Don't you think single moms are over-rated?

Question

O.K if you are a widow or devorced I feel your struggle.

But I don't see why I should respect the rest because they put it on themselves.

Styvie'sblu
So you agree they were stupid they got played.
Thats why they should not get any credit because they were stupid.
We can't praise dumb irresponsible people.
People who don't even respect themselve.

Answer 1

Ayiza - first - who asked for your respect? Cause do you know, if there isone thing single mums get used to very quickly, it is living without that.

I do note that you say excluding divorced or widowed.As I fall under the first, I am actually not going to bite your head off tooo much.

But do you know, Mate -people have sex. Pregnancies happen. That is simply how it is. Do you honestly think every girl is still waiting for marriage? Afraid not.

But those woman made a choice - to raise their kids on their own, to do what is neccessary to keep them happy, and healthy, and balanced. And no - we do not need sympathy. We do not need much at all, actually.

We are the woman who bring up our kids on our own. Do the house work. Do the gardening. The shopping, the budget, the bills. The house repairs, the holidays. The nights alone with our sick kids. The parent evenings. The hard and the easy decisions. And still so so much more. That is not even a start.

So if you decide that you do not respect single mums, let me tell you - the problem lies with you, not them. Because it shows an insecurity within yourself, that you can not respect woman who is that strong.

I was really dissapointed to read some of the answers on here, and do you know, it still surprises me how judgemental people can be. As if you never made a mistake? Not that I think for one moment being a single mum is a mistake. It beats the other choices. But then, unless you live your life a 100% clear, and do nothing that can be considered wrong in anyones eyes, why not just shut up about the choices other people make? And if you think you do live like that, wake up, and knock on the coffin.

I got pregnant whilst married, yes. And divorced because my husband chose that. But dont you dare say bad things about other single mums. Because you got no clue.

Answer 2

I salute all single mums out there! Life is not easy even for males (without offspring). C'mon fellas, be fair, irrespective of the reason for being a single mom just look at what women earn out there in the open market...generally substantially less than us. How do single moms juggle a full time job, a family, little support from society, medical bills, education etc? Small wonder that they get into trouble with their finances.

Sometimes women become single parents out of sheer desperation - abuse, rape, emotional blackmail, useless or unfaithful partners, etc. I for one cannot blame them for changing their status to "single with kids" under any of those circumstances.

If I were a single mum I'd treat your comment with the contempt that it deserves. You are obviously in a great comfort zone. Spare a thought for those who break their backs to survive, by any means.

Answer 3

Actually Ayiza, no we are not over-rated! I am a single mom, happy and coping just fine. Who asked for your respect anyway? I mean why on earth would any single moms out there care if you respected them or not! The point I'm trying to say is don't just judge people like that! And for your info, like Sins said many women out there don't even want to get married!

Answer 4

Ayiza, there is always two sides to a story. You cannot paint all single moms with the same brush as some have extenuating circumstances leading to their situations. I always thought that people in overseas countries were more educated in such matters until I actually saw it for myself. Now, after seeing some really crazy things within family circles, I,m not so sure what's going on anymore. I would advise you not to judge too quickly.

Answer 5

I'll treat a single mother, like anyone else - respect should be earned.

Some of them learned a valuable lesson by getting into that situation in the first place - the fact that they can learn from their mistakes scores them a few points with me. If everyone was judged so harshly for every mistake they ever made, we'd all be worth squat!

Answer 6

Nooit, bro, your foot must be incredibly small, because its just gone into your mouth again.

Did you stop & think why there are single ma's?
Its because they were played. Some womanising moron pply filled their heads with lies about love and support just to get in their pants and ran at the first sight of a missed period.
Guys like that are little boys, not men. Men take care of their own.

I never said single moms were stupid. Im saying that they are victims to horny men who cant figure out the consequences to their actions. Sure, it might be a mistake that they believed the lies, but whose fault is that? Why blame the victim?

Answer 7

Well first of all most single moms (not the divorced or widowed ones) are single moms because daddy dearest packed his stuff and started running without looking back.

I accepted it and doing the best I can ON MY OWN. I don't ask anyone to support me, help me, feel sorry for me, etc NOTHING. All I ever ask people is to accept my kid as they would accept a kid with a mom AND a dad and don't take it out on her, because I her mom made the mistake and totally misjudged her dad.

And you know what makes me proudest of all: If a married mom comes to me and tells me she admires me for doing such a good job and she would not know if she would have been able to cope with her kids on her own.

So I guess in general we are not overrated.

Answer 8

Being pregnant out of wedlock is one thing.
Being a single mother is a whole different story!
One that entails resposibility that one must carry for a lifetime. No matter how women end up as single parents, if they do a damn good job at it they definitely deserve everybody's respect. That includes you!

Answer 9

What about the women that are single moms because they got raped and don't believe in abortions? They derserve our pitty.

And every single mom derserve our pitty. It is hard to be a parent and raise good children.

Answer 10

i am divorced, and i am a single mother, i got 2 daughters, their father is a stingy jerk, i got divorced bcoz i caught him was having affair when i went home to deliver my 2nd daughter, i was sexually abused by him for times, listen carefully you kid, we divorcee, never take marriage as a game, we divorced bcoz we suffered at our marriage and we wish to stop that before any thing goes to the worst, i never thought carefully before i married to that jerk, i admited that i brought this by my own, everyone does said the same thing to me.
but i never beg for money, i never beg for pity, i work on my own, i raise my kids by my own, i dont need your respect, keep that for yourself.
and don't you jugde people by their position, you don't know us, you don't know the true story that happened behind,seems like you are the one who over-rated.