really care about it now nor do I but I think it will do you good to get off your chest.
2007-10-24 08:09:37 · 7 answers · asked by brady m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She wanted to kill me and had to be locked up in a mental ward until they got her on the right meds.
I just couldn't trust her after that. I couldn't sleep knowing that if her meds didn't work I would be dead. No one is worth that risk. It's like giving a blind monkey a loaded gun and hoping that he won't kill you with it.
2007-10-24 08:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our marriage broke up due to the fact that she fell in love with another guy from her work. I don't blame her though, as I feel that I drove her to it. I was working a hard physical job, doing 16 hour days, and just didn't have anything left for her when I came home from work. Her reason for leaving (she didn't tell me the truth about the other man until much later) was that I never made her feel special.
2007-10-24 17:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dale M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my first wife was German and she didn't like the states so she went back to Germany. She wanted me to move back with her but because she just up and left I didn't trust her anymore so we seperated on good terms. No so bad.
My second wife well she was a patholigical liar, gambler and thief. On top of that she did some time in county jail and yet my dumb *** thinking I could change somes life for the better and trying to convience her that she didn't have to be the way she was and that she could change married the woman and ended up in even more crap that I in a million years would have accepted. It went on because she couldn't keep a job, she complained about everything and she was and still is very selfish and thinks only of herself. I actually was going to stay in the relationship for her three kids but lucky for me she ran to GA and lives with her sister and dates her myspace boyfriend that she sees in FL every weekend. Now she's his problem and I'm very happy about that. My life got better once she left. Even with every thing negative that she left me. She never really cared she was just along for the ride to see what she could destroy and then she moved on. The story of her life. I thought I would be broken hearted about it but not even close. She never did anything positive and I never trusted her. I can honestly say I never enjoyed the time I spent with her. Not saying she was just down right rotten but she had nothing to offer me and I always found myself wondering what I did wrong and how can I make her happy on top of me dealing with her bad check writing, stealing money from me her mom and friends, drinking, destroying the house, her being confused about what she wanted, no goals, no plans no nothing.
Life now is good. I'm happy, I have great friends and I will never find myself in that situation ever again. The END!
2007-10-24 15:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked me this question 9 months ago, I would have a hundred reasons and all of them pointing at her. However, today I see my part in the whole scheme of things. I was self-centered and full of fear. I was so focused on her character defects that I wasn't willing to look at myself. I didn't want to look at myself because if I did, I wouldn't have liked what I saw. We have been divorced 8 years and with 2 children. Our relationship is much better now than ever before. Sure we still have our problems but I worry and take care of mine only.
2007-10-24 15:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by HDizaye 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a comment since not a guy or divorced, just thought it was an interested question and had to commend HD on his observation. Sometimes it takes stepping away to see the true impact we have on ourselves and each other. I am glad it worked out in the end as far as having a solid relationship for your children.
2007-10-24 15:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brownie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's marriage with his ex ended because they both cheated. The marriage was doomed from the start-
In the beginning my husband had been with his ex for a while and just figured it was "what he was supposed to do". There weren't any real problems holding him back, but the love that should be there wasn't. He is from a small town and kind of saw marrying her as his way out of there.
They married and he was working 2 jobs and putting her through school, then she finished school and got pregnant, so still not working. She started spending like crazy and got them into $17,000 of debt. - probably because that's how she was coping with having to be at home alone with the kids all the time b/c he had to work 2 jobs (i.e.- both of their fault)
Then they started to fight a lot because neither of them were really happy and they were both drinking a lot. My husband cheated on her (not with me, with a women he worked with), his ex took him back they were happy for a few months until she started working as a teacher and cheated on him with the football coach.
He has admitted that he cheated because he figured it was his way out- not that it makes cheating right, that's just how it was. She cheated because it was her way of getting revenge on him for cheating.
The moral to this story is- don't settle, even if it takes you until you're 60 years old...don't settle!
2007-10-24 15:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have told you the night I left her: I was sick and tired of the boy friends so I throe me out of the house: It made more sense than frighting to keep her.
2007-10-24 15:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋