Or not love us?
How many people have purposely stopped doing things your spouse likes, because they NEVER do anything for you or that you like?
Isn't this training them to stop loving you?
2007-10-24 07:08:07 · 10 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've known of partners who purposely do that. When one of them never does anything for the other person, it is a bit selfish, it's all about them, now, I'm not just talking about material things, those things shouldn't even be counted as doing things for them, that is what everyone calls a bonus type of thing. This where you communicate with your spouse/partner and tell them how important the little things are to you.
Don't stop doing things for them, but point it out as being an issue that you are having. ANY ISSUES SHOULD BE DISCUSSED! (no matter how BIG or how small) You are in the marriage/relationship for a while! You have to live peacefully with one another :)
2007-10-24 10:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both parties should do special things for one another however it is never equal one is going to do more then the other. If only one person is giving and the other is just taking then eventually the other person is going to stop giving.
2007-10-24 14:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. But u'd think that after a while, they'll just love u because they married u and saw something in u to love and cherish until death do u part...and they're not just doing things for u out of obligation or to get other things in return.
2007-10-24 14:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know you can think of a better 'question' than this one.
You taking the day off ?
And btw..Dr. Feelgood: Those shocking things are not shocking at all...thier called common sense !!!
2007-10-24 14:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But it takes two...and if two aren't giving then eventually no one is giving, and no one cares if they train the other to stop loving them.
2007-10-24 14:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some would call it fighting fire with fire...for me it would just be a way to the end of the road.
2007-10-24 14:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it certainly is a good way of not communicating ,so yes, it is training them to stop loving you.
2007-10-24 14:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thats exactly what my husband did ..now its over ...He taught me to be discontented with him... caused resentment and now I'm gone ...end result ..you get what you give!! Yes the favor he did for me was an exciting new beginning..........
2007-10-24 14:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i've been there, done that. does not work because my ex bf didn't want to accept his faults and he wanted me to change. you cannot change a person and you can't train them if they don't want to be trained.
2007-10-24 14:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe not in so many words but i guess the end result is the same
2007-10-24 14:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋