My boyfriend went out last night with his co-workers because they were supposed to have a business meeting, but they ended up going to a strip club. I know it's not cheating, but we have 2 babies and I don't think a family man should go to strip clubs.
He says he didn't do anything wrong because he told me he went there.
I just don't think it's right for him to go to strip clubs, when he could be home helping me with the babies? He's never home as it is.
Am I wrong?
2007-10-23 19:32:46 · 7 answers · asked by Trish 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not married and I don't have kids...but if my boyfriend ever went to a strip club it would be over. On the plus side he was honest with you which means he cares. Most guys would say the first excuse that comes out of their mouth. If he's never at home then thats another reason to be upset. Why should he be out watching naked girls while your at home raising BOTH your children. Its unfair to you completely. I bet he'd throw a fit if you went to a male strip club with your friends while he had the kids. Its a two way street and especially when children are involved its just best to stay away from situations like that. Strip Clubs ruin relationships...why did he think you'd be okay with it in the first place?
2007-10-23 19:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by KittieKatten 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not a matter of right or wrong, your feelings are your feelings.
That being said; your boyfriend was atleast honest with you about where he went. Which depending on how you came down on him, he may not be next time. If you really don't wish for him to go, ask him not too.. but to barrade him because he went is a little unfair.
It's not like he's coming home with clam juice on his hands and changing the babies diapers. And obviously he didn't think it was that big of a deal.
The question isn't whether it's right or wrong, but whether he's willing to respect YOUR feelings. It's not like the kids know where he's been, stop using the babies as an excuse. This has nothing to do with them.
If your uncomfortable with him being there, it's OK your allowed to feel that way. Furthermore, it doesn't sound like this is a habit for him.
2007-10-23 19:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're not wrong to want your boyfriend at home, especially if he isn't there much. And whether or not you approve of strip clubs is between the two of you. Some women don't mind, others do. If you don't want him going to places like that, tell him. Just don't pester him about helping, it's quite possible that's exactly what he's avoiding. Separate the issues, so you can deal with them one at a time.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 19:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It´s not that I would say "Hurray! My husband went to a strip club last night" but I don´t see any harm in it.
Your boyfriend was honest and told you about it.He trusts you and you should trust him.He doesn´t cheat on you just looked at the girls there. So what?
Don´t be mad at him anymore or he is not going to tell you about his whereabouts in the future.
But you´re right when it comes to your babies.Ask him to look after them while you have a night out with some girls.
2007-10-23 19:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not mad about the strip club, you are mad at the fact that he is not being a father when he should be. Tell him he needs to finish his chores before going out to play.
2007-10-23 19:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, i TOTALLY agree w/ you. I'm not married but if my boyfriend EVER went to a strip club... i would be very pissed.
It's one thing... if your single and you wanna go to places like that... but if your w/ some one i find it very bad and degrading.
ANYTHING can happen and you shouldn't put yourself in situations like that, especially if your w/ someone cuz things happen. (TEMPTATIONS)
If i were you, i would talk to your husband and tell him your concerns and feelings about that. I'm sure he would stop because he loves you and respects your feelings.
Good Luck!
2007-10-23 19:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's okay as long as he tells u. Its when he don't thats where u need to get worried. a man need space & time with his buddies. Keeping him caged up at home will only drive him away,,,,don't worry, be happy,,,:-here's something that will make u smile....
A young Japanese girl had been taught all of her life that when she married she was to please her husband and never upset him.
So the first morning of her honeymoon when the young Japanese bride crawled out of the bed after making love and she stooped down to pick up her husband's clothes and she let a big fart.
She looked up and said: "Scuse prease, front hole so happy back hole whistle!"
Best of luck.....
2007-10-23 19:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋