My exgirlfriend of two years now has another boyfriend. She met this guy 2wks after she and I broke up, and has been intimate with him (sexually as well) during a week in knowing this guy.....It's now been two months.
She has remained in a relationship with this guy, while creeping by to my apartment to have sex with me, tell me she loves me and etc. ( I love her and am not over her, and I know I'm a fuucking fool). She has deliberately lied to this boyfriend of hers, telling him she's going to class, when in all actuallity, she spends the day with me. The time we spend together is as if we're still together, but then she departs, and goes back home to him. I feel used afterwards. Does this make her a hoe? A whore? She sleeps with me(her ex, that she claims to love me still,) and then leaves and go back to her "boyfriend" (my replacement). In the past I've called her a slut but didnt mean it, but does her actions prove her to be. I've always suspected of her to cheat, but..
2007-10-23 19:06:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, what I'm trying to say is how can she "love" me like she claims and fuuck the both of us (myself and her new bf)? We spend time together like we're still a couple, then at night she heds back home to him like nothing ever happend. He's completely oblivious that she's having sex with her ex....even though she comes home late every day, and immediatly takes a bath.
2007-10-23 19:30:39 · update #1
she has a problem and you do as well if you go along with this.
For one thing, every time you and her make love you are taking a chance on catching any disease he may have and if he is sleeping with another girl while she is with you, that only increases the odds of catching something.
You can tell her she has to choose between the two of you and offer to go to counseling with her in order to repair your relationship but I suspect she won't do that so then you have to move on and tell her to also.
You can find another girl who will love you and not be unfaithful to you and that will make you far happier than you are at the moment. For now, find things to do that take your mind off of her - join a bowling league, If you are in school yet find some activities there that you can do after school and you may even find the right girl there, get a part time job. Just keep busy and remember that a person who loved you would not be doing these things so you need to find someone else and consider her the ugly stepmother that you kissed instead of sleeping beauty. Good Luck to you!
2007-10-23 19:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have asked the comparable question the Bee Gees did in a music: "How do you mend a broken heart? How do you cease the rain from falling down? How do you cease the solar from shining? What makes the international flow around?" I first found out to be ordinary approximately why the dating did not artwork. I attempt to not concentration on what become lost or what went incorrect. I remember the useful. And forgive the destructive. I remember love is a huge gamble, and that i'm able to easily play the hand i've got been dealt. i don't assign blame, I alibi. I remind myself of the stable traits, for the two one individuals. I set useful aims, and artwork to realize them. Be useful, not vindictive. And admit the errors you have made. And assign blame to your self first. once you have finished berating your self you are able to start up on your ex. for the reason that that's not a technique to hold excitement on your heart you often won't end. It took a pair of emotional beat downs for me to income this, yet this does artwork
2016-11-09 08:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by ross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain,,,I'm sorry that you allow this to happen. I have been there only because I could not controll my heart. You are going to have to stop this, if you don't she will continue to come and go and it will only make you more depressed and
low self esteem as it feels I know. You still love her that's the problem. I think if she loved you like she say she would be with you and stay with you. Let her know that you are not her sex toy, either It's you are him you have to stop it and stop it
now before you get further in; Do something to keep your mind busy, don't open the door to her,talk to friends more,go out make new friends anything to keep your mind off of her. Time heals all wounds but before it heals it will hurt a little or maybe a lot...keep your head up you can do it...Good luck
2007-10-23 19:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude of course she's a whore, dump her. If she's lying to this dude about f$*king you then just think what kind of lies she's telling you. Ever consider she might have been lying to you those two years you were together? Especially if you were in a relationship after two years, for her to be screwing some dude after knowing him for less then a week makes her a whore-besides you don't know jack **** about this other dude she's making sandwiches with or who he's screwing on the side as well-that's old news. For all you know he's cooking up sausage everyday for her and your kissing her right after, get the hell out of there man there's plenty of women out there who will make you happy, just don't judge them (women) based on this experience with your ex-whore cause their not all like that. Best of luck to you man. And yes your heart can be whole again, your just a little more cautious the second time around after you've learned from your first experience.
2007-10-23 19:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Voss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need this kind of relationship. Since the relationship is over, get on with your own life and do not allow yourself to be used.
How do you rate yourself? Are you a doormate to be used when it is convenient. Knowing that she is dating someone else, and you still sleep with her????
Drop her and live your own life, or ask her to give the other guy up. You have to do something about this or you will be nothing.
2007-10-23 19:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by aew2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it from the new boyfriends point of view. How would he feel if he found out? How would you have felt if it had happened to you with her? This is a situation that isn't fair to anyone. Not to you, because it prevents you from moving on. Once you begin to feel a sense of "I can live without you" she is back on your doorstep begging for a quickie and drawing you back in...stealing your heart and tossing it back at you with a chuckle...broken. It isn't fair for her because she can't begin to focus and appreciate her new guy. Give him the attention he deserves. And it especially isn't fair to him. I can understand your point of almost trying to win her back, but by seeing that she goes back to him in the end, even though she had been with you, is a clear indicator that she doesn't plan on staying with you. Though it may be hard...you need to let her go. It will be the best for all of you. She won't wake up one day at decide to be with you. I am sorry to say that, but it's true. I hope you do let her go though. It will be for the best.
2007-10-23 19:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Happy. Finally. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW!! i was in this same exact position it was my baby's dad, after we broke up he came over to see our daughter but have sex with me while he's here and he told me him and his current girlfriend broke up but i know they were still together so he basically was using me having sex with me because i'm his baby mom and he knew i still loved him while he was out chilling with her and nobody knew, but anyway it took some time for me to realize that i was being stupid and that didn't feel good to be used one day you will realize that too i hope soon, because i know it hurts, and you enjoy the time you and her spend and the sex it will defenitely take some time for you to heal though
2007-10-23 19:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sexii~Caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a choice. So is misery. I think it is time to distance yourself from your ex.
Ask yourself "Why is my heart broken?" Is it because of who this woman is (faults and virtues and all), or is it because of who you want her to be, or imagine she could be?
Please, for you own sake, step away from her while she figures her life out. You owe that to her if you love her--and you certainly owe it to yourself to get a shot at happiness. Not this mess.
It belatedly occurs to me--is there a possibility that she is mentally ill? Do you have any reason to suspect that there may be a medical reason for her behaviour?
2007-10-23 19:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your broken heart will heal! Not today or next week but soon.
But are you really that desperate that she´s gone? She cheated on you and cheated already on her new boyfriend! You should be lucky not having a relationship with her anymore!Forget her ASAP you deserve someone much better than her.
2007-10-23 19:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by tampagirl 2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you like to be second best? Do you like to have leftovers? Why do you allow this? Its happening because of you..you allow her to come and go as she pleases. You need to lay down the line here and now.
2007-10-23 19:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋