My best friend has a baby that is almost 9 months old. She follows a bedtime routine since forever. The baby hardly sleeps during the day and she's very active. She just cut 2 teeth (bottom) so it's not teething (we think). She uses the J&J products to help her sleep, nothing works, my friend is sick and tired or rocking a 20lb baby to sleep. She tried ferberizing, it worked for 2 weeks and now she learned to pull herself up and stands up in the crib and cries. Mom goes in, reassures her and the second mom walks out of the room the baby is again up and crying her lungs out. She also wakes up now at 4 am and does the same thing. Any tips?
2007-10-24 02:29:22 · 8 answers · asked by Baby Ruth habla español 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Usually when they cut teeth, there is 2 more to follow on top. I bet she is cutting more teeth. Are her gums hard on top? I think she is just a little spoiled too. Do not take her to bed with mom, unless you want this to still be happening when she starts school. Do not give cafeine at all. Make sure she has her nap over at least 4 hours before bedtime. Try a little soft, soothing, low volume music in the room with her at bedtime. Close the door and be very quiet until she falls asleep. Do not re-enter the room or the baby will know that as long as she pulls up and screams that moms will come in and give her attention. If mom is still rocking the 20 LB. baby then she is still wanting rocked. She has to be trained that mom doesn't rock to sleep anymore. Until she realizes this then she is going to cry at bedtime. Can you tell if it is a hurting cry or just a spoiled cry? Maybe speak to the baby doctor about this for a check-up. I wish you well. I had one that cried for 9 months straight with colic. This can drive you crazy! Also if moms nerves are on edge then the baby will act up even more. Again I advise some soothing music or even one of those water fall little sounding gadgets. You know what I mean? Try some teething medicine rubbed on her gums at bedtime. Maybe at 4:00 AM she is needing a drink. If she takes the bottle then give it to her. Make it warm and soothing. Give her a warm hot water bottle layed up against her tummy at bed time. Maybe try this again at 4:00 am. If you think she is hurting with her gums, also give her some motrin, or tylenol for babies, at bedtime and if it is time maybe some more at 4:00 am if she is hurting. .Best of luck. I know this is hard to deal with. Have patience. My kids are 24, 21, and 19 years old. I have 2 grandchildren. So, I have been there, done that several times. God Bless You for your concerns.
2007-10-24 02:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
nothing much she really can do, i followed a bed time routine for both of mine and still do and my 2 yr old still wakes between 2 and 4 am, but my 4 yr old went through this at 18 months old and we tried everything we could letting her sleep in our bed to reading stories for hours on end and then we tried conrtolled crying which i found really hard to do but it worked. wat she has to do is put baby to bed and if she cries do not go to her straight away leave it 5 mins, then go into her reasure her but do not pick up just lie her back down, and if she cries leave it 10 mins b4 going to her but no longer than 10 mins if really distressed and she will finally realise that mommy isnt going to come as soon as the crying starts. it is really hard and i do feel for ur friend and its not an instant thing but eventually things work out for the best.
good luck
2007-10-24 02:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by anna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She knows as long as she crys someone will pick her up and rock her. The only thing one can do is keep the door cracked a bit so you can see baby and just let her cry. It is hard to do but it won't take long before baby will fall asleep on it's own.
2007-10-24 02:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by lakerunner696 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have some musc playing for the kid like Phil Collins type music it worked for my kids!
2007-10-24 02:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by doc_holliday1863 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of two things mentioned, second is get her used to being a few hours without mama
2007-10-24 02:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try some aromotherapy in a diffuser, Lavender, clary sage, other calming scents.
2007-10-24 02:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the baby to bed with her.
i went through this and it's a stage with the baby.
to get sleep just let them sleep with you.
they need you a lot at this age.
2007-10-24 02:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I highly recommend the book Healthy Sleep Habits, happy child.
2007-10-24 02:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋