Ok the other day me and my boyfriend were watching TV and all of the suden he got up off the bed and he looked at me and the next thing i saw was that he had spit on me and it got all over my hair that i had just washed...so i looked at him and asked what the hell was that all about and he started to laugh and i looked away because i was really mad and i didn't know how to react so i was quiet for about 2 min and then i felt this anger whatever,whatever inside of me and i looked at him and all i remember was that i spited all over his hair.
After that he said:"Oh that doesn't bother me" and i was like WTF?
So people should i forget it or do something about it?
i am 18 and he is 20
just so yall know
2007-10-23 19:38:29 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That is really immature, especially for a 20yr old.
2007-10-23 19:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
First thing is spitting on someone is a serious social action for adults. You should take it seriously.
You should also be very concerned with your own reaction, regardless of his actions. Is that really the person you are, or want to be? Someone who spits on a boyfriend.
Would you go shoplifting with him or abuse a pet, or break some other social mores?
His unprovoked action is very hostile and abusive. He is testing the waters for more abuse and control. When you see a TV movie about an abused 35 year old and think that could never happen to me, just like 100% of all herion addicts started with just one fix. Same thing.
Your self esteme should kick in. Don't get emotional or fight or argue, you ask him to leave, wait a few days then break up. And don't even mention the spitting issue. I would guess this is not the only problem you two have.
Best of luck.
2007-10-23 19:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try at first to try to talk with him about it and if that doesn't help then it probaly means that the relationship isn't meant to be and that you should end it. A friend said this to me and I'm saying it to you: " Boyfriends are like buses there is always another one after even if there is a long wait between them." I was in a similiar situation 2 years ago and I came to the realization that the guy was wrong for me he didn't respect me enough it sounds like you may be having the same problem with your relationship. If you don't have a mans respect then he isn't worth the tears or frustration besides unless the guy is more mature than the rest of his age group then he isn't ready for a real relationship try a trial seperation see if that will help.
2007-10-23 19:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dawna V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happened. Ask yourself will you forget it if you get slapped or cussed out or called a bad name? This spitting bothered you and didn't bother him so that is a problem. I used to look over little forms of abuse from others, until they grew into just ,plain being abused. Do not accept this as a way of life for yourself, cos it will take you down to the bottom. It's good that you asked this question, so you are getting your self esteem in check. Good for you! Check out some articles on partner abuse and self esteem. It all goes together in the end. And have a great life!
I'm 46
just so ya know
2007-10-23 19:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by David E/Jazz pianist at large 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you two are made for each other! This spitting episode shows a lack of respect and maturity. Please do not be offended. A person doesn't spit on someone for no reason dear Heart! Unless the person is really disturbed. Your reaction was normal because you had been treated like dirt. In cases like that, it's better to look for another boyfriend.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 19:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by montralia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET HELP NOW!!!!
First it begins as something simple then it leads to a controlling relationship I've been through it first it starts small then over tim when he finds out that he wont do anything about it then he will keep doing it and it will get worse
Don't take it any more maybe you should seek professional help if you feel like you can't leave
Please pay attention to the little things ok do it for me
2007-10-24 07:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by -Juss L0VΣly™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
putting bodily fluids on things is a thing that males do in every species (though usually not spit) and it's usually an issue of control. he thinks you're his and wants to control you. what it all boils down to is --- Do you want to be controlled? many people like to be controlled, others abhor it. it's really your decision.
or he could have been messing around and did something stupid that he couldn't take back. this happens too when guys are uncomfortable in a situation.
He might be the *&^%&% that immediately springs to mind, but then again, he might not. whatever you decide, try to talk to him first and don't rush to break up with him. if he makes a habit out of it, you should consider breaking up, but the one incident might have been him being a temporary idiot, which happens sometimes.
2007-10-23 20:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by modapianoman2nahalf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oooooooooohhhhhh Helllllllllllllllls NOoooooooooooooo.
You need to have some self respect and dump his @ss. You don't do this kind of thing even if it was a joke. What your bf did was very disrespectful and if you let him get away with it, it just shows that you have no self esteem or respect, because guys come a dime a dozen, he's not the only boy (because he's not a man) on this planet.
2007-10-23 19:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's 20? Are you sure you didn't mean 2? That's not only immature but completely disrespectful. Spitting on another person, in my book, is the lowest you can go. I would rather be punched in the face then spit on. Leave this loser alone. Seriously.
2007-10-24 04:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump the loser!!
he has NO respect for you if he find that funny
that is disgusting and rude, and immature
damn, im 20 and ive never had a boy my age do something like that.
they should know better.
i could see a 6 year old doing that. but 20? c'mon now dude grow up!
tell him hes a disrespectful disgusting loser and you didnt appreciate that..
if you still want to be with him, tell him that next time he does something like that you're done..
thats gross!
he's lucky it wasnt me. he wouldnt have his manhood anymore if it was.
if he does stuff like that now its showing that in the future he isnt gonna treat u well so take it as a warning sign
u dont need that
2007-10-24 02:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG dump him that's so disrespectful!
I had a bf who had spit on me and I stayed with the guy.. didn't end good I'll tell you that!! You don't have to settle for a guy like that. I did and I was unhappy.. someone who REALLY cares for you doesn't spit on you!!
There are men out there that will honor a woman and take care of her.. you just have to be worth it. Respect yourself and leave. Good luck.
2007-10-23 19:43:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋