My husband lies about everything. He lies about where he's at. He lies about who he's with. He comes home at all hours of the night. He says he's at work but he's not. He doesn't answer my calls. I've tried telling him how it makes me feel. He said he would change all of it but an hour later he's right back at it.
2007-10-23 19:11:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not to worry you, but those all sound like signs of cheating. I would make myself wise to his ways immediately and see if he is just a compulsive liar or cheater.
Check his car for anything suspicious that he wouldn't have:
X. Look for hairs in the passenger side seat that are not your own (different color) or if the car smells like a perfume that isn't one you own.
X. If you two have a joint cell phone plan or bank account check for any strange numbers that seem to appear numerous times. Check to see if any of those numbers called or were called at the time you tried to get a hold of him.
X. Check bank statements and history for gifts you never received, nicer places to go eat that he wouldn't go to alone. Strange purchases, and and/or larger withdrawals of cash.
X. Check his pockets for anything strange like a number, or just something that is suspicious.
X. Try logging mileage on the car, check email accounts if you have the passes or can figure them out.
X. Hell, you could always follow him one of these days.
I know this sounds like a lot of sneaking around to do but, if I were you I would do it. Because I would rather be dead then live an unhappy marriage, a woman/man owes it to themselves to be happy.
Good luck girl!
2007-10-23 19:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Since you told him how you feel and he said he would change and then didn't, he doesn't love you any more and isn't concerned about you. You need to tell him to go to counseling with you in order to get a third person involved and if that doesn't help, a divorce is the only answer. Then you will be able to find a person who cares enough, a person who loves you enough to not lie but instead share his life with you, which this guy is not doing.I hope you can make it work but truthfully, a divorce sound like the only way you will find love and happiness.
2007-10-23 19:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okey stop asking him. So he won't lie. hehe .... Just kidding.
This kind of behaviour is really difficult to change.
Here are some reasons maybe:
- to stop the conversation quickly.
- he hates to communicate.
- doesn't want to hurt you or worried.
- not thinking about any consequences.
- a free-go-lucky person
- etc, etc.
Summary: No respect to your feeling.
But, you can change him if you want to. Start from the beginning .... treat him like your nursery kids. Remember how you treat these little boys and girls not to tell lies? Do exactly as it is.
2007-10-23 20:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by always confuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is one of those people that has probably lied about everything their whole lives.... there are people that are pathological liars and it is hard to get them to break that habit or mindset.... they lie about anything and everything.... unfortunately the probably won't change and there is nothing you can do about that....other than to not be with him....before they can do something about their problem one must acknowledge that a problem exist.... it doesn't sound like he thinks he really has a serious problem.... if you have no kids to think about maybe it would be a good idea to get away from him.... maybe if he sees that it truly is a problem you will be important enough to him where he will seek help in order to get you back.
2007-10-23 19:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's probably cheating on you. No one has a reason to lie unless they are hiding something big - and this sounds like he's hiding another woman!!
Seriously - I would be very suspicious! If he lies to you, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings or have any respect for you.
Time to have a serious talk with this man - if he doesn't stop his nonsense, it's time to go your separate ways my dear!
2007-10-23 19:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rue 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Without knowing the entire situation, and smaller trivial happenings, and basing my judgment on the written text, it sounds as though her is cheating. Try a marriage counselor-if he doesn't want to fix your marriage, then there are a lot more serious problems to be addressed.
2007-10-23 19:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Happy. Finally. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
D you call after him 24/7 a lot to find out of his whereabouts?Are you accusing him of lying and cheating as soon as he walks through the front door?
Sorry,but no wonder he lies to you.He just want to be left alone.Before he´s accused again for something he didn´t do wrong he simply lies.Perhaps he likes to go out for a beer after work with his co workers there´s nothing wrong about that.
Find a way to compromise.YOU will not call after him if he´s late and HE calls you to tell you that and why he´s going to be late.
2007-10-23 19:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
baby girl i'm so sorry to be the one to have to tell you this i know you already know but if he lies about everything and doesn't seem to care about how it makes you feel it seems like you two should get seperated for awhile so both of you can get yourselves together, i know i didn't answer your question sorry but i can't explain y he lies nobody can it's just what you have to do about his lies, i hope you feel better and everything works out for you
2007-10-23 19:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sexii~Caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this. It's time to really think about where this marriage is heading.
2007-10-23 19:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by tmcgross2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, instead of telling him how it makes you feel *ask him* why he does it. Maybe he lies because he's afraid you'll get mad for some reason? You won't really know why until you ask *HIM* and that is a HUGE part of the situation.
2007-10-23 19:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋