Girlfriend and I?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been together for the last 2 1/2 years. Granted our relationship hasn't been perfect and its almost all my fault Well last week she decided to end it and just be friends. I'm totally crushed this is all I can think about. However, she is still spending some time with me or will still talk to me on the phone, for instance last night we walked the lake, Friday we'll have lunch, and Saturday I'm going to a wedding with her, and she's going to a game with me. She says she has no interest in me and her right now, and were just going to be friends. If she only wanted to be just friends would she be spending this much time with me right now? Or even though she denys it, is she giving me the opportunity to show her I do still care about her, and that I want this to work. I really want me and her to get back together,but I just can't tell from these mixed signs what she wants. It just seems to me she wouldn't want to spend so much time if she wasnt considering us still

Answer 1

well if you know you messed up and dont want to lose her then take advantage of the time you two are spending together and show her you can be a better man. she is giving you a clear signal that she wants you still and is hanging around to see if you want her as well and most important if you worth keeping around....dude, it is your call.

Answer 2

Even though she isn't interested in a romantic relationship, she seems like she still wants to be around you. Maybe she is trying to take things back to the beginning and trying to be just friends first and then see where it leads. Maybe she is just used to being around you. She is comfortable with you, but doesn't think you can make it romantically. Maybe she doesn't even know what she wants yet, but she doesn't want to close the door until she figures it out. It is really hard to tell what her motives are. I guess just keep it on a friends level for a wile and see where it goes.

Answer 3

Do you anything about women...or just nothing about this particular one? She is obviously fed up with your sh*t but she still cares for you. If you want any chance with her at all, take the blame, take things slowly, and let her know that you can wait for her to decide whats best for her.

During this period, talk to her ( a lot ) and he honest, make a concerted effort NOT to jump her bones ( and let her see you resist ), and guide your discussions ( at the wedding especially ) toward what life might be like in the future...if you had a future with her. Don't try to force the subject of you and her...she'll catch on quick enough if she wants you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Sounds like me and my boyfriend, I told him the same thing. He's a great guy but I just don't see a long term relationship with him. We've broken up 2 or 3 times but actually letting go is hard. We go out and have fun and he's a great friend but I just can't see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I care a lot about him but it'll never work, he doesn't make me completely happy.

Answer 5

Well, you are doing things that friends do, and having been in that situation, I would say that she just wants to be friends. On the other hand, since you do have the opportunity, it wouldn't hurt to show her that you have realized the error of your ways and that you want to be a better man for her. It may or may not work, depending on why she broke up with you. When I dumped my ex fiance, it was because I had grown up, and out of love with him, and there was nothing he could do to change it. But in your case it sounds like she may have run because she was sick of your bs. I won't hurt to try to show her you realize it was all your fault and you want to do better.

Answer 6

Sux doesnt it.. I know the feeling.. I mean.. If theres no reason for your breakup.. then just go out and have some fun. Think of things u like to do and go do em... go out for a night with some buddys! Go for a little trip somewhere . Get away from things that are pulling u down man.. u cant live on the wims of someone elses mistakes. U just cant dude

Answer 7

You are a man.. try to be a man ever.. if she tells she has no such relationship with you.. then you can admit your deep love.. if she neglects your request.. then it means she wants some other thing from you.. give her to her satisfaction and just enjoy ... Dont be so sad.. its life.. life is to enjoy.. not to throw it to someone who doesn't cares you..
understood?
Same like you I had an experience... She married to other man and she still wants me on her bed. Ya I spend once a week.. but only in day time when her husband is away for job.

I don't know if you are satisfied with my answer?
ok.. take care..

Answer 8

hey bro i hear ya.....remember that woman play LOTS of head games in relationships to get you to want them more, or be jealous, or make you realize what it would be like without them. so keep that in mind. also a way to find out if she still likes you is by showing less emotion than usual. If she begins trying harder and harder to get your attention, she wants you, if she doesn't realize you are giving you less attention, shes not concerned enough to want you back.Also don't suck up and do all these favors for her and act like you would do anything for her (even if you would do anything for her) because you might come off as desperate or obsessed. play a little game to make her want you back. talk about how good life is going.besides when shes in it. You DON"T want her to think shes too good for you so don't cut yourself down that is a weakness. showing embarassement over stuff is a weakness. Avoid Weaknesses bro

Answer 9

Give her, her space! She is testing the water right now, she is trying to see if you change a little! If you really want her back try being her friend right now and let her have some alone time! Of course she is still considering you, she just needs space, and you need to be her friend!!

Answer 10

She's mixed up or sending mixed signals. Long temr relationships are similar to habits, habits are hard to break. After the wedding, game etc you need to take the time to sit down and discuss and decide where your relationship is going. Good luck!