How does to-days marriages compare to yesterdays?

Question

It seems to me (my opion) that people today have no staying power like the people of yesterday (the 70's & 80's) The first thing that upsets one of the couple its time to throw in the towel. Whats your take?

Answer 1

I agree. My generation (I'm 35) is very spoiled. We expect life to be easy in every way. We will walk out on a job that is too hard, live in credit card debt, buy clothes and cars instead of paying the bills, etc. We struggle with commitment in general, let alone hang in there when a relationship gets difficult. I am not proud of many of my generation. Just a lack of ambition and knowing how to work hard in general. My grandparents were homesteaders in Montana in 1910. They carried their water up from a spring to the house in a bucket. They needed each other in ways that a couple does not experience in today's society. Partnership and teamwork were needed to survive.

Answer 2

I agree with you. I also think that these days the media emphasizes me time and "it's all about me" stuff. In a marriage, I think that's terribly unhealthy. My husband and I get funny looks all the time for our "50's" lifestyle. We don't have cell phones, no cable TV, and we drive cars that we've paid off. We don't use credit cards. We home school our kids. We love each other and enjoy spending time together. We actually sit together and talk....often. We respect each other by keeping out of flirtatious behavior and pornography. I know that all these things seem limiting, but truly, I think they've been freeing. Oh, and I stay home and raise our kids.

We certainly aren't the norm, but I do know that our marriage will make it without a doubt. I recently started working PT at a grocery store after not working for 4 years and was shocked and surprised at how young people behave. For the most part, they have no respect for themselves or others. It scares me to think of what they will become as adults....

There have been many liberating changes in our society, I just wish that people would acknowledge that sometimes the tried and true method is what works best.

I'm glad I figured that out. I would take my wicked happy home life and wonderful kids and husband over a corporate job any day.

Answer 3

There are been complaints about spouses causing misery for hundreds of years, but divorce being illegal and then difficult to get made it next to impossible to get out and find true happiness. Remember, marriage is not the only way, nor is it the best way. I think that lax divorce laws can be a good thing, especially since marriage isn't as practical as it is 'romantic' for many people.

I do think that 'love' is the cause of divorce these days. Traditionally marriage was a practical option and love was a secondary practice to make a marriage work. Now that people marry for love alone, they find no practical use for marriage and quit. So I don't think people in the past were any better or had 'staying power'. I think they just had more social pressures and practical need for marriage.

Answer 4

i agree! everyone is ready to throw in the towel to quickly. people stayed to gether back in the days through thick and thin. all of my uncles and aunts and all the people they grew up with in those days all pritty much graduated from school, held down a decent job and now own nice homes. ok so the times started to change.... the kids they had all still live with their parents or their parents are raising their grandchildren. people had to stop spanking their kids and gas prices are way up minimum wage is so low the cost of houses are very expensive. So you have this generation of people getting married but not being able to last in their marriage because their kids are running the house the bills are to expensive and you can't even afford to gas up the car. So they devorse. sending someone to go back to mom and dads house. So they add on to the parents house or convert the garage and end up always with their parents. so then the kids (the grandkids) end up being more messed up when they get older. and pritty soon you won't even be able to get married no more because people won't know what it is or how to do it.

Answer 5

Fewer marriages and more divorces! Nobody wants to work on making their marriage work--and it IS hard work. It's just easier to say "goodbye." I personally think it should be much harder to get married, and people should have to have known each other at least a year and the guy should have to be 30 and the gal 25. And they should not have children until after they've been married at least five years--because who gets hurt the worst when a couple divorce? I also think that people getting married should have to post a bond in the amount of what the divorce would probably cost, and enough more for the "wounded party" to have enough money after the divorce to get their own place and furnish it.

My take on it only!!!

Answer 6

I agree, however, back in those days women were treated more like property or thought they HAD to do as their husband said. Today's women are more independent and don't NEED a man to be complete. Most women nowadays work outside the home and have their own money, they aren't sitting at home totally dependent on their husband. They don't HAVE to stay with a cheating or abusive spouse out of lack of money or no place to go. That being said, people(men and women) DO give up too easily on their marriages as they are always looking for something easier and better. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but if you tend to your own lawn it will be just as green!

Answer 7

Its true. People today have the Me first attitude and no stamina in a relationship. There needs to be much communication and giving. Most today are selfish and figure if things don't work out they will move on. They are just saying words when they say for better or worse.

Answer 8

Yes, I agree. I believe much has to do with both parties working and feeling independence. Women will not put up with the things our mothers did and vice versa.

Answer 9

yep i agree, its a big difference. the sad part is that the person that makes the biggest effort gets hurt now days

Answer 10

I agree 100% divorce these days are to easy.