Monday I had some health problems, my blood pressure was too high. Stress, those things. I had to stay in the hospital for some hours. Then I got better and yesterday I went to my office normally.
By 3 pm, in the middle of an important meeting, my daughter called me on my cell phone and said Dad, how are you? Are you OK? Do you need something?
She's not supposed to call me in my office, so I was somewhat cold and bitter, said a "Can't talk with you now!"
She got kinda hurt, I think this thing will take decades, maybe centuries, to heal, though she's a good girl.
2007-10-24 07:46:15 · 19 answers · asked by Marcos 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she was just checking up on you she loves you and more than likely didnt know you were in a important meeting. i would have told ill call you back in a few im busy or would have not answered and called back and said i was in a meeting. but sounds like she just wanted to make sure you were ok
2007-10-24 07:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by this name 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mike
I understand you feel your job is important, most of us do. My question to you is - Is this job more important than 1. your life and 2. your child?
I realize on a norm the kids wouldn't be allowed to call you at work, however you were just in the hospital due to the stress of work and life in general, and your daughter was concerned. Most if not all the people you work with either have kids or know folks that do, so they should understand. Also in this day and age, most companies put families first, so I would have excused myself and assured my daugter that I was ok, that I loved her, and that I would see her as soon as I got home.
Kids easily forgive things such as this, however they DO NOT forget. You definetely need to apologize to your daughter, and explain to her that you are taking the necessary means to get your health up there. You also need to reassure her that you are not angry at her for calling you at work, just a little surprised that she did because she knew the standing rule about that. I would also have a conversation with my employer about my situation and inform them that my daughter has some concerns about you after you were hospitalized, so she feels she needs to check up on you to ensure that your ok. I don't see any reason why they would have a problelm with that.
2007-10-24 08:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by hannahs3092000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger problem is that your stressful job is more important than your family. I understand the need to succeed and make money and pay the bills, but for what?
If you're so stressed that you're in the hospital, and you cannot talk with your concerned 15 year old daughter, something is amiss. You're working for the purpose of caring for her, you should be able to enjoy her and have a relationship with her, and that comes before the job.
Nothing is more important than family. Not the things, not the house, nothing. You can live without a lot, but kids cannot get on without dads.
2007-10-24 07:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
i can see why it would be frustrating for her to interrupt your meeting but first of all if it was that important of a meeting, you should turn your cell off!
more importantly than that, please appriciate that you're daughter cares about you and is worried about you. it's very scary for kids to know that their parents are sick and it's normal that she's worrying even if you feel that she might be over reacting a little. so she doesn't feel like she needs to call to check up on you, maybe make a time or 2 every day where you check in with her just to say hi and tell her how you're feeling. this of course wouldn't have to be a permanent thing, but until she feels less worried. try talking to her. let her tell you what her fears are and be honest with her about your health so she can gage it more realistically.
2007-10-24 09:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you are sorry for speaking to her that way and let her know that her call during business hours wasn't necessary, but that you are greatful for her concern. You should really keep your phone on silent anyway during a meeting and just let it go to voice mail. I'll bet that would have hurt less than you making a curt comment to her.
Maybe your jumping to bitterness is the reason you are so stressed and have high blood pressure. Chill out man!
2007-10-24 07:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Malina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell your daughter Monday when you left the hospital that you were fine? If so then tell her straight up that she knows not to call you at work unless it is an emergency. If she had no idea that you were fine then apologize for being short with her and calmly explain that you should have let her know that you were fine Monday but that she called when you were in a meeting so you were unable to talk and she needs to try to remember not to call unless its an emergency in the future.
2007-10-24 07:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to lunch or something. While there, explain to her how you felt when she called you. Talk to her about what's happening in her life too. Get to know your daughter a bit more. Tell her that you think she's a good daughter. Some daughter's wouldn't even call their dad to see how they're feeling after spending time at the hospital.
2007-10-24 07:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by TaDaa! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of you! There are a lot of parents out there that would give their left arm to have kids that actually give a crap about them! I'd LOVE if I had a child that cared about me so much as to stop what he/she is doing to pick up the phone and call. You can't get angry at her for loving you. You should've said "I'm fine, but I'm in a meeting right now, can I call you later?"
2007-10-24 08:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, I think you need to concentrate more on your family and less on your job. You sound uptight, and I know that I would hate being around someone like that. Ocassionaly my daddy is like that, and I just go to a friend's house or out to the garage to work on the cars for my dad and help him be happy. You were sick, and it is so sweet for her to be concerned about your health! You were a total you-know-what to respond the way you did, not to make you feel guilty or whatever, but that is just a horrible way to act!
2007-10-24 09:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky, most 15 year olds only care if you have a pulse when they need in your wallet. i agree with the others. keep your cell on silent and call back when the meeting is over. dont snap at her for being concerned, its a pretty decent sign youve got a good kid there, and thats getting kind of rare.
2007-10-24 08:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋