2007-10-24 08:03:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont' know, but I find it offensive. It bugs me to no end when I have my son or my wife is gone and people say, "Oh are you babysitting?" I am not babysitting my own child, thank you very much, and as it so happens I love my son as much as my wife does.
And as far as the whole I went through labor and pregnancy, etc. argument, sorry but there would be no baby without the man. So get over yourself.
2007-10-24 08:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Yogi 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
"only THEIR concern" meaning what? Meaning the father has no business in making any decisions? If that's the case, it's because they aren't really women, just selfish, spoiled brats. Unless the father is a piece of garbage who isn't in the kids' lives.
Or do you mean like they pretty much insult you when you hold their kids? I no longer hold people's babies(other than a VERY SELECT few), because I got tired of being insulted like I don't know how to care for them. If that's what you mean, I don't know why they do that. I have only had that happen with mothers, not fathers. I don't know why that is.
Or do you mean the type who thinks their kids are well behaved, and the neighbors tell them what their kids are doing, and they tell the neighbors,"My child wouldn't do that. My kid knows better"? If that's what you mean, it's because the mothers are naive, or they just plain don't give a rip what their kids do.
I do agree with what one father wrote. They do suffer through pregnancy and labor as much as the women do. I survived two months of living with a pregnant roommate, so I can empathize with dads. She was grouchy as could be, jumped on my hind end for everything, and after two months, I told her I could no longer stand it, and she didn't have the right to be that mean. She said it was because she was pregnant, so I told her it's not my fault she got pregnant, and she could just walk away when she started getting grouchy, but no, never happened. Yes, women who are pregnant have hormonal swings, but so do women having pms, and no one lets them off the hook.
2007-10-24 08:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because of the fact that we carry a child for almost ten months and sorry to say but most times, not saying all, but most times women are the ones that end up raising the child when the dad decides to just up and leave.
2007-10-24 08:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Despite potential protests, our relationship work experience has shown the following...
Many "mothers" are simply "wives" who's needs are not properly met by their husbands. It is our nature to have our personal and primary needs met.
When many wive's needs are unmet, they need the security and attention, and emtional support and neediness that comes from children, who constantly need.
You will find that the ratio is staggering on mothers calling the children "my" over husbands calling the children "my". The need is much higher for woman (in general) to have the social connection, and when the husband does not give that, they will either seek that in friendships or children.
While it is not from a hurtful motivation in most cases, it does bring to it, more complex problems that only continue the cycle of distance in the marraige and relationship.
=)
2007-10-24 08:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because when push comes to shove no one will fight for a child like it's Mother....that is nature, as it is intended to be. A Mothers instinct is different to a Fathers....I am not saying that Dad's love their Kids any less.....but they do not have the annimal spark inside them that women have when it comes to their offspring. Also, women are the ones who carry the child inside themselves....that counts for an awful lot.
2007-10-24 08:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Probably because some men reinforce the perception by not being as active in their parenting as we are.
Have you ever noticed that when a woman has her children alone it's called parenting, but when a man has his children alone it's called babysitting??
2007-10-24 08:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know this is not right but some women think that this will hurt the father and they can get back at their baby's father this way.. I think this is unfair as the child is theirs too
2007-10-24 08:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You would have to ask one of those women why. It doesn't make sense to me. People can't be possessions.
2007-10-24 08:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Because they went through labor to have them, and the kid is part of their body and life.
2007-10-24 08:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by zipper 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Because we are terratorial our kids are our kids and you did not suffer to have them we live for them they are part of us they grew form us.
2007-10-24 08:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋