What's wrong with a man wanting a marriage where he is in charge?

Question

The wwhole 50/50 partnership thing is awful for families.

I personally don't think anyone should be in control. I'm just fishing for opinions.

Answer 1

PLENTY. A wife is your partner, NOT your POSSESSION.

Answer 2

No one should EVER be "in charge" of ANYONE. Period. What are you looking for - to be "in charge" and have her just take orders?? That's ridiculous! Raising a family is not a 50/50 partnership, it's a 100/100 partnership. With most families having 2 working parents, having one person "in charge" is completely unrealistic. Each person has their roles: my husband does all the outside stuff, puts out the garbage, and does all the vacuuming - I do all the laundry (12 loads a week), the cooking, the cleaning (including the 3 bathrooms), and take care of the kids from when I get home from work at 6:00 until bed time. But he helps with their homework. There are other things, too. I pay all the bills, but he handles all the retirement stuff. There's way too much stuff going on in everyday life for one person to be "in charge." If there's a major decision that has to be made, he's not "in charge" of making the decision. WE are. We talk about it - argue about it sometimes - and then come to an agreement we can both live with. If it's something he cares about but I could care less about, I drop it in his lap and tell him to go for it. That's what marriage is! A partnership! It is not a dictatorship!

Answer 3

NOTHING IS WRONG WITH IT!!!! as long as you also want to be in charge of the divorce proceedings. Because they will come. What do you mean in charge? You control everything? Her friends, job, where you live etc...

In all seriousness why? You will find you will be in charge of some things, her in others and figure out the rest. I know The lawn I cut, the garbage I take out, etc. She does most of the cooking. I do my laundry, she always did the kids..But these were sort of agreed upon roles.

You say these partnerships are "awful for families" I dont think so. I want my daughters to understand that as a wife you have your own identity, goals and desires. I want my son to understand that your wife deserves respect, gratitude and that a marriage is a partnership. Not perfect, but a partnership that works through tough issues together..

You need to provide examples because you make no argument in your question.

Answer 4

I think having roles is functional for society, including family roles. The 50/50 plan doesn't work for most, but the 100/100 plan seems to be the most successful. The roles need to be agreed upon, and often times, the role agreement has alot to do with how men and women are raised. For me, I was not raised to be the go-getter, provider, take charge part of the family. I have no problem letting my husband lead our family. As a matter of fact, I think it's sexy that he would want to do such a thing in a society where young men are being raised to use women for all she has while the man stays at home. That is very undesireable to me.

Answer 5

The 50/50 (actually it's balance, and not splitting everything) thing isn't awful for families at all, but if the guy wants to be in charge and the woman wants a relationship like that, then that's fine. The situation needs to suit the people involved, whether they want male in charge, female in charge, or to be partners and have balance.

What appeals to me most is balance. Not 50/50 per se but one party having a strength where the other has a weakness and them balancing each other out that way...decisions being made together and with consideration for each other and anyone else involved. THAT is an ideal situatuion imnsho. ☺

Answer 6

Sorry pal but the Archie Bunker days are over with. A wife is your partner not your possession. Women have just as much say and right as the man. In fact many women are actually able to bring home as much money, if not more than the man in this day n age. You might still be able to find you a Miss betty crocker, who will have you dinner ready for you on the table, an ice cold drink ready in her hand, and not speak until spoken to but in all reality, good luck.

Answer 7

You don't want a wife, you want a slave! What kind of companion is she going to be in five years' time with her being dominated and having no mind of her own - no better than a labrador. You should not get married. Warn your wife to be! A woman can still look up to a man and respect his views and consider him the head of the household, but this has to work both ways - without respect there is no love, and vice versa.

Answer 8

Well you have to try and put yourself in the position of a woman. Why would she want to live a life as a domestic servant and baby machine, when she can have equal rights and freedom?

Consider this. Could you ever meet a women so perfect you would be willing to give up your job, your freedom, and stay at home all day and look after kids, and clean the house? Would you be willing to do whatever this woman said, whenever she told you to? Would you be willing to accept being second to her?

If your answer is no, why exactly do you expect a woman to accept it? Are you really that much of a catch?

With your attitude, if you ever get a woman, all you are going to find is a stupid bimbo, who is willing to accept your boorish sexist attitude and superiority complex. This seriously narrows the field when you are looking for a potential partner.

Answer 9

Nothing. It's called BDSM--the lifestyle. The man is dominant and the woman is submissive and He is in charge and she obeys Him. It's called a TPE--Total Power Exchange. For more information, see my links listed below.

If it's BDSM then it must be safe, sane and consensual or it's abuse.

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Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with wanting it, but expecting it is another story. Respect goes a long way in a marriage and how can a man say he respects a woman when he doesn't even value her choices?

Answer 11

I hope you have a great job cause you'll be needing it when it's time for the alimony and child support.

Hey I have a whip I don't need anymore. Would you like it for when everyone starts getting out of line?

I agree with the gal that says you need a mail order bride. Plenty of those little china dolls will be happy to play the master/servant game with you....for a while anyhow.

Oops, I sure hope you never lose that man of yours. You wouldn't be able to survive in this world.