Most of us feel that honesty & trust are the keys to a successful relationship. Keeping secrets from our partners can lead to trouble but there are experts who are saying that keeping secrets can lead to our success. What do you think?
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2007-10-24 00:13:27 · 41 answers · asked by Me 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I've always felt that if you go around telling lies? You're always having to remember what lie you told. If you stick to the truth? You only have one thing to remember. That works for me!
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2007-10-24 00:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nunya Bidniss 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
If you do not love or trust your partner enough to be honest about your past, your goals for the future or what you expect out of your current life, then the relationship is a lie. Have you ever seen a t.v. show where the man has lost a job, and gets up , gets dressed and appears to go to work. What is that?? I would hope my other half would let me know that he lost a job so that I could be there for moral support. Lying about major things that could change your life is an insult to the other person involved.
I am not one to say I have not told the occasional white lie, like how much I lost at Bingo or how much I paid for that purse I just had to have, but if it really did not hurt the other emotionally or financially, the occasional little bending of the truth can actually be forgiven in my book. And ladies, don't tell me you have not done that lol. I know my hubby fibs when he tells me how big the fish was that he caught, funny those big ones never make it home!
2007-10-24 06:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it isn't. Honesty is usually the best policy but sometimes you must lie for the safety of others. One example where honesty wasn't the best policy was during the holocaust. If the people had told the truth that they were hiding jews then people would have died. So
2016-05-25 10:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by dionna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. I know sometimes people get hurt by the truth and that sometimes feelings get raw when told certain truths, but truth is always the thing that frees that captor. Lets say that I smell and I need to take a bath. Well if people don't tell me and are afraid of hurting my feelings, this causes several problems. First is that everyone has to put up with my stink, second is that I am an embarrassing mess and thirdly, no one wants to be around me. I would by all means rather someone just come right out and tell me how they feel. I know there are many more things that influences peoples thoughts on your question but if you really think about it, if we told the truth about all things than we wouldn't have most of the problems we all share in this modern day world. You know how many lies and cheats have created the world we live in today. It must be a mind blowing number......But one thing I need to mention is the way you tell people the truth should always be done in a loving and kind manner. People don't need to be hateful when telling someone the truth. Good day and God bless.
2007-10-24 17:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by ۩ Cuthbert ♂ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pat, the experts usually don't know what they are talking or teaching about! If one or the two partners keep secrets then they will become tense and irritable on the inside! Shutting things out of your life when it's real no matter what, honesty or trust, or anything will keep one from enjoying the other's company. Always tell the truth! Take care! Jimmy.
2007-10-24 09:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. Why?
An honest person is a person who chooses to speak the truth. They do not make up stories when they are caught in the wrong. They know that making up stories will just make things worse. An honest person is an honest friend. They do not lie to their friends to make themselves look good, or to make their friends feel bad. A true friend would never lie to their friend because they value friendship and the bond of trust that friendship is based upon. An honest person does not lie to their spouse. They do not sneak around or cheat.
When one person figures out that their friend or spouse has lied to them they feel hurt. They feel like they have been deceived, because they have been. What happens then? What happens next? The person loses trust for the betrayer. The relationship suffers. The person begins to doubt what their friend or spouse says to them because they fear that they will be lied to again.
Most times, a person who lies to you will lie again. Lying is a bad habit. Once a person has been lied to more than once by the same person their tolerance fades quickly. It does not feel good to be lied to. No one wants to be lied to. How many relationships have ended, friendships or marriages, because someone has lied one too many times?
The point is that if you want to keep the respect that people have for you, if you want to keep the bonds of trust that bind friends and lovers together, honesty is the best policy.
Without honesty in your relationships your relationships will suffer and deteriorate. When you lie to those you love and care for you will lose them. People don’t deserve to be lied to. No one wants to be lied to. Honesty always...
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2007-10-24 03:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think it is. I mean when you're the one keeping the secret or not being honest its okay in youre own head, but you figure how you'd feel if it was the other person keeping secrets and being dishonest and itd be a complete different story, which then would become hypocritical, and just wouldn't be pretty.
So honesty might not be the easiest way to go, but i think its the right way.
2007-10-24 00:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is always the best policy unless the truth would hurt someone's feelings. I wish I could tell you about the secret thing but you know I'm a loner baby. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. Now I want to lick you. Good morning angel. ♥
2007-10-24 02:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i do subscribe, believe, practice and preach on the concept of honesty being the best policy and I try to be honest as I can, there are times when white lies are necessary of course but yes I tend to be attracted with people who are honest because if the person is not, then there are list of things that follow downwards like you said trust, which goes hand in hand and credibility, etc....i am straight forward type so i don't keep good secrets...:-D
2007-10-24 02:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, Honesty maybe the Best Policy, but not in the economical and business world though. It's good to speak the truth, but too many truths may lead to our downfalls though.
Cheers and have a nice week ahead :)
2007-10-24 00:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by Larry L - Hi Everyone :D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are some things that you need not say, but that doesn't mean you have to be dishonest.. Sometimes there are things that aren't relevant to your current relationship, which means there is no point in bringing it up unless it becomes relevant..!
I also think that there are a few things that you should always keep just for you, some dreams and desires, aspirations.. You need to keep a little bit of mystery in your relationship, so it's good to keep someone guessing providing it not going to end up hurting them.. If you disclose everything then you have to be prepared for some kind of judgement...
2007-10-24 00:19:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋