We broke up, and now he's selling weed again...nd skipping class...nd got suspended for fighting...i ask him why and he says i was the only thingh keeping him from doin g that and now there's no one...♥♥♥
2007-10-24 08:05:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Seems like he just doesn't want to take responsability for his own life.
Unless you're holding a gun to his he making him do these things they aren't your fault.
2007-10-24 13:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, It's not your fault that your ex is doing bad. Your ex needs to learn to stand on his own two feet. To have to depend on someone else just so that you don't start doing the things you use to is absurd. That's just an excuse for him. He doesn't want to grow up and take responsibilty. Your ex needs to learn that the closest people to you are not always going to be around. You were just a crutch for him. Don't go blaming yourself for anybody else's life. He's a man that's capable of doing the right thing. He knows right from wrong. If he doesn't do good it's because he isn't making an effort to do better. Move on with your own life. He wants a pity party. He'll be ok without you.
2007-10-24 15:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer. NOPE... not your fault. We're all responsible for ourselves. If he wants to sling and skip class that's on him. He's self-distructive and he's trying to guilt you.
He really doesn't sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer, and it sounds like you know it. Use this experience to learn how to tell a good catch from a bad catch, and distance yourself from him & quick. You can do better... and we all know it's hard to move past old relationships, but the sooner you do it the easier it will be. Just try not to be distracted from doing whats best for you as he squirms and throws fits while you do what's in your best interest... because he sounds like the kind of dude that will go to some crazy lengths when he doesn't get what he wants. Good luck girl...
2007-10-24 15:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by blujello 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Babygirl... you 2 broke up for a reason. Keep it in mind. If he's gonna go straight to this bad ****, that is HIS decision. At worst, he just feel apart and is doign this to deal... whatever, it's not your problem hun. At way worst- he's doing this to make you be with him again. DO NOT FALL FOR IT. It's his way of trying to control you... you do NOT need a guy like that.
When I was 19, I broke up with a guy I was only with for 2 months. He took it hard and his friends would come tell me how bad he was doign adn try adn talk me into hookin up with him again. On teh otherhand, his siter was tryin to fight me cuz he had fell into this depression. but you know what? As bad as I felt, as heartless as I knew I looked, we just were NOT working out, that's all there was to it. I could ahve been with him agian and he'd have been happy, but what about me? it really wasn't fair that they were all asking me to be so unhappy again just for his sake. it would have been nice, but we weren't going int eh same direction and I would've been pregnant, cooking him bacon or some **** when he came home from his dead-end job by now. I didnt want that and I had to back off from him.
YOUR future is what you need to worry about, not his... cuz you KNOW where he's gonna end up a the rate he's going and it is NOT your fault. Tell his family and a councellor, let them worry about him. It's the only thing you can do if you really care about his well being.
2007-10-24 15:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by talonz_lady02 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't accept the blame for his behavior. No sweet girl, this is not your fault. You had a reason for breaking up with him. It's good to know that you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-10-24 15:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's what Eric Clapton told Patty Boyd.She married him,but he never changed.You can't change a person,they have to do it for themselves.Been there,done that.Don't waste your precious young years,he'll find another enabler.Good luck.
2007-10-24 15:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My ex tried the same **** with me too after we broke up, only he kept pretending to be sick and in pain. Well its been almost 3 years since I left his punkish *** and he hasn't dropped down dead yet so he couldn't have been that sick.
I'll never go back to that loser!
2007-10-24 15:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by PreciousBabyGirlHasArrived 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to make you feel guilty so you will take him back. Don't do it girl!! You can do better then him. Everybody is responsible for their own actions and when they do something wrong they always want to blame it on somebody else, please move on and forget about him.
2007-10-24 15:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by tn2vegas 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no no no that's a mind game don't fall for that.
he has to want to do good for himself not you.
don't let him bring you down or make you feel bad.and if he was the reason you two broke up then keep it moving.
2007-10-24 15:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by cyrontae1110 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no chica is isnt ur faulf he usin u as a ecxuse. he trynna make u feel bad so u will go back out wit him. dont worry about him. its not ur fault
2007-10-24 15:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ZHANEL♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋