i want her to understand that is a form of 4 play and boy do we need to put the spark back in our sex life we have been together for 11years HELP ME HELP HER
2007-10-23 17:55:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey will u tell my hubby to let me where them too??
2007-10-23 18:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you do not mean for her to take it off..but to wear something less revealing. There is good reason for this. We are told not to be a stumbling block to others and the way we dress can do just this. There was a time when Christians knew there was to be a difference in our manner of dress from that of the world. Christians believed the wisdom of 1 Timothy 2:9, "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel. Many prisons have signs for visitors in the reception room. that state: "Visitors must be appropriately dressed. Underwear and bras must be worn. No halter tops; no shorts. No revealing clothing." If this is true for prisons, how much more should it apply to a church? How should this be addressed? I believe you should first of all talk with the pastor (her husband) and let him know how it effects you and ask for his help with this problem. If he places all the blame on you...do not accept it and remind him that if you have problems with this, there can well be many more men who do also. This does not mean any of you are "perverts" It simply means you are human and we are told avoid temptations and we should help others avoid it too. Men are "turned on" by sight. You could bring this up by asking what about the possibly that someone could have had a past history of sexual temptation and overcame it with great difficulty only to start attending this church to find a woman dressed in a way that caused him to fall back into this problem. If you pastor does not do anything, then take it to the elders of your church for action. If no one does anything about this, perhaps it would be time to find a different church that does follow Biblical principals to include this area although some can go way to far the other way to by insisting women wear dresses down to their ankles at all times.
2016-05-25 09:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it turns you on, don't you think it will turn other guys on, too? That's probably why she doesn't want to dress like that in public, but only save it for your eyes in private. But, since you are so desperate, start with small adjustments, maybe a little bit more fitted than her normal. Don't just force her to wear a plunging neckline all of a sudden. You need to go with her comfort level.
2007-10-23 17:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Keep the foreplay to the bedroom if she isn't comfortable. Making her wear a low cut revealing top out wont help her any if she doesn't want to and that's a really rude gesture to try and force your WIFE to dress as she doesn't want to. Respect her and ask for some spice around the house. I'm sure she understands just doesn't want to go to the extremes you do with it. Find the compromise but keep your respect for her and herself.
2007-10-23 17:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you can't pressure her into dressing in anything she's not comfortable in. that def wont be good foreplay for her lol unless u want her to wear the tops around the house then ask her and maybe she'll be more willing to. and its good u like her body u should tell her that! dont say **** tho, thats really not that romantic haha but tell her you liek her body thatll turn her on more then u can imagine itll def help your sex life! hope this helps ;]
2007-10-23 17:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by xoblondie 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I say buy her a couple tops that you would like to see her in. After being together 11 years, you should be able to tell her openly that she has a nice chest and you want her to show it off! But if she doesn't feel comfortable wearing tops like that, don't hold it against her!
2007-10-23 18:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Brianna's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Help you help her what exactly ? forget about her moral's and her self respect and her dignity just so you can get your rock's off ?
Grow up ffs if your marriage is lacking its because your not trying hard enough to stay interested.Quit being a weazle.
2007-10-23 18:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the hell.. is she a horse you want to show off ?
there are other ways to spice up yr sex life ..role play...pretending to meet for the first time...ask her.
2007-10-23 18:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well thats all fine and dandy , just dont get P/O'd when someone else starts playing with them, personally i would reel in my horn when i was out in public, and save it for the bedroom. i think she would appreciate it as well. ask her!
2007-10-24 00:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy her some tops that you would think that she would sexy in and ask her to wear them. There are also other ways of foreplay.
2007-10-23 18:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by !~!ASHLEY!~! 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋