Why some people can do it all (study, work, have fun, help others) while others spend their whole life trying?

Question

I've always tried to be the kind of person who does really well in school/college, has time to spend with family and friends, works part-time, and still manages to help people by doing volunteer work.

So far I have not succeeded.
If I get a job, my marks suffer... if go out with friends or family, I have no time for this and that.... how do you get out of this constant stuggle?

btw i'm an applied science student and it's a lot of work!

Answer 1

You've got too much on your plate. Choices have to be made,
no one person can do it all.

Answer 2

Personally, I found that it wasn't an equal balance. The year I spent in med tech school was by far the worst. I couldn't work full time and barely saw family let alone friends. I studied, studied, and studied some more and in the end it paid off... I was done with school, had a great job, and time to spend with family and friends. The struggle never ends though. Now I have 2 kids that I want more time with, yet I have to work so that leaves very little time to socialize. The bottom line is that you do what you have to do at the moment and worry about the rest later. Over time it will all equal out. That is the way life is....

Answer 3

I am like you. People who seem to 'do it all' sometimes skim the surface of that 'all' instead of taking on the world (like you do, and I do too). For example, to do schoolwork, volunteer work, be with friends, and with family, some people have an easy major, work where they can study at the same time, volunteer four hours a MONTH, etc.

The way I've learned to do things is to immerse myself in one or two priorities, let everything else fall apart, and then complete at least one thing, neglect the other, and focus on two other things. So, when I was in school, I worked part time but didn't volunteer and had no social life.Once I graduated, I got into a social life and volunteered a little, but then my job was dead easy. Once work got challenging, volunteering went out the window. Then I got married and had a baby, and EVERYTHING else went bye-bye for a while.

Now I'm retired, and I work part-time, volunteer a little bit, make crafts, and wait for grandchildren.

I've done it all, but never all at once.

Answer 4

YOU have to come first. Just because you can't do all those things, doesn't make you an uncaring person. You have a lot on your plate already. Studying is almost a full time job, so until you graduate, don't worry about it. Think of your grades. You are the one that has to live with your grade and you don't want them to suffer because you feel guilty. Just your wanting to volunteer tells me you are a great, caring person. Don't worry, you will get your chance. They will never run out of the need for volunteers. Be blessed

Answer 5

I think you need to keep trying and do all things in moderation. Moderation is a difficult concept for people to understand and apply...I can't do it very well either. My son plays travel hockey, works out every day, shoots pucks everyday and is an A student. He works really hard but it hasn't always been easy for him and I wouldn't say it is easy for him, he just works REALLY hard at doing everything and he is mostly successful but not all the time and you need to expect that you will not be successful at everything all the time...otherwise you'd be perfect. Good Luck!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

We only see the struggle within ourselves. I am one of those people who "seem to have it all", but deep down, I am miserable. While I make time for everything else, I neglect the real me. To me, I have not succeeded, because I am not happy. The constant struggle to succeed is within all of us. What we lose sight of is 'are we really happy?' Find what makes you happy, go for it, and you will find that you ARE successful. You can have everything and still have nothing.

Answer 8

i can't do it all either - everyone's different. i've finally decided to accept it. god makes all of us unique and for different purposes.