Yea, some of you caused me to think this of my friend- who i thought was gay, but not sure now?

Question

My fiance currently "hates" my good friend over here. he will tell you anything to get you to "hate" him as well.. he talked bout yo momma, he made the bombs for osama, he's runnin against obama.. wutever. So, my friend... we um, thought he was gay. I mean, just cuz we've never heard of him with a girl don't mean nothing, we never heard of him with a guy either. Typically when my friend gets jumped or something, I get pissed cuz to me thats like a bunch of guys fighting a girl. Ok, so since my fiance moved away, I been hanging with this friend a lot more. He's easy to talk to, fun to chill with, virtually drama free. I talk to ppl about him, or comment on something he told me, and they're like o i never knew that, he don't do that for me, ect... and my fiance seems to get jealous of me chillin wit my friend and had recently forbidden me from hanging out with him. We're real close 2. Would do nething 4 the other- have in fact. He got in a fight for me, dumb yea. He;s my best friend.

Yea, I asked a q about my friend and fiance an hour ago, if u happen to ahve seen it, lol.

OMG! Is there any reason to think my friend is not what I thought or that he'd want more than a friendship? This is just SUCH an odd thing to be asking. I really thought he was gay, but now I don't THINK he is, and he would deny it. He NEVER talks about about ANYone he likes... he has to like someone. I just started thinking about all this. Should I ask him that? Hmm, I never thought of that b4.

Ohhh, I'm tired, I'm thinkin WAY too much over here, lol.

Answer 1

I hope you thought seriously about talking to him, be a great start. Also don't confuse friendships and relationships like that, its actual friendship>relationship. I know you don't understand that but people don't understand friendships. Friendships, espcailly best friends is beyond just being nice. Its beyond just spending time together. ITS ABOUT BEING ABLE TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER!!! And when we have a better friend outside a relationship, its means your relationship sucks. Sorry I'm sure you guys have great sex, show each other all kinds of romance, but in the end you can't have a deep, meaningful relationship, WITH OUT AN F'IN FRIENDSHIP!!!! SO the truth is, right now, in your life. IS this

Best Friends>Your boyfriends

So your in conflict, your boyfriend has a right to be worried, the neglect you've guys done in trying to make a friendship is coming thru and your making another friend on the side. Natural friends can become lovers, but as your finding out lovers rarly become friends. Thats what happens to most of us thou, because we can't look outside the box.... as for the gay stuff, thats sexuality, friendships don't gauretee relationships, just as screwing someone and telling them you love them doesn't always make a friend......