I met my hubby in high school, we were married a few months after graduation. It has always been rocky with us, he has moved out its over, by the way not the first time he has left. I need to get on with my life but dont know how. I am 33 years old and single for the first time in my life. I'm feeling lost. How long before I should consider dating? or at all . I want to move on I am done with this man.
I dont work,I am on disability, and have a small group of shared friends. Any advise would be helpful. Thank you.
2007-10-24 08:37:02 · 14 answers · asked by Goawayandstaythere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to a new chuch and start looking for unmarried men.
2007-10-24 08:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your predicament.
What's one thing you've always wanted to do? Now's the time to do it no matter how outrageous it seems.
No one can tell you when you're ready to date, you'll know when the time comes. It might be soon, it might take a while, but the time will come. Don't expect to forget about your past, just know that it's part of who you are and try to take baby steps to move towards more positive things - even if it's having a meal out alone.
Try to find a job as well. Having something to do won't take your troubles away, but it'll help you feel more empowered and you'll meet more people. It's going to be hard making new friends at first, but things will start to flow after a while. As for your small group of shared friends, they are still your friends. Speak to someone you feel secure and close to. They know you better than I do and will probably be able to help.
Remember, don't rush it. Don't be hasten by 'getting over him', give yourself time. There's nothing wrong with grieving over a failed relationship.
2007-10-24 16:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my now ex left me for a 27 year co-worker 3 weeks ago, its bben a rock 61/2 year relationship i am 47 he is 42. I can feel your pain. It is so hard for me to be alone, and it is not easy to find someone else, eventhough people tell you to. I think you need a little more time to find yourself, like me i have never bben alone, there was always someone there for me. It sucks . I am at the point where i try to take it day by day, because if i start tinking off all this BS I lose my mind. People tell me its not that bad to be alone, you have a new life to live, no one to answer to, don't have to be home at a certain time, and don't have to put up with his s....
Try to stay focused on you only you do good things for you and keep your head up high, you in the best time of your life.
sending my love.
2007-10-24 15:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even think about dating GIRL you're 33 years old and you got freedom!!! You should be celebrating.... Take it a day at a time and just breath..
Plan a trip to somewhere you've always wanted to go and do it.. Do things out of the ordinary and spontaneous... Those are always fun and less depressing!!! haha..... All I can say is enjoy your life and whatever comes let it come.. Go with the flow... you're still young... Best of Luck!!!
2007-10-24 15:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by O' wai kou inoa? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, 33 is the best age for a woman. she should have some brains already and still hs her youth and beauty. u can manipulate those guys as there is no tomorrow. just should get little experience first. i would suggets u start from chatting on internet. that will give u at least some experience how to lead a conversation and how are men out there (usually it goes 20 shi't''t'y ones for one at least all right). then u might start dating. do not put lots of hopes - u need to load a mountain of s'h'i't' till u find that pearl. we all have done it ( at least i did). but believe in yourself and u will find him. also i would suggest start visiting gym regularly - gives u high self esteem and boosts your energy. good luck
2007-10-24 15:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not start dating until you have healed your old wounds. Take time getting comfortable with yourself and learning how to love yourself again.
My advise is to attend at least several months of meetings at a group for divorced people. Try local churches for information on such groups. There you will learn how to heal and moved on.
But no matter what you do, you need to always keep the needs of your children as the highest priority.
Good luck. I will pray for you all.
2007-10-24 15:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know most woman think if they date they will get over the other guy quicker but it usually docent work out that way. most of the time they end up making really wrong choices. i say take it slow you will find someone out there. it all depends on you now do you really want a hardcore relationship now? or do you just want to seriously date a guy. i think you should take it slow and see whats out there don't be in a hurry that's how most ladies end getting into trouble. Send me some pics and i will give you a real opinion on what your chances are. good luck.
2007-10-24 16:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Paul H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get up and out, but I'm not sure you should start dating. You need to get your feet on the ground and become self sufficient in all area's of your life.
Find a support group that isn't all about hating men. There are some great groups out there where the people in them are just about generating support and friendship.
2007-10-24 15:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to not worry about the time frame for dating. Find a new hobby or persue an old one that you've always wanted to do. Find your "self". You've been part of a couple for your entire adult life. Who are you individually? When you know the answer to that question, you'll know when you are ready to date.
2007-10-24 15:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get up, get the make -up on , the hair fixed and live girl live!!!
Its time to feel what life is all about. Dont get down and upset or you will miss out on the happy that today may bring.
2007-10-24 15:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋