People who haved cheated, thought about cheating and those who have been cheated. Why cheat? I don't personally believe it's sexual I think its more than that. So do tell Why cheat?
2007-10-24 04:39:40 · 18 answers · asked by dana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people cheat becuz there was that 1 person that made u feel good about urself...it doesnt have to be in a sexual way they just made u feel special in some way. They can't get over the big head(ego) that some1 gave them, so they act on it...No I have not ever cheated but my hubby has...
2007-10-24 04:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to cheat there has to first be some type of attraction towards the person they cheat with, whether it be sexual or emotional. The fuel that begins the need to cheat is started from a result of an unhappy marriage or relationship. Although it has been know that even when a person is in a happy relationship they still cheat. There are many reasons, if narrowed down it is usually due to not getting their needs met in the relationship and I do not necessarily mean only sexual needs. Most people (not all) cheat because this new person makes them feel special and wanted.
2007-10-24 12:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the old story the grass looks greener on the other side. Many people feel that there is always something better then what they have. Some like the excitement of getting away with it. Some fantasize about having sex with another person and then it becomes real. Sometimes it is something that just happens and not planned on. When people go to work each day and come in contact with the opposite sex and they get to know each other more and more each day, they realize that they are attracted to this person. They have a choice at that point to do something or to think of the one they say they love or have at home. The thrill that they get with this person is not the same as the one they have at home. At home the excitement is usually gone and it has become the same ole thing and routine. Some people need this feeling from another that they are special. It is an ego thing. It builds them up to know that this person is attracted to them. It makes it all exciting and fun. They do not stop to think that what they have at home could be changed and that they could hurt the one that loves them..
2007-10-24 11:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex said he cheated because the other female made him feel special / unique. He said she did things he knew I wouldnt do , and he also said she was a stripper. I have cheated its nothing to be proud of now but back then I didnt care about others feelings. I did what I wanted to do , cheating made me feel superior in some type of way, like I was on top. The main reason I cheated was because I felt special with that person. Now I am married, and faithful. I always think about my cheating days, I must admit I pity myself. No reason to take people for granted and think the grass is greener on the other side. I learned a valuable lesson.
2007-10-24 12:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they are tired of the abuse sometimes it takes awhile for a person to cheat but if it's years and years of abuse,rather it be mental or physical or just verbal...I mean how much can you take the ones that don't cheat right away are just waiting for the right time the right place the right person you know about that get some free card when you gone cash yours in? cheating is not good but when your at that very point of no turning back you have to put it down and lay it out right..make it well worth the while because you deserve that wonderful feeling
2007-10-24 12:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think cheating is an escape from reality. When your married and maybe you have kids, there is so much going on and stressing you out. If you meet someone who tweeks your interest, you might think this is the answer to your problems. I think it is absolutely normal to fall for something like that, who doesnt want to escape from reality sometimes and be a kid again. The problem is the grass is never greener on the other side, and sometimes this kind of stuff can literally destroy someone. I've seen it happen now for the second time with my best friend.
2007-10-24 11:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break everything down to the basics.
If you are a happy couple you give and receive your happiness from each other.
If you are not a happy couple you are NOT getting or giving happiness to each other.
People are social creatures. They want to feel happy and want to connect to others.
If someone does not make you happy to will find someone who does. It doesn't matter if the person not making you happy is a friend or a spouse. If they don't make you happy you will naturally care less about them. The less you care the more your actions DON'T matter, because you don't care about them.
Princess Diana was a good person, but I never knew her so I don't care about her, therefore I lived my live without weighing in what she would want me to do. The same goes for spouses that have pushed each other emotionally away.
Everyone wants to feel that their life is of value and if your spouse will not validate your life you will find someone who does.
The biggest problem is that people are selfish. One spouse will demand their life to be validated, but will not validate the life of their spouse. Why? Because if they spend the time to validate the other person's life they are no longer the center of their own life.
2007-10-24 12:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have before. But only because she went cold on me for months. She knows it happened and forgave me and everything has been fine since. If i don't get it for a while and there is no reason i look else ware. Now if there is a medical or even mental problem i understand. But when a vagina is used to power its not good.
2007-10-24 12:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Just My Opinion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz they are selfish and spineless. I have never cheated and don’t think i have been cheated on but know plenty of people that have and have been cheated on.
They don’t want to leave the comforts of the relationship they are already in but want the excitement of a new relationship. They deserve to be punched in face for their behavior, if you are unhappy in your current relationship then LEAVE and then find someone to sleep with.
2007-10-24 12:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you believe is irrelevant to my specific situation. When I (very regrettably) cheated on my wife 10 years ago, it was definitely for the sex. The woman was attractive and came onto me. That, coupled with a defect in character, namely my sex addiction, resulted in cheating. So, sorry to disprove your theory, but for me it was only about the sex.
2007-10-24 11:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋