checking out other guys. She says that she is just looking around the room or the train and im over reacting and its the fact that im so parionoid (which i am anyway). We both admit we check out other people and agreed its only natural, BUT IS IT?
Im mean i check out other girls.
It pisses me off when i see her eyeing up another bloke and cant say anything about it otherwise she gets mad and we start fighting again.
2007-10-23 21:34:22 · 26 answers · asked by AJ21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I never said it was OK for me to check out other girls was just saying that i do and dont know if its ok??????
2007-10-23 21:43:30 · update #1
Maybe she doesn't like you checking out girls, and she's trying to teach you a lesson. Have a sit down with her and set some rules down...like: you guys can check out other people, but not when you are with each other. If one catches the other checking out another person, then the one caught owes the other a dollar.
2007-10-23 21:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me, checking out other people - though natural - is not the way I would want to act if I was in a relationship, and I wouldnt want the person I was with to do it either.
I dont want to be mean here, I understand your predicement, but I think the simple answer is to just ignore it if you can because otherwise she can simply throw the fact you also check out other people back at you, that it isnt a one way street and this could, as you've said, lead to more arguments. Possibly you ae being paranoid, but I think you need to trust each other on this and agree to disagree. As you both do it, neither of you can really take the upper hand with this situation. I think the only real danger here would be if you were to take it further than just looking.
In answer to your question, is it natural, yes it is. But I am not sure it is right if you are in a relationship. Sorry I cant be more help. :(
2007-10-24 05:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you do not learn quickly to give and take in life you are going to be in for a rough time. Jealousy has always been the worst thing that you can suffer from and the other an over vivid imagination. Extend you trust and if the girl friend abuses it, then you shouldn't be with her anyway. The other thing that comes to mind 'don't do as I do, do as I say', you will not get away with that with the modern girl either, unless you wont more trouble
2007-10-24 04:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by ERIC S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on clawing her eyes out (always a relationship breaker), she is always going to look at other guys. She's in a relationship, not dead. It's extremely natural, normal, & healthy. As long as she's not trying to hook up with them, who cares?
Besides, what makes it ok for you to check out other girls, but it's not ok for her to check out other guys? You have some serious issues if you are unable to trust your girlfriend. I'm trying to be nice, but honestly people like you p*ss me off. You are just full of double standards. You need to either learn to deal with your girlfriend's occasional looks at other guys or break up with her so she can move onto a guy who's not a total dipwad.
2007-10-24 04:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its natural to eye up the opposite sex... however if its become an issue between you, you must sit down and discuss it before it breaks you up. You both must become more sensitive to the others feelings... and if she made you feel secure in your r'ship and visa versa... would this be an issue at all??? I think there is more underlying problems here... talk to each other.. it can only help.... and I mean TALK... nothing is ever solved in a screaming match.. but remember... whats for you won't pass you by...
2007-10-24 04:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by topazale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both do it, whats the problem. Nothing ever comes of it, its perfectly natural. By the sounds of things you really need to change the way you behave or you'll loose her. Just take time to think about things before you say them, it'd save a lot of arguments
2007-10-24 12:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by sparkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your only looking then theres no harm really, Its not nice to know your g/f is looking at other men but she is sat next to you so she is hardly going to do anything with these other men.
You cant have double standards and will have to accept that your g/f looks at other men occasionally but she comes home to you at the end of the day not the other men!
2007-10-24 04:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its natural, a train Journey is boring so you have to check out the passengers.
You will notice the ugly ones just as much as the good looking ones.
2007-10-24 04:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Marxsparx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chill out a bit. She is reacting normal. You just said that you check out other girls why wouldn't she check out other guys
2007-10-24 04:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by rene1695 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So it is okay for you to check out other females, but a big no no when your girlfriend does so?
I think that is a bit hypocritical....
Everyone does it, yes it annoys the other half...but its only natural to look at someone if you are attracted to them- as long as she doesnt touch then you have nothing to worry about!
Alix x
2007-10-24 04:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by dollyally3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋