Ok, will seem like I am just complaining. But, really stuck. I have been dating this guy for over 8 yrs. We built a house together, (because of my credit and ex husband it is in his name) after 4 yrs he put the house up for sale and keeps telling me that his job is changing but dont know when, and we will no longer be able to afford the house. I can not find anything that supports him. He will not be able to afford this house on his own.
Finds things wrong little things, nit picky things. Specially with my kids. He keeps trying to constrain me on the things that I do in the house. The house no longer looks like a home it looks like a shell. I dont know what to think. I am not moving out of this house it is my home also.
He also likes to play online. I know that this is so scattered in telling. But, really confused. Dont understand him. will dialog with anyone who can help!!!!
2007-10-24 04:12:49 · 7 answers · asked by knowwhatyoumean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think tou should to to look elsewhere, Dont settle for him. to many red flags
2007-10-24 04:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Irish Dad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the house is in his name, there's not much you can do to keep it even if you can afford to. At some point you will have to move out of the house, and I think you should be looking right now because this man is looking to find a way out of the relationship that the two of you have. He probably can't find the words to tell you, but he wants you to take your kids and leave. The fact that he is telling you about a job change and that he spends a lot of time online says that he wants a change and is trying to cause you to lose interest because he doesn't have the guts to tell you it's over. If you have a job, you should be holding on to your money in preparation for finding another home. If you don't have a job, you should find out what your options are for public housing or government assistance since you have children. I know this is not what you wanted to hear, but you really need to get yourself ready, cause the "big dump" is coming. Email me if you need to blow off steam or just chat about it. I've had a few bad relationships, and have just about seen it all, so would be glad to talk with you.
2007-10-24 04:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the real question is do you both want to stay together and if so life will work its magic and everything is and will be ok, now if you see a split coming (or wanting one) most states have a common marriage law and after 8 years (i assume living with each other) i would bet that you could go to court over it and most likely keep the house or at least some of the money from selling it.
2007-10-24 04:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by dragon.lord1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one that tells you this...but in my opinion, he wants out of the relationship and wants you out of the house is looking in all directions to find that open door... Your first mistake was to allow this house to be in his name only, your second mistake will be not to get a lawyer and see what your rights are, I think legally if you have lived together 7 years it is like be married..So...If I were you, I would run, not walk to a lawyer...Best Of Luck To You.
2007-10-24 04:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by wonderer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to push you out of the house and that my dear is obvious. The house is in his name and you won't be entitled to anything once he sells it. You best start making plans on your own and your kids as to where will you live. Obviously he has lost interest in being with you. You say he plays online a lot which he is putting his attention elsewhere.
2007-10-24 04:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're never "stuck". Ever.
So, you are probably hanging on because you love him. Work hard on the relationship and if it's still not getting better, then move on.
Happiness isn't derived from money. Don't let it control you.
2007-10-24 04:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to address this, and ask him if he'd mind having a calm conversation about the relationship. Ask him whether he wants to continue the relationship, and take it from there.
You won't know what he's thinking unless you ask.
2007-10-24 04:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋