has he gone off me?

Question

I met this really lovely guy a few days ago.He had seen me twice around uni before asking me out and he seemed so enthusiastic on our first date (he didn't explicily say it was a romantic date he asked if I wanted to meet him because I was "beautiful" and gave the impression that it was to get to know me as a friend).Anyway yesterday he text me first thing in the morning asking how I was and during our text conversation I said I was unhappy because people had been mean to me and I also asked him whether he was single,whether he wanted to get back with his ex and then asked if he really did want me to be his friend or if he was just being polite.(I can never believe that anyone could like me) anyway that was yesterday evening and then this morning I text him to say what my plans for the day are and he hasn't replied at all.
Has he gone off me? Surely you can't go off someone because of something they said in a text? Why won't he text me? I'm so sad now :-(

Answer 1

Well I think he definetly liked u as a girl, more than a person if he called u beautiful.

Maybe ya he has no credit, is busy,hasnt phone with him???
Dont worry, and relax..dont keep texting or he'll think you're too eager.

With people u dont know well its better not to share your personal problems immediately as it can put them off.It'd be best to share these with good friends.

When you're getting to know someone knew its better to keep it lighthearated and fun. Some guys, and girls, will run if they sense you're needy or anything.
Im not saying u are I'm just saying how some people think.

It'll probably work out ok dont worry

Answer 2

First of all, i probably wouldn't be asking a guy all those things in a text message (although I'm in the US, so maybe the etiquette is different). You probably should have asked him the first two questions during your date, and not asked the third at all. Why would he want to be your friend "just to be polite"? You need to gain some self-esteen. Why would you believe that no one could like you? I'm sure you're perfectly likeable. Perhaps when you texted him this morning, he was already in work/class and couldn't answer. Or maybe you did scare him by asking those questions. If he hasn't called by the time you go to bed, text him with a quick message, like "Hope you had a good day :)" Then if you don't hear from him in a day or two, move on. But don't be sad- there's plenty of fish in the sea, and maybe this one isn't meant for you.

Answer 3

You might have scared him off. Insecurities are not attractive. He said he thinks you are beautiful. You should take him at his word and not fish for more compliments. It's insulting to ask someone if they're "just being polite" by showing interest in you. That is insinuating that you think that YOU are a waste of their time. Great way to make someone want to spend more time with you. Oh, and when you discuss being single or wanting to get back together with an ex, DON'T do it via text message. Those are subjects best left for face to face conversation - or at least a real phone call. A more appropriate text would have been "Had a great time with you the other day. When can I see you again?" After all, it's only been a few days. You should give it some time to grow. You don't want him to think you're clingy, insecure or stalker material.

Answer 4

That Would Have Probably Been Better To Talk About On The Phone, So They Know Your Tone Of Voice, And You Never Know, Some People Are Just.... Strange To Other People, Im Sorry To Hear Your Upset, And His Phone Might Be Acting Up? Lost It? Maybe He Has A Job Or Something And Forgot His Cellphone At Home?

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Well, since you have only just met, you should give him a little time. He might be tied up with other things, feeling unwell, lots of swatting to do.etc. He may have gone home or something. You do sound a little unsure of yourself, don't bring yourself down because of some bloke, there plenty more fish in the sea (or so they say!) Just enjoy! Life goes by so quickly. Maybe you are feeling lonely at the moment or feel unworthy. Don't!! I obviously don't know what you look like but I am sure you are a very nice person. Therefore, chin up! You know yourself how you are so don't crawl around him, get on with life. Let HIM do the chasing (for now at least). Good Luck in what you want to do in life!

Answer 6

is this the same guy that you may of had sex with?
cos if it is..this is not good i think you should take a step back just breath dont be worried about this guy its a fresh relationship lodas of guys in the world..n if they guys all die there are sex shops!!
just cool it you are a young attractive lady gain some confidance i recommend paul mckennas book etc..im using it at the moment and im seeing some big differences
dont be sad maybe go for a jog or get some take out..what ever u feel makes u a little bit more happier

Answer 7

Since you just started to go out with this guy, you kinda asked him too many questions at once, too soon. If you are the picture in your Avatar, you are not ugly. You need to get some confidence or you will never have a happy relationship. Don't let other people bring you down.

Answer 8

You sound needy, clingy and high maintenance and a young man doesnt want to deal with all that. You just met him and youve already laid a lot onto him. You scared him off. You need some counseling to find out how normal people begin a relationship and what to expect from people. Colleges offer free counseling to students. Look into it.

Answer 9

First of all....don't be too depressed about this guy. Sounds like he may already be INVOLVED with someone else and was only with you to pass the time. The fact that you are all over him with texts, etc., is a little too much and you need to back off. If he is free...let him chase you...stop chasing him...cool it and he may come back.

Answer 10

It sounds like you made him feel like you dont trust him. You said you can never believe that anyone could like you. Do not be so hard on yourself. Having a negative outlook on life and on yourself can turn people away if you do not know them that well. If you believed he was a lovely guy try not to make him feel like he has done something wrong.