Do you think men/women with successful/demanding careers are considered "high risk"?

Question

when it comes to failing in a relationship or cheating?

Answer 1

I believe it mostly comes down to a person's character and priorities, that being said, if a woman's priority or a man's priority is her or his career, and family is neglected, then that seems that their relationships might be at more risk for failure....however, you also have a lot more being thrown into the equation such as expectations, communication, and once again, character....LOL

Answer 2

Despite what some of the other posters are claiming, both men and women with successful/demanding careers are high risk. That's because such people are more focused on their careers than their families or relationships and those careers will always come first in their lives. Look at all the successful male corporate executives who have been married and divorced several times. They can attract women because of their money and status but then when the women marry them, they find these men aren't good husband material because their wives will never be a high priority in their lives. People have to decide if they really want to marry somebody who can provide them with material wealth but likely will be gone nearly all the time or go for somebody who isn't as career driven but will be home more and make them a higher priority in their lives.

Answer 3

You already know my thoughts but hey *grins* I'm gonna share anyway.

I believe they are very high risk *disclaimer* for the purpose of this post I will refer to a woman marrying a man with a high end career but I think both are equally risky *whew* now that that's out of the way!
A man who's working 70 or 80hr weeks (in a few cases more) and then dealing with meetings, take home work, conference calls, social functions ect. Doesn't have the time for a relationship--add to that they seldom if ever come out of that "warrior" mode and where is there ever time for romance? Also I've noticed the career minded men tend to have certain personalities where they only see things from their end which makes cheating more likely.

Answer 4

It seems so, but you know that I'm adamant about humans having CHOICE. We allow for our relationships to deteriorate when our priorities are only or mainly selfish ones, that do not include the partner.
I think it's healthy to have independence in a relationship (in fact, it's necessary) but as a unit, the priorities should be aimed towards the benefit of both, so when having a successful and demanding career, which requires time and investment of oneself, and not dedicating time to the partner as well, it becomes more of an individualistic beneficial experience, not mutual.
If people with demanding careers take the time out to invest in their relationship as well, then it is most likely not at risk. When career becomes more of a priority than the partner and the relationship, I think it may lead to infidelity (on either side), unhappiness or eventual separation.
Of course, I'm talking about serious, long-term relationships here, not dating.
I know a few people who work very hard, are excellent and succesful at what they do, yet still dedicate attention to their partner...again, it is a choice.

What do you think?

Answer 5

Well, men and women with successful, demanding careers have to spend many, many hours at their workplace and have little time and energy for taking care of a relationship at home as well. Relationships take a lot of care and effort, and when one of the people involved in a relationship is gone so much of the time, it's inevitable that it's going to suffer. As for cheating, it goes along the same lines. When you're at work all day, and you no longer have a sex life because of your late hours and absence at home, it's natural that a man or woman will need to take care of their sexual urges. Cheating makes it easier to cope with.

In other words, yes, I think dating a workaholic is high risk. I would much rather be married to someone who has a meager income but plenty of time for a family and a relationship, rather than someone who is rich but isn't home long enough to actually enjoy it.

Answer 6

High risk, in what regards ? I assume you mean divorce. Women are, men arent. In fact, women married to high earning men are quite likely to divorce them if they grow bored with them. The mansion, the juicy child support. Hhhmmmmmm. A man married to an high earning woman on the other end risks to get the short end of the stick in a divorce with children, since hes likely to loose custody because he is a man and therefore has to move out and is slapped with child support.
Sooo marriage is high risk for a man period.
Whups you wrote more. As for women, no a woman can cheat at work or be an housewife and have somone else come over to cheat with. Therefore career or no career isnt a good indication to predict the fidelity of a woman.
As for men, men with an career are BY FAR more likely to cheat since they attract women, while stay at home dads dont get much attention from the females, oftentimes wifey included.

Answer 7

Marriage/divorce?

If so, women are.

In fact, Forbes editor, Michael Noer, wrote an article on this a while back, aptly titled 'Don't Marry Career Women':

"recent studies have found professional women [university educated, typically working beyond 30 hours a w/k; he highlighted] are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and less likely to have children. And if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women--even those with a "feminist" outlook--are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner."

He added: "the more successful she is, the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you"

"If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research)."

Elaborating on infidelity (although it applies to both men / women):

'The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen his or her mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase that he or she will meet someone more likable than you. "The work environment provides a host of potential partners," researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, "and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals."'

Answer 8

Not necessarily. Some people place too heavy an emphasis on their careers to bother with relationships. (Like me.) Others are willing to make time for both. It's an individual matter.

Answer 9

I think that it has to do with individual and his / her values. Success, demanding career and many opportunities are only a constant temptation / distraction. Look for a person who will stay true to you, because you are his very first priority.

Answer 10

Sometimes but on the other hand you have to make ends meet. Personally, I guess I've been lucky with my hubby but I can see that being a problem in certain relationships.