When someone has made you extremely unhappy, how do you deal with that (see details)?

Question

I'm not speaking of depression, stressed-out, burnt-out--I'm talking strictly UNHAPPY.

I'm not angry or mad, I simply feel bad...really don't think I deserve to. There's not much more I can say.

Answer 1

everyone else is right in that without knowing more we can't tell you how to deal with it but I can give you a simple equation that often applies in relationships.

When someone who cares about you has upset you and they know what they did but they are not making amends, it's usually guilt that is causing them to put up a wall to your and their feelings. telling them or getting angry will usually make them feel more guilty and therefor more defensive. Guilt is a powerful mind twister and it will often cause denial or a rewriting of the events in the memory in order to deal with the pain that guilt causes. So in these situations you may not be able to get the resolution you want or feel you need from that person until they get what they need to alleviate their guilt. So this is the hard part. You have to actually comfort them and break down their defenses with kindness and understanding before they can even begin to see what they did. Once their walls are down and they can look at the situation and be honest with themselves, then they can start to make it up to you but you may not be able to get it for a while so just try to suck it up and disperse the bad energy another way. In these situations seeing you in pain will only make them deny it more.

Now, I have no idea if this is that kind of situation but it just came to mind when I read this and hopefully it applies and can help you in some way.

Answer 2

Don't give anybody the power to make you extremely unhappy. Nobody can> It is your expectations or requirements that have not been meet.
One cannot have expectations of another, you of them or them of you, unless you signed a contract setting this out.

Relationships are not about meeting anothers expectations, or making the other happy.

Happy is the precursor needed by each person, before being "ready" to have a relationship, otherwise the relationship has expectations on it. This is only setting oneself up for failure, which people do all the time, so they can activate blame, then guilt pops in, and fear the other will leave, and of course they do, because you think they will, and so it goes round and round.

Nobody should be expected to meet your needs.
One needs to take responsibility for their own existence, this is freedom from "unhappy".
True happiness is within, once found truly is never lost.
A better pursuit to find this true happiness within than most undertaken these days, which are only about beginnings, middles and ends.
Beginnings, middles and ends will never make one "happy", true happiness within in to live in the moment, where there is no depression, unhappiness, stressed-outness, burn't outness, fear, anger, sorrow, guilt or blame.
True happiness is that spark that can ignite and open the world to you of love, fulfilment, one-ness and real understanding.
Try it, you will like it.

Answer 3

If they aren't really apart of your life, then let it go and forget about them. They aren't worth your energy. But if they are someone you care for and you want to maintain a relationship with them, then tell them "It made me really unhappy when you....and this is why." If you have a bond with them and come to them in a nonthreatening way, they should respond with some compassion. They may not realize they made you unhappy. See if you can work it out and move on from it together.

Hope this helps,
HG

Answer 4

It all depends on the situation. If he/she did something that made me unhappy there has to be more to it. Did the person lie, steal, cheat, or malign you in some way? If so, then I would avoid them in the future.

If it is some lesser reason, something like they asked you for advice and you gave them the correct answer, and then they did it their way and it caused them some damage either physical or mental, then that would make me unhappy. I would still associate with them, and hope if it happens again, that they had learned their lesson.

good luck

Answer 5

Have U considered retaliation? I'm not advocating violence mind you, but if they made U unhappy, why not make sure they know what they did was wrong? Of course, if they apologized to you, then that certainly wouldn't be appropriate to do anything like that. But U could make them more aware of your displeasure regarding their behavior! ;-)

Answer 6

If you are really that UNHAPPY IN THIS SITUATION

See if you can change anything about with that some one.
if not

Then you will have to look at whats in it for you

How much of it is possitive and how much of it is Negative

Then you have to be the Judge your self

IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT?

Answer 7

need to know a lot more information about why you are unhappy and how you are unhappy. I don't know how to answer this with only this much information.

Answer 8

Just remember dear there are a lot of people out here to love you, so cheer up please.
Get out of the house for a good walk to clear the mind.

Answer 9

>> If you think you don't deserve to feel bad ~ change your psychgology/way of thinking on it
>> "Don't worry, be happy"
>> Spend some time doing things that will make you happy & don't dwell on it.
Ciao!

Answer 10

nobody can make you unhappy. Being unhappy is your choice and yours alone.