The kind of thing that is happening is she walks towards her class and some boys walk the other way and as they pass one of the boys shouts 'My mate wants to go out with you'. She finds this quite anoying and embarrassing. I don't know if the school has any power to stop this and I'm worried that if I complain I might be a bit of a fuddy duddy Mum.
2007-10-23 20:18:19 · 20 answers · asked by sophie d 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
yes you would be a fuddy duddy mum..this happens at every mixed school in the uk and begins earlier than the age of 11 lol. its harmless..kids have little crushes that last about two weeks...dont worry about it! They dont intentionally mean to harass your daughter!
2007-10-23 20:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is quite normal behaviour if the boys are about the same age. Puberty is kicking in and hormones are playing havoc with their systems. Try to explain to your daughter that this is normal behaviour and she should take it as a compliment because the boys think she is pretty. If their behavious becomes overtly sexual then of course you should complain to the school, or if the boys are very much older they should also be told their comments are unacceptable. Do you know the boys parents? Perhaps you could talk to them and explain how your daughter feels. Congratulations on having such a pretty daughter.
2007-10-24 03:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by translatorinspain 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At my school here in the States, we give general instructions to all students about the kind of harassment (even mild) that your daughter is experiencing. We emphasize that harassment is in the "eye" of the receiver, and that if you are told to stop doing something, you'd better stop, even if you think you are just teasing.
It's all part of our anti-bullying efforts.
Check with your school to see what they are doing to prevent bullying in general. You may be pleased to learn they have a generally good program and will welcome your information that some of the students are not catching on.
Or you may have to suggest that they begin one. Make sure that it is comprehensive and integrated into the school-wide curricula. The link provides a list of several successful programs that may fit your school.
Either way, you can help the school become a better, safer, more comfortable place for all students by taking positive steps to help rather than simply complaining.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 03:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by English teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a bit over protective. I have an 11 year old daughter & a 15 yr old son. This is just a fact of life with boys, they get a few hormones, they act like prats. If your daughter turned round & said, "Ok then." they would probably cr*p themselves & run a mile. Don't wrap her up in cotton wool, give her the confidence to deal with situations she finds difficult. You're not always going to be around to protect her & when she goes up to secondary school she'll encounter far more silly boys than at primary. My daughter just ignores the boys or laughs at them, that soon punctures their egos.
2007-10-24 03:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mimkat hate the new Yahoo Answers so has retired. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual harrassment ?
Er ... no.
I'm around the same age as your daughter (a little older) and guys say that to me all the time. I get jeered at, whistled at, the lot. It can be annoying & embarrassing at times, but one just needs to laugh it off. Trust me, the school CANNOT stop this, so there's not much point complaining to them. It's just normal behaviour for kids around that age (aka. NOT sexual harrassment at all). They're only joking around, you know ... If she doesn't react (as in looking embarrassed and flustered) then they'll stop. Whatever you do, do not complain to the school - they're just kids joking around and having some (innocent) fun.
2007-10-24 08:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are concerned and want to do the best, all you can do is talk to her and speak about how she is feeling, ask her if there is anything she wants you to do?
But most of all you need to accept its life.
My son is 11 and he has had girlfriends since he was 7 and a few months back i was ready for going to see this young girl as she had been seeing his mate behind his back, he was in turmoil and he is only 11, but you need to let them grow up and find their own way.
Good luck x
2007-10-24 03:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its just boys being silly boys !! but just for an 11 year old girl can be quite embarrassing .
My suggestion is that she should be ready with a quick retort like , come back when you grow up !!! , or ask again when you can afford to take me out . I am sure if she can crush their boldness they will move on to someone else
Good Luck
2007-10-24 03:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Scobill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is the most they say, you may be overreacting. Explain to her that all tween and teen boys are pretty dumb and she should ignore them. Better yet, she should make a point of laughing it off with her girl friends.
If it is really upsetting for her, I suggest you talk to the school counselor or principal. You don't have to get the boys in trouble but you could be preventing a lot of angst for the kids they tease.
2007-10-24 03:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Were you never young,it's a perfectly normal part of growing up, it's not the place of the school to tell your daughter how to live her life & if they did she would do what any normal kid would do, she would rebel, so take responsibility for her, and start acting like a responsible parent instead of trying to blame the schools, which have quite enough to do.
2007-10-24 03:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by J I H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bit awkward really. I personally wouldn't go and see anyone, but tell your daughter to see it in a different light. She is obviously very pretty and she is the one always in control. I just think its a growing up thing.
2007-10-24 03:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by susie h 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋