My friend Michelle went to the beach this summer and had sex with this random guy... then she gets home and has sex with some other dude. A week ago she came to me crying b/c she thought she was pregnant. Now... yesterday she went to the doctor and found out she wasn't and today has plans to go see my other friends brother at his house. How should i tell her... and should i even tell her?!?!?!?!
2007-10-24 04:53:26 · 30 answers · asked by brittanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
everytime you refer to her in her presence refer to her as that ho such as don't that her anything 'cause that hotel everything.
2007-10-24 08:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already knows. She doesn't care. The problem is she thinks there are no consequences to her actions. If a pregnancy scare won't change her then it's doubtful anything will. She has the choice to treat her body like a temple. She's decided to treat it like a garbage dump.
You have to think about you right now. Her actions will reflect on you as her friend. People will assume you are like her. Sit her down and talk to her. Explain to her that sex is not love. Love is what the two of you as friends share. Give her a chance to change her ways. Tell her you are not perfect either. You have issues. Everyone does. The difference is your issues aren't destructive to other people and your friendship.
If she doesn't, tell her that while you are her friend and care for her you can not allow her actions to take you down. Make her understand that until she learns to respect herself that you can not be friends with her. It'll make you sad but it's for the best.
2007-10-24 12:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, that is all up to you. I had to tell one of my friends something like this as well.
In the beginning i just looked at it as being her problem so i just stayed out of her business and let her do what she wanted. She was sleeping with a different guy every night, she was screwing around with different men even when she was married. She is also a big gold digger, wants nothing but sex and money. She met this really great guy and decided she would try and use him for his money. He thought she actually liked him. Well i became very good friends with the guy, i had no choice but to tell him how my friend was so he could stear clear not to get screwed over or hurt. He continued to be stupid, of course. My friends husband ended up leaving her, his exact words were "I cannot believe i married a whore" and she was left with nothing, everybody knew how she was and knew she was only good for sex so that is all she ever had, nobody wanted a real relationship with her. Anyways the guy she was trying to use, i ended up having a relationship with and my friend was trying to go behind my back sending him naked pictures, i confronted her and told her that she needed to leave me and "the guy" alone and to find her own man, i told her she was a good for nothing s!ut and that is why she is the way she is. Me and the guy ended up getting married and we now have a 2 month old baby girl.
I was soo sick of what my friend was doing and i just couldn't believe she would go behind my back like that. We were suppose to be best friends. She deserved to hear what i had to tell her.
2007-10-24 12:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really close with this girl Michelle you would be wise to advice her that she is indeed getting herself a reputation. And that if she wants to continue acting like this that she should be practicing safe sex also. My best advice to you is to watch yourself when around this young girl as sadly people do judge others by the company they keep, show me your company and I'll tell you who you are or run with dogs you'll catch fleas are just a couple of sayings. A real friend would indeed tell another if there behaviour was not appropriate, so now the balls in your court to do with what you think is right.
2007-10-24 11:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to tell her something. She obviously has no respect for herself or her body. If this didn't scare her she isn't going to change until she either has an STD or she is pregnant for real.
You should tell her that you are really worried about her. Tell her that what she is doing to her body is going to catch up with her and the consequences are going to be severe. You can't make her stop, but you can let her know that you care about her and wish she would stop handing herself out like some sample food at Sam's Club.
Good Luck
2007-10-24 11:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by mamabee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be kind - she probably has very low self-esteem. Just sit her down and tell her you are worried about her. Random sex invites diseases, which includes AIDS. Plus - putting it out will only cause others to take her less seriously and damage her reputation. Remind her that you care for her and only want the best for her. After all - she deserves the best.
2007-10-24 11:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is a key issue in a friendship, but you have to watch for her becuase she might think that you are jealous. Just be real with her. There is no other way. She' s a bopper and you just have to say it. Your looking out for her interest and well-being because that so-called pregnancy could have been HIV, AIDS, or an STD. She better be more careful.
2007-10-24 12:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your good friend, tell her you are concerned about you health and make sure she is using protection because you don't want to see her get sick. If she is going to have lots of sex, thats up to her. You have to decide if she is a good enough friend to stay friends with or not. If it bothers you that much! In the mean time, give her my # JK LOL
2007-10-24 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by camern11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her, i had the same issue with one of my friends (ex friend) she got mad and she still acts like a whore. but oh well, if you tell her at least she will know shes a hoe and if u stop hanging out with her people wont think ur a hoe too. the last thing u want is people to think your a whore too.
2007-10-24 11:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by cali gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that if she doesn't stop sleeping around she will end up pregnant or get a sexually transmitted disease, is it really worth the risk. Or just tell her "Your a whore" if your not worried about losing her as a friend.
2007-10-24 11:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by millypeed my choccie Lab 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that pregnancy is the least of her worries with thus type of behaviour Tell her you worry about her health (STD).
Don't tell her she is a whore, but do show concern She needs a friend not a judge and jury
2007-10-24 12:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋