How long do I leave my baby cry?

Question

My baby girl is 2months she is adorable and I love her with all my heart, but nothing seems to make her happy......well except me holding her.....I cant do anything while shes awake because all she wants me to do is pick her and walk her around etc......she has 5bounces that play music others vibrate others move from side to side and so forth........she'll stay happy for about 5 minutes but after that she starts crying and looking around for me. I dont understand why she cries and cries if shes feed and clean this frustrates me because I have to hold her and I am not able to do anything.....please help!!!!!!

Answer 1

Until they are 3 months old you really are supposed to hold them. Are you bottle feeding? If you are she may have gas. She may be too warm or cold. You are doing the right thing by using the bouncy/vibrating seats. Just keep on trying and as she gets bigger she will be happier.

If you let a baby cry too much it trains there body to be in a state of anxiety. Babies that are allowed to cry tend to be more susceptible to high blood pressure as they grow up.

Not letting your baby cry does not create a spoiled dependent child either. My daughter is 16, my son is 3 and neither one cried, they didn't and don't unless something is really wrong. They are both independent, smart, happy polite people. My doctor told me when my daughter was a week old that before they are 9 months the only reason to cry is if something is wrong and that something can be the need of human contact and it was my job to hold on until she was ready to let go. I held on for the first month or so and then she started squirming to be let go. She learned to love her swing and floor time. The same with my son, he was premature so I held onto him for almost 3 months and he was scooting around the floor on his back at 5 months.

Follow your heart, take a bath with her and put her crib/cradle/bassinet next to your bed.

You will do just fine.

Answer 2

If you are certain that she needs nothing, 2 minutes. She is young and as she gets older you increase the time. It is SO hard to listen to the crying without wanting to run and pick her up but you have to try. My husband had to teach me this because I, like you, had to carry my child around all day. I got really good at juggling her and everything else I had to do at home however you should be able to get a few minutes without holding her. Once she realizes that you are going to come pick her up and that she is fine she should begin to sit in the bouncy for a little longer period of time.

My daughter is now 14 mos and hardly ever cries. She cries when she is tired and frustrated however, she is perfectly content sitting on the kitchen floor and playing while I do the dishes. I realize a lot of this came with time and she is much older than your daughter but some of these behaviors, like playing on your own, are partially learned. Teach her now a little at a time.

This should also be applied to bedtime when she is older. When my daughter turned 6 months I no longer rocked her until she was asleep. I still rocked her but only until her bottle was empty. Then she layed down and had to learn to go to sleep on her own. It took sometime and made me crazy because I hated hearing her cry but I would wait 5 minutes before going back in.

It'll get easier.

Answer 3

Taking care of a newborn is HARD work. I didn't realize how time consuming and exhausting it would be until I lived it. Newborns require *a lot* of attention, and it can get tough. But the fact is, newborns need thier parent(s) to care for them and attend to their needs. They have very short attention spans so a mobile, a swing, or other object will only satisfy them for short amounts of time. 5 to 10 minutes, is normal. It gets frustrating b/c you feel like you can't get *anything* done.

Have you tried "wearing" your baby around the house? That helped my daughter when she was really little, and freed up my hands so I could do simple things like eat. You can try encouraging her be more independent, but it's a gradual process. Find a time when she seems to be most content, and put her in her crib or swing, or play mat for 5 minutes while you are out of the room. See if you can gradually increase that time. Of course if she cries, go to her. This worked with my daughter and after a few weeks I could actaully have 15-20 minutes to get stuff done. Doesn't sound like a lot of time, but it was! Now at 8 months she is very content playing with toys and exploring on her own.

Just take it one day at a time. She won't be this high-needs forever.

Answer 4

This, my dear, is motherhood - and welcome to it! Babies originally cry for good reasons, they're hurting, or uncomfortable, hungry, scared, or something else is ailing them. They can only communicate by crying. A recent program demonstrated that all babies, regardless of culture or country, have the same basic cry for different things. This was on Oprah, I think, and it was fascinating. You might want to check her website to get more information. Suffice it to say, make sure your baby is perfectly fine, and if she's not hysterical or hurting herself with intense crying (which has been proven to deplete the oxygen supply to the brain) then let her be for a few minutes. If, on the other hand, it's getting way out of hand, maybe it's a clue for the two of you to sit down, relax, and bond - maybe some lullabies, or just talking to her. The cobwebs, dirty dishes, laundry, and other household chores will wait - but babies - they can't - or shouldn't if you want them to feel secure, happy, and healthy.

Answer 5

I completely understand how you feel. You are frustrated and running on very little sleep. Everyone is telling you how great their babies are/were at that age and how you should let your baby cry it out or use a swing or use a pacifier or the like. My friends and family told me that I was going to spoil my child and he would never learn to go to sleep on his own. I didn't know what to do....I thought to myself that I could not do this forever! (My baby refused pacifiers, bouncy seats and swings.)

First, let me assure you that you will not spoil your child if you hold her all the time. This will not last forever. She will get more independent as the months go by. If you need to get things done, get an infant carrier like a baby bjorn. This will allow you to hold her "hands free". I did everything from cooking to laundry to working on the computer with the baby strapped on my chest. If you do want to try to let your baby cry it out, go for it! I tried at 2 months and it was just too early for my baby- He cried for 45 minutes and would have kept on going if I let him. I didn't try again until he was 4 months old and then he cried for only 5 minutes before falling off to sleep.

By the time my baby was three months old, I could put him down on a gym playmat for periods of time. He could reach for the hanging toys and see himself in the mirror. By four months old, he had pretty much outgrown this "phase" entirely and was trying to sit up and explore by reaching for things and trying to hold things in his hand. Then I wished I could still strap him onto my chest and get things done, but he wouldn't have that anymore. :-)

So the moral of my story is don't worry...this phase will pass...and sooner than you think. You will eventually sleep again and your daughter will eventually push away from you instead of clinging to you. My son is now 7 months old and crawling like a champ....getting himself in tons of mischief and I can't keep up! :-) Hang in there!

Answer 6

I know you don't want to hear this... but you need to just hold her if that is what she is yearning for. 2 months is too young to not give her that warmth she had for 9 months in your wound... the best advice I have is to get help. Have a friend or relative come over and help with holding her, or household tasks. Have Dad help at night when he gets home. This way everyone is happy. I don't get a lot done at home either... but if my son, now 7 weeks old, wants to be held most of the time, then I am going to give that to him. It's only a short time out of my life...

Answer 7

My son generally used to cry when I first left the room in the previous his sunlight hours naps. whether, 8 weeks remains very youthful to leave him crying. possibly you ought to purpose putting him down as quickly as he's asleep, or maybe letting hm sleep in the comparable room the place you're ought to help. now and returned my son might settle greater effective if i grow to be folding up washing or tidying toys away in the comparable room. If all else fails, possibly he might sleep in a sling in the process the day, so as that he can nonetheless be on the element to you yet you may get on with stuff.

Answer 8

It's a tough time.

My mom would tried to teach me that you need to let babies cry when they are left alone.

However, I believe that letting them cry all the time creates an anxiety complex in the child. I believe there are recent studies that suggest this as well.

So you have to find a middle ground. If you have to do something, maybe you can have her in a walker near you.

When she gets a little older it will be easier.

Answer 9

I have 2 kids...a 1 year old and a 2 year old..i never let my daughter cry because i felt like a bad mother and thought my lord how could i let my baby cry and then my son came along and the poor guy cried all the time but i could not tend to him as well as i wanted becasue i was chasing my little girl around.....and guess what my son is angel...a very good baby who knows how to entertain himself and keep himself busy...and my daughter still wants to sleep in mommy 'sbed ...the point i am gettng at is..you should let your baby cry when you know they are full and you know they are not in discomfort...it helps them become more secure in the end and sleep by themselves...she will give up eventually and never doubt your mothering she is going to always love you .. i am at the point where crying really doesnt even effect me anymore...and is does not hurt them either it is all they now how to do

Answer 10

Have you tried 'baby wearing'? It's when you carry them around in a sling, that way she gets the comfort of being close to you, but you can still have your hands free. It may not completely solve the problem, but it may give you some sanity back! Also, see if maybe she has gas, if so, try helping her with that - gas drops, pumping her legs, etc.