i love him also but he has HIV+. what should i do??
crying!!!!!
2007-10-24 05:27:39 · 40 answers · asked by Chico and Octavio are brother. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
from what i understand you can carry on a pretty normal relationship with someone who has aids.. its just requires a bit more planning... i love love love my man and if i found out he was HIV positive i wouldnt leave him..... i adore him and want to spend the rest of my life with him
2007-10-24 05:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
hi,
its a tough one this love is a powerful thing but so also is the risk u might contract HIV from ur partner.
i have bin in this situation and as long ur careful a happy relationship can be achieved, maybe u should go to the clinic with him to get some sexual health advice from the doctors there this can help gives u the heads up on what the risks r an how u can reduce the risk of contracting it, or to start off with google there are loads of sites about HIV an how to have a safe sex life with someone who has it.
u will need to think about what u would feel like if u contracted it by accident would u resent ur partner? do u want children? this is a costly an risky business when u have a partner with HIV.
altho love is the most important thing most people want to have a sexual relationship so u need to make sure ur safe, maybe u could try being together without sex for a while see if u really get along before u take the plunge.
make sure u find out everything u need to know about HIV an how to safely have sex, an lead a normal life.
If u do get together good luck, be happy an be safe,
PS. couple sites u might want to check out.
2007-10-24 05:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by papes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your prospects are and if you have others to be concerned about, like children.
If it is just you, and you do not believe you will find a man who suits you and is HIV free, then perhaps you could study about aids and learn what the real risks are. They are often not quite as bad as it may seem, especially if he is only HIV+ and not in the actual AIDS phase where his immune system is failing.
HIV+ is very serious, but is no longer a death sentence for all who contract it. Do some more reading if this is the best man you think you will find.
If you think you will find another man as good, then perhaps you must think about what is best for you and your family etc.
2007-10-24 05:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by John M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agree! To my knowledge, AIDS is a judgment from the Lord as He hates homosexual practices. It was for this very reason also the the Lord destroyed the two cities of Sodom and Gomorrah as the places were full of homosexuals. Isn't it just amazing! Man cannot find a cure for this disease as the Lord has made it as such. The Lord has also declare that for those involved in this "unnatural and abominable" practice, He has ALREADY given them over to a reprobate (morally bankrupt) mind to do those things which are not convenient however, their end will be according to their works. I see this as yet another reason as to why homosexuality shouldn't be accepted by society as who wants to live in a society overrun by morally bankrupt people?
2016-04-10 02:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you love him then be with him. We are all going to die one day. Just because he has HIV doesn't mean that he is going to die tomorrow, or even the next year or the year after that.
What is more important to you? Spending time with the person you love or wasting time being afraid to love him?
You have to decide. No one else can make that choice but you.
2007-10-24 06:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself if I was in this situation. I could not accept a life partner with HIV. If that makes me a cold and selfish person then so be it.
2007-10-24 05:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think about your future, do you want kids, do you want to be around when they grow up? Im not saying everyone that gets HIV dies right away. But you need to think about you and your life. If i were you I would keephim in my life but be extra careful, i honestly probably wouldnt have intercourse with him i wouldnt want to take the risk, love is love but your life is you rlife. That takes some serious thinking!
2007-10-24 06:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Cait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a woman who is HIV positive. He ex-husband was a closet IV drug user and he infected her. They divorced and she met a wonderful man. He knows she is HIV positive and she doesn't hide it. In fact, she actually travels all over the country telling people about her experience and how to protect yourself.
The man she married a few years back is very supportive of her and they have a fulfilling relationship in which they take many precautions to make sure she doesn't pass the virus on to him.
Talk to your doctor about how to protect yourself. Join an HIV support group to keep yourself up to date on the latest medications and such.
If you love this man, follow your heart.
2007-10-24 05:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but you would be making a very huge lifetime mistake. DO NOT DO THIS. Your pity for him is not love. And you do not love him. You asked " do you accept the man who loves you".
Sure you can accept him . . . . as a friend. No more. You may not be able to see this clearly now, but in time you will agree that getting into a relationship with him was the wrong decision. Go get laid if it will help you to figure it out . . .just not with him!
2007-10-24 05:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I think you have to really look deep inside and ask yourself, what kind of future you would like, kids with him would not be a possibility and if you can live without that, I don't see why it has to be an issue. He is like anyone else, and maybe the way he contracted it wasn't even anything he could have controlled. You will need a heart to heart talk with him. I don;t see any reason why it would make you not want to be with him. You just be more careful than normal and you can live a normal life. I would not change in my heart because of this.
2007-10-24 05:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋