Over the years I have been going to my brothers house and my cousins house for dinner or just to hang out. Now that I have a house of my own im going to throw my first dinner party and find it to be very gratifying. Making my house look nice for my guests gives me great pleasure, so I started to think that having people over to your house gives you great pleasure...even more than been a guest.
The Host feels more content because he is offering things and contributing to others, it also gives the host a chance to show his home and presentation.
The guests enjoy the invitation but I think that the Host gets the most joy.
I have even noticed that when I did the invitation the people that have invited me over and over again did not sound to excited to come to my house. You can totally tell that they get more pleasure out of inviting than been invited.
Now when I go to peoples houses as a guest I will be very happy because I know Im making them Happy by going.
2007-10-23 20:51:33 · 6 answers · asked by sfumato1002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Inviting people over to your house for dinner is not selfish, it's giving.
As you say, you have been invited to your brothers and cousins either for dinner or just hanging out for years. So what does that make them? From what you're saying, your brother and counsins are very selfish people.
You now have a home of your own and wanted to invite and entertain those same people who have invited you to their homes for years.
It's good to hear that you were excited about being able to open your home to your family. It should be exciting for you. You're starting a new life with more responsibilties and now have the chance to have a dinner party for you family.
You know, people are very hard to understand at times. Your family should have been excited right along with you. By you inviting them to your home, you would think they would be jumping for joy, because this time they were the guests.
I'm wondering what exactly is going on with your family not wanting to come to your new home for dinner. It's not a case of they get more pleasure inviting rather than being invited. I know this is not what you wanted to hear. I can also tell that the whole situation was a surprise to you.
Here, you finally get the chance to be the host and they aren't liking it. What the heck is that all about.
I think I know what's going on. They don't like the fact that you don't have to depend (as they think) on them for a meal and their entertainment. They probably don't even like the fact that you now have a home of your own.
They don't like the fact that they just might have to get off their chairs and take a ride over to your house.
They didn't show any support for you when you invited them over for dinner. They were down right rude. You don't hesitate when someone invites you to dinner unless you have another comittment.
Guess it's too much for these people to handle a little change in their routine. Besides being rude, you can throw in jealousy right along with that. You now have your own home and it sure sounds like you know what you're doing when it comes to entertaining guests. I believe they know that too.
If they just can't get them selves to come over for dinner, some relaxing time and being sered their favorite beverage then maybe it's time to find other people/friends who will appreciate your kindness.
Put me down on your next list of guests, because I'll be there.
I don't mind clearing my schedule.
This is how I see the situation. Other wise those people would be at your home having a good time.
I wish you much happiness in your new home and I know you will be a great entertainer. Remember, put me down on the list.
2007-10-23 22:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Eagles Fly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something missing in here.If people aren't enthusiastic by coming to your house and you feel it's because they get more pleasure in inviting than getting invited, then something is amiss.You better ask some of them in confidence and try to find out what more you can do to make them excited to come to your place.Hope you are quite liberal with your servings and looking after.I can't be more open than this.
there is a missing link is
2007-10-23 21:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how this is a question since you kind of answered it yourself.
But if you like it, then good for you. Personally I don't like having big parties because it's too much work and mess. Maybe one, two or three close friends is fine but not more. Certainly not a huge party where everyone gets messed up....haha.
2007-10-23 20:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Maril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u did kinda answer your own question..
but i don't think inviting ppl over to your house is selfish..
in fact i think its nice, its like opening your hearts to them..
but maybe some ppl might not like new surroundings..
like me, i think..
cuz i feel like im in my territory when im at home
and when i have guests, they're in my territory
so im not as intimidated..
yes, i get intimidated easily.. -_-"
but more to the point, i think that may be one of the reasons..
some ppl on the other hand may like being guests..
its good u like hosting tho and being a guest,
as long as it makes others happy
I don't see the harm in it... ^^
have a nice day!!~
2007-10-23 21:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Serenity C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people like to be a big show off,, sure me too. we like to get that slap on the back,, it feels good don,t it,, the next time have one big as you can and see if it,s true maybe a big cook out
2007-10-23 20:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by rocketman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not in a million
2007-10-23 21:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋