we all get pissed off at times but theres such a thing called lettin it go,but i dnt know y he always goes on n on n on in arguments saying horrid things n then its me to blame for mking the initial comment.though that was a result from his action.apologizing doesnt wrk.y has he a short temper,by the way its only with me not with his family.wat do i do?
2007-10-23 20:48:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has a very bad temper threatens to throw things n shouts a lot.dont want to leave him just need advice
2007-10-23 20:58:24 · update #1
i dont think hes behaviour is normal..other guys rnt like this.wen hes mad i cnt touch him,cry, hold him,wen i try reasoning he always says ure going off the point,i find it so hard to win with him...wen i walk away n go for a walk he treatens to not *** bak for the night...it doesnt mke sense....does it...
2007-10-23 21:02:06 · update #2
the solution hasnt been found n we always argue bout same thing but wen its happened diffrently if u know wat i mean...but hes way is not the right way always ...he cant seem to understand that my wants n needs should be accounted for.he doesnt show affection much,his not hving an affair i asked him..hes not happy with me n i am scared we r gona seperate....
2007-10-23 21:04:39 · update #3
Sounds like you need to leave the room when the argument is over. And it's over when YOU say it's over. Give him a clue, like saying 'whatever' when he starts being unreasonable.
People can't argue by themselves.
2007-10-23 22:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the saying it takes two to tango? Same thing with an Arguement. If he will not let it drop ignore him. Let him do all the ranting and raving he wants and you continue to do what ever you are doing without saying anything to him.
Here is another thought. Does he keep the arguement going because a solution to the problem has not been made? Is he happy with the solution if one had been found? Why don't you try talking to him when you are not arguing and ask him. It could be that he feels that you are not taking his feelings or opinions into account.
2007-10-24 03:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is the same way, only he has alcohol involved. I have laid down the law for the last time; if things don't drastically change in the next month, he is out of here. I'm over the screaming. I can't seem to do anything to please him.
You can either put up with it, get counseling, or leave. Those are about your only choices. Good luck; it's not easy.
2007-10-24 03:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your husband so well.
When arguments like this arises ... you should know by now what to do. Simply stop arguing with him. If he'll see that you are not responding to him, he will simply stop. That's it.
The question why only with you... it is because ... wife most of the time is the shock absorber. And he thought that we could bear all his weknesses.
If you want forever relationsip, try to deal with that.
2007-10-24 04:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by always confuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try different things with him.Try to ignore him,walk away insted of sticking around and listening.Try showing him that you are hurt.Speaking softly would help sometimes.And finally tell him off,get your point through his head and yell as hard as you can by telling him you are sick and tired of him hagin all the time.Just try and see which will help to shut him up.
2007-10-24 03:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually fighting over the same thing over and over means the problem wasnt resolved in the first place, and so it keeps coming up, and you two need to learn to have discusssions and stop him in his tracks when he start to escalate, he sounds like he has control issues as well, and he needs to learn to listen to you as well...
2007-10-24 05:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez.... he's 1 angry & insecure person. Dun let him off the hook so easily. Dun just apologize, but sit down & reason with him. Dun raise voices or walk off but talk it all out. Once he can see that you are all about reasoning, he will not take treat you as a punching bag anymore...GLuck
2007-10-24 03:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SRY TO SAY THIS BUT "DIVORE" him before he becomes CRAZY he is not ok , if u dont leave him now later itll become more critical hell start hitting u ,your husband is not ok hell keep on doing this if u dont stop this!!!,you said your self that he is not happy with thats why he is doing these things ...
2007-10-24 06:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by efriendtou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him completely. He's probably just trying to get a rise out of you.
2007-10-24 03:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by calimari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
imho he feels frustrated because he doesn't feel that during an argument you even try to see his point of view
my wife does this to me and she acts like her opinion is the only one that should matter to either of us
2007-10-24 04:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by 1 free American 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋