Do you have all of your affairs in order, so when the times comes, there is no stress for your children?

Question

Do you have everything sorted our and split the way you want it....In hopes there is no fighting or arguing over things.....

I've seen it many times, when one passes, people get greedy and they lose all family value .......

I hope I did not offend anyone, just curious.......if it is too personal to answer I understand...

Harley lady---I am so sorry...your brothers loss---totally.....

wow-such good answers....have given me alot to think about....

Answer 1

Yes I'm ready to meet my maker.

When I was young I made mistakes and I learned from my mistakes.

It seems to me that all of us have to learn the hard way but by living and learning, we learn to take the neccessary steps to go forward.

I was 22 years old when I got married.

That day, I promised my self that I would do the best I could to the best of my ability and that I would be all I could be to those I loved.

On that day and to this day forward I have done my best to conduct myself in a manner that would build good memories.

I take great pride in the fact that I understood at an early age what self satisfation really ment and I learned if I wasn't satisfied with my self, no one else would be.

Together my husband an I have raised our children, (now married with their own children) to the best of our ability.

I have made no enemies and I don't have any reason to have to make ammends to anyone.

I am at peace with myself and I have prepared for my passing.

I have a plot of ground with headstone at the cemetery, in the town that I grew up in.

I have bought and paid for the insurance for my burial.

I have a will and I have written my obituary.

I have written a message to my posterity to be read at my funeral along with a poem that I will share with you.

Don’t cry at my grave cause I won’t be there.
I’ll be in the breeze that ruffles your hair,
I’ll be in the sunshine I’ll be in the snow,
I’ll be in the places that we use to go.
I’ll be in your shadow and there in your dreams.
I’ll be in your greetings but not your goodbyes.
I’ll be in the reflection of your loving eyes.
I’ll always be with you and I’ll always care.
Don’t cry at my grave side cause I won’t be there.
To answer your last question, I can say yes, I'm ready to die. I believe in the hereafter and when my time comes I will look forward to a reunion with my ancestors.

My mother died when I was 8 years old and I look forward to seeing her again.

When our journey comes to an end and the world stops long enough to let us off and we have done our best, we can say, " All is well."

Thanks you so much for your question. It gave me a lot to think about.

By the way if your wondering my age, I am 72 years old and holding.

Answer 2

Yes. I started that when my mother died 12 years ago. That was a wake-up call for me. I only have one child, but I've been living with a wonderful man for the last 4 years. My assets (such as they are) are split 65/35 with my daughter being the first.

Answer 3

I collect guns. Now my wife has little interest in guns however she does have some of her own. My son shares my hobby and has quite a few guns of his own.
I finally got to thinking that I had no idea how many guns or other valuable items I had in the house and the bank safety boxes.
so I took pictures of every item with any accruterments and wrote down a description, the serial number if any, and who the item belonged to. And the present cash value of the item. Also I added notes such as " Grandpa's gun, do not ever sell" Or "This one goes to Grandson" "Sell this for the price listed or more" It took me three weeks of picture taking and putting everything in the computer. Now I have pictures and values for insurance purposes and instructions to my family of how I wish my collections to be handled. I even gave the name and phone number of a trusted friend that could handle the sale because he too is a gun collector and knows the value of them. I have a copy on CD, in my computer hard drive and paper copies. Some are stored in files at home and copies are stored in our safety deposit boxes. I surely feel better now.
While I was at it, I took pictures of every room in the house showing the furniture and opening the door to the china cabinets and wrote down the values of my wife's doll collection etc. This went on a CD and copies at the bank safety depost box. Should we have a fire or a burglery we can prove to the insurance company what we had.
Ahhh it feels good to have plans all secured.

Answer 4

Yes, my husband and I have tried to get at least part of our affairs in order. We have debts paid off, an up-to-date will and our children's names on our safe deposit box at the bank. The record keeping is accessible for executor of will for our bank accounts, retirement accounts, life insurance policies, etc. We have forced our reluctant children to accept some family heirlooms. They kept saying, "Mom! Dad! You need to keep this yourself!"

We have not completed those forms our attorney gave us regarding end-of-life medical care orders. (What are those called anyway? It's not Do Not Resuscitate forms or power of attorney???) We are still discussing cremation or not. We can't make up our minds about the wisdom of buying long-term care insurance. Things to do but hopefully we have more time.

Yes, I agree with you about the necessity of getting your affairs in order in the hopes of eliminating some of the stress on your children. Too many families get into awful feuds over money. Maybe we should put a clause in our wills that says, "No fighting or it's all being donated to the church."

Answer 5

My dad is very organized and plans ahead for everything. Within the last few years he has been tying up any loose ends. He has gone over his will with all of us and putting our names on several bank accounts. He has made arrangements for health issues since his PD is rapidly progressing. He has long term care set up for my mom, but he was not eligible. If he needs to go into an assisted living center he will have the money to pay for himself and then my mom will have hers paid for by the long term care. If he goes, she will follow along even though she is in excellent health. My dad even has the family plots and headstone set up at the cemetery. My parents love each other so much, they could never be parted.

Answer 6

Sure do.

In addition, I have a living will with exact instructions to my children in the event I become unable to make decisions for myself.

I have already split up most of the heirlooms and family things.....and given them to my children and grandchildren.

I have a will. I also have set aside the money they will need for my cremation.

I believe it is our responsibility to take care of these things. To leave your family in limbo having to fight it out or "guess" is not being a good parent.

To back it all up, I made a video a coupla years ago to be played after I die.

Neither of my children will have to guess or make hard decisions at a time of stress. It's all there.....

Answer 7

i hope i have it all done properly because when hubby died the lawyer said we never did a will{i had a copy} and was left with such a mess. thank god i have a cousin that's a judge, he voided the "No" will and helped me with a new one.first lawyer had the nerve to say he still had to send a statement for the will he prepared. i hope he's sitting by the mail box waiting for a check!

Answer 8

My lawyer said if you hate you family, don't make a will. But, my Father lived out of town. He had a will made and told my brother and I both about the will and where it was.When my dad died, my brother went in and took Everything including the will. he never filed the will, and I di not know who the lawyer was since there was only one copy.I had to take my brother to court to get the few things I got. It was sad, only two of us and he was so greedy. So, make sure there are multiple copies of how you want your things divided.

Answer 9

Good question! I have mostly personal items linked to memories rather than monetary assets and yes I have discussed with my children who gets what. But it is not actually taken care of yet. But my oldest daughter suggested a peice of tape on the back of furniture etc. assigning to each child.
I also think prepaid arrangements are a good idea.

Answer 10

I do have all the paperwork necessary in order to go to the next level in the game of life. Can't go 'till the paperwork is done! I do not have children, but do not wish to be a burden on other relatives. So basically it says, "Doctor keep your cotton pickin' hands and drugs off me. Judge appoint someone to insure the doctor keeps his or her cotton pickin' hands and drugs off me.