I've known her for about 8 years now, she got maried with someone else and had two lovely kids, she's divorced now since december 06, and has been with me since then.
Now she is pregnant with my baby and I want to get married.
The problem is that I got a deal with my father, I work for him, the deal is that I will get a decent pay check when I graduate from Uni, that will be on march 08 (4 months from now).
So I told her to wait untill the end of februaury and to get married in march, that I will have enough money to sustain our family etc.
The baby will be born on may 17th aprox.
My problem is that now she wants to go to Miami FL with her parents until the baby has born, her arguments are What the people will say or talk about her,there won't be any good comments.
I feel like she is leaving me alone, I don't want her to go, I want to be all the time around.
Now she is telling me that she's not shure to marrie me or not. Bloody Hell. Does she loves me ??????
2007-10-24 03:47:01 · 17 answers · asked by Alfredo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her go, support her financially, Man UP!!
2007-10-24 03:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Opps 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You seem to be the one messing her around. You say you want to get married, and that is great, also that you want to be able to pay for your family - so why didn't you wait until you had left uni and got a job before getting her pregnant?
If you are not going to support her during her pregnancy, then she is going to go and stay with her parents we will support her.
She should have thought about what people would say about her before she got pregnant.
If you are going to get married, why not do it now?I am sure your father would understand, and even if he doesn't, you have a child on the way, and need to do some growing up.
2007-10-24 03:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is scared too! Get in her heels for a minute... She is about to have a baby while not being married, even though she had been married in the past and you plan to marry in the future. She may have fears that when she gets bigger, as us women do, you may not want to marry her. Why not step up to the plate now and show her how much you love her? Even if it is a trip down to the court house now and a lovely reception later on? That way she knows for sure, from your actions, just how you feel about her. Walk a mile in her shoes sweetie and I'm sure you'll see things in a whole new light.
2007-10-24 03:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is a very emotional time for a woman. I would go back to your dad and explain the situation and see if he could help you out now. She may feel that you are putting your fathers views before hers.
You have already said that she's not going to get any good responses so that will make her feel worse
Good luck and don't forget the reason you are with her in the first place
2007-10-24 03:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The primary things that breast-feeding provides to the baby are (1) antibodies which strengthen her immune system, and (2) physical and emotional bonding with mom. Relax. Lots and lots of babies do just fine being bottle-fed. Now I have a question. What happened that caused you to be committed to a mental hospital? I'm a mental health counselor and I am aware that, in most states, the primary reasons a commitment can happen are danger to self (suicidal) and/or danger to others (homicidal).
2016-05-25 11:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is moving so fast with the divorce, getting pregnant and planning a wedding with you. Let her go, if it is meant to be then she will come back either in March or after the baby is born. Try to visit her as often as you can. She probably loves you but realizes she has a lot on her plate right now. Don't rush into anything.
2007-10-24 03:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too much has happened too soon.
It's been less than a year, and your girlfriend has been divorced, got a boyfriend, and got pregnant. She hasn't had a chance to go through a normal process of getting over one relationship before getting into another one. On top of that, she has two kids to raise, and a third one on the way. I know you don't want to hear this, but for her own sanity she really needs some space. The only thing you can do is accept that, and don't pressure her.
2007-10-24 03:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is scared that since she is divorced she doesnt want to go through that again, also maybe she doesnt want you to be stressing what with school and all. Maybe she sees a lot of potential in you and wants you to continue. Maybe she feels that you only want to marry her because she is having your baby. Talk to her and let her know how much you love her and if she isnt ready to get married then you will support that but that you want to be in her life and with her. The only way to sort through this is to talk to eachother like adults no yelling just talk and sort through it all. Good luck I hope it all works out in the end.
2007-10-24 03:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by ckatz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are scaring her by not marrying her now. Whether you marry her now or later doesn't matter....you will still have a responsibility to her and the child....so why not marry now. You obviously only have 1 more semester before you graduate...so you should already have that $$ and even if you don't marriage won't change that or make it worse.
2007-10-24 03:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does love you. Why don't you get another job and marry her now instead of waiting for a decent paycheck from your father? If you have skills, you should be able to find another job easy.
She's been with you all this time, why do you think she wants to really go away? It's probably because she thinks you have no plans for her and the baby in the future.
2007-10-24 03:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Moi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
of course she loves,,u silly fool,,she's telling u what she's feeling,,she's embarrassed cuz,,she's already a single mom,,and now,,she's a single mom,,with two different baby's daddies,,duh,,s-t-u-p,,,,,,! it's not a brain buster,,u love this woman then just man up and marry her,,that's bull about u wanting to finish school,,marriage is on paper,,ur still together now without supporting her,,and all that,,she knows ur situation,,she's not asking anything from u but,,marriage,,
she's not sure about marriage with u,,cuz,,ur acting like a careless a-s-s,,
2007-10-24 03:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋