alright so I am 19 but in 22 years I can come back and this statement will be true. I have never had a girlfriend, barely any friends that were girls, dont even think you can call them friends cuz I have never hung out with a girl. Girls just dont like me I dont know why. I thought I was pretty normal athletic/built, smart, nice, kind,respectful, thought I looked good(girls must not though). So I am just done with girls and want to know how to just not be attracted to them anymore
2007-10-23 18:50:00 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im soo not trying to be funny when i ask this.. do u think u might be gay?
if not, then u need to be more aggressive.. go up to them, dont wait for them to come to you.. have patience.. it will happen in due time
2007-10-23 18:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm 25 and have never had a girlfriend. I have kissed three girls, though, but that just happened this year, and it was because my friends took me under their wing like the 40 year-old virgin, took me around, and introduced me to as many girls as possible. My real goal was to get to the point where I could approach any girl, at any time, and I thought that once I experienced a kiss (or three) that the ice would break. Well, it hasn't. You can ditch the fear somehow, but that won't mean that you'll automatically be able to carry on lengthy conversations with them. You have to be able to do that before you can meet girl after girl after girl. So, the main idea for you would be to know how to converse. If there is an attraction issue it must be weight, right? Lose the weight. If it's ethnicity, well, I don't know what to tell you.
2016-05-25 09:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you worry so much!! I am sure you will find someone special one day! It might take a while - but don't give up. Concentrate on you for now. Finish college, get a great job, etc...
Try to get more involved in activities at school (if you attend).
Perhaps there are things in your community that you can do & meet more people.
My bf is 31 and never had a serious gf. I think he's had like 2 or 3 - and none lasted longer than a month or two - if that! Girls hated him. He's a total geek - but I think he is the absolute sweetest & most adorable guy I've ever met!! I love him to death - and if I had to pick him over any other man on this earth - I'd choose him without a second thought!!
Its rough to be alone when you want to be dating - but try to stay positive!! You will be surprised one day when you meet some cute girl who thinks the world of you.
Take a chance & ask someone out!! Even if it's a simple date for coffee or something.
I wish you the best! ;p
2007-10-23 18:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rue 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like you want to be gay, and that could of been the reason girls were not attracted to you, some people say girls have a sixth sense for gay guys and tend to avoid them like the plague. I suggest you do what your heart tells you to do, however, there is no way to stop liking girls if you do you do if you dont you dont, its a hormone. I guess you could pump up on estrogen or something to that effect but you might grow boobs from it.
Personal note - Stay straight, not to be crude but warm pussy is delicious. Once you have it, you want more and more and more. Its like a drug. So dont give up on girls just try to find common ground or see a psychiatrist he might be able to help. By the way im 19 as well, so trust me girls are worth the wait!
2007-10-23 18:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by DarknessFalls 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think I would want to know how to attract girls not the other ways. It may be you just need some technique. Have you looked around to see who is looking at you? Most men focus on certain females and don't see who is looking with interest at them. Try smiling at a few that look you in the eye. And if they smile back, say something. Ask something. Get a conversation going. There is someone for everyone and I know there are girls just sitting around that owould love to go out with you. Learn how to dance. . .girls love guys that can really dance. . .join a club with females in it and you are interested in what they do. . put yourself someplace to meet females and you will be dating. . .trust me. . .
2007-10-23 18:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take this the right way. Run a self check on yourself. Your standards might be to high. I would not really worry about it right now. Go out and have a lot of fun while you can. Party. Girls will come when you stop looking for them. I did not date until I was 22. Got married at 26. Trust me. They will come. Wait until you get out of college and start working. You will not be able to get rid of them.
2007-10-23 18:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kenyon P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AWWWWW......... i am 16 and i have had only 3 boyfiends my entire life and i dont really think that guys like me too much either but you dont need to give up you know (unless u like guys or something) lol but yea..... i dont think that you should just be done with girls you know not ALL girls are bitches there are still a few with a heart you just need to find the right one!!!!!!!!!!!!
i wish u ALL the luck n tha world!!!!! :D
2007-10-25 07:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother – all good things come to those that wait. My wife hated me at first for some unknown reason, until she saw the real me. Been with her for 20+ year sand still going strong. If what your doing isn't working, try the opposite. What have you got to loose? Probably not much. You may be suprise at what you catch.
2007-10-24 01:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't kiss a girl by the age of 40 you need to be in a movie if not the Guinness book of world records.
You might be trying to hard. Too aggressive and they think you're weird. Or you might not fit into your environment. You might be the intellectual sportsman while they like the druggy philosophical type.
I'm originally from the rough part of NYC. My brother was like you. I told him that he wasn't a thug and even still NYC wasn't his scene. I told him to pack up as fast as he could and try somewhere else that he feels he do better. He did and it worked wonders for him.
2007-10-23 18:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by honesthustler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well going gay isn't the answer, no matter what anyone says. If being gay has every crossed your mind. You can portray it, but don't let these immature kids say stuff like that.
You will kiss a girl. No worries bud. Just wondering, you a gamer? I sure am, and don't have many girlfriends. It's not like i go out and have sex with one, then ditch them, i'm not like that.
But don't worry. Say you aren't good looking. So what. There is always someone out there. Saying you do play games, find one of those chicks. I play WoW and there's some nice @$$
on there if you know what I mean.
If you find yourself getting older, and not having a girl, try one of those dating sites. Never done one myself, i'm 3 years younger than you. But if youneed to talk, let me know.
2007-10-23 18:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Josh S 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
good luck with the not being attracted to them! Maybe girls do like you and do think you look good and all that but your sending off vibes of stay away I'm not interested.. Have you ever asked a girl out? Its kind of the first step to finding a girlfriend! Instead of giving up entirely why don't you try a different approach. There are lots of girls out there in the same boat wondering why no one like you is interested in them.
2007-10-23 18:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by Aurora 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋