are you willing to sacrifice your feelings for that person? Is your love that you have for each other and what you have invested in your relationship worth trying for? Everyone has their opinion, but ultimately it is left up to the person that was cheated on if they will choose to try to move past it. And, of course, the cheater has to truly change and never do it again. That doesn't mean that it won't be temptations. But how will it be handled? Sorry for the long answer.

Answer 7

Cheating betrays another person's trust so bad that it'll hurt her so bad it affects her self esteem.
Cheater can only be forgiven but his or her mistake is just so hard to forget.
All persons are prone to make mistakes nobody is perfect but they are not allowed to intentionally do it, especially if they are matured or sane enough to know that it was wrong or it is a mistake.
There are far worse things in this world that a person can do like killing, be on drugs, intentionally wreck a marriage, incest, etc.
But you know, cheating is just SO BAD because you'll hurt people who loves you....
Its just so unbearable with the ones who was cheated on and the cheaters...

Answer 8

They can be forgiven.

I don't believe that cheating is the fault of one person. Yes the cheater has done something irrevocably wrong, but if the person cheated on didn't see it coming, there is probably something wrong with the relationship anyway. And if he/she did see it coming and didn't do anything about it, that's just taking things for granted.

That said, being cheated on is painful beyond words and people are hard on cheaters because they have broken vows, trust and more.

Answer 9

Cheating can be forgiven, but TRUST is never replaced. Once a person has cheated on you, the relationship will never ever go anywhere b/c there is no trust. It will always be in the back of the other persons mind. Also, there was a reason you cheated on the person in the first place. They weren't making you happy then and things wont change..it'll just happen agian. Proven fact.

Answer 10

Anybody can be forgiven. Murder is worse than cheating. The problem with cheating on someone is a matter of trust.

Trust, respect and love all go together. If you do not trust your significant other, how could you love them. That is why we get all High and Mighty when it comes to cheating, It is a violation of trust, respect and love.

Answer 11

For me, it's not about forgiving. It would be about how I could never forget. Both of my Mom's husbands cheated on her, and that was the end of those relationships. She told us she just couldn't stay married to someone she could never trust again. I imagine I would feel the same way. If my husband did that, I'd never want him to touch me again, so what's the point of staying married?

People can make mistakes, and there may be worse things they can do, but everyone has a limit. And for some, they just cannot move past cheating. I know I couldn't.

I'm so glad my husband isn't an idiot.