Have you ever had an abortion? Do you agree or disagree with it?

Question

I'm doing some research for a paper and I just want to know people's opinions on this matter. I personally disagree with having an abortion to a certain extent and I have my own reasons. But I really want to hear how other people feel about it so please let me know what you think!

Answer 1

i havent had an abortion BUT
ive noticed that a lot of people do not agree with it and always seem to use the same arguments for this:
1. they say it's "killing a person" -the fetus isn't even close to being developed to the point where you could call it a person
2. "what if that baby you're killing could have become the next president or the person to find the cure for cancer?"- well what if it didn't? what if it was just an average baby and grew into and average person, then is it ok to have an abortion? for people who are religious: if it was meant to happen, it will
3. "God wants you to have the baby, you can't have an abortion because the baby was meant to be born."- God is all powerful and all knowing, so if he wanted you to have the baby, he would make it so that you didn't even consider abortion. like i said before, if it was meant to happen, it will
also, think about rape, why should the mother have to look at that child every day of her life and remember the pain she went through? and what if you can't afford to take care of the child, it won't have a good future because you won't be able to support for it.
in addition, adoption doesn't always work because NOT ALL KIDS GET ADOPTED

Answer 2

I know two people who've had abortions, and although it seems as though it's an easy way out, it really was a difficult decision for them to make, and it's something that's going to haunt them for the rest of their lives. They'll be wondering what their child would have looked like. One of the women can't look at photos of embryonic development at the 8th week without crying because that is when she had her abortion. It's also something that they'll have to carry to the grave and suffer in silence. However, they weren't ready to be parents but putting the child up for adoption, knowing that they may never see it again, was too difficult. Knowing that the child never existed and was gone was more assuring. I haven't heard any of them say that they regret their decision, though, but one of them told me she often wonders what it would be like if she kept the child.

Sure, they could have been more responsible in the first place and used birth control or abstained (though one of them felt pressured to have sex with her boyfriend at the time), and both those women have been using birth control ever since their abortions.

I used to think that women shouldn't be allowed to have abortions because they should suffer the consequences of their actions, but then the man is not suffering until he has to pay child support, and it's still not the same as the woman's role. I still feel as though abortion is morally wrong, but after hearing those women's stories, I've been more understanding and realize that sometimes it can't be helped. I used to have the misconception that women would happily go into an abortion and be glad that their baby is gone, when in reality, nobody goes to get an abortion with the same attitude that they have when going to an amusement park, or shopping, or anything fun. One of the women I mentioned earlier told me that many of the women at the clinic that same day were crying after the procedure; there was a couple crying in each other's arms outside.

I personally believe that abortion should be avoided at all costs, but sometimes it can't be helped. Both of the women were very young and need to finish college. We don't need any more college dropouts (or even high school dropouts) than we already have, that will be on welfare in order to raise a child for 18 years. Once again, there's the adoption option, which is why this topic starts going in circles.

Anyway, I hope this provided some insight as to what goes on in the minds of women who have actually had abortions, based on what I've heard. Both women agreed to let me put this out on the internet as long as their identities were not revealed.

Answer 3

My friend (not really anymore... sort of drifted apart) had an abortion. I personally didn't agree with it, and I was even more shocked to find out that it was her mother who pushed her to have the abortion.. Why they couldnt wait out the 9 monthes and give it up for adoption I have no idea. They are not hard for cash either so, it wasn't a matter of money.
I can't remember either how far in she was too, I want to say 2 months but honestly not too sure. She was showing too, which made it even more sad, you KNEW that baby was growing inside her.

I think a lot of people think it's the easy way out, but I'd like the mention that my friend was a complete mess after having the abortion. Yes she tried to stay completely unemotionally attached but I could tell after that the exeprience of the abortion shook her.


sorry, thought id mention, this happened in grade 12

Answer 4

I had an abortion when I was a 18 and a freshman in college. I could not carry a child for 9 months because I was without medical benefits, had no financial stability to care for a child or to properly care for myself while pregnant, and I would not have been able to complete my education nor would I have been able to provide for the child once it was born.

I do not regret what I did nor do I feel guilty about it. It was the best decision for me at the time. I am very much pro-choice and I am glad the option was available to me.

Answer 5

I've had two abortions. If I could relive my life, I would make a different choice and that is to keep my two babies. Because of fear, I made the wrong choice that caused me years of emotional stress, sadness, and relationship problems. Abortion causes the death of the living baby within the mother's womb.

Answer 6

I've never had one, although I have had two unexpected/unplanned pregnancies. I couldn't imagine my life without my kids. I disagree with it as a form of birth control, but, for example, if a 12 year old girl is raped by her father, and gets pregnant? Who am I to say she has to go through carrying the child to term?

Answer 7

Never had one and don't see myself having one. But that's my personal choice. So I'm for everyone choosing what is best for their own bodies.

My reasons are I feel its a personal choice for a woman and not up to any outside party to tell a woman what she should do with her body. It is between her and whatever Higher power she serves. No other human, with their own flaws and mistakes, has the right to tell a woman what she should or shouldn't do.

Answer 8

No and personally I would not get one. Morally I do not agree with them, but as to law's about them I'm not sure. I feel like based on the principles this country was built on, it should be legal.
On the other hand isn't there something about standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves. It is such a confusing decision I still can't decide........ugh I hate this question. (not you personally, I'm sure your very nice :) )

Answer 9

Yes, I have had an abortion and here's my thoughts of abortions.
1.Pregnancy is preventable, however things do happen. if you DO NOT want a baby, do not bring them into this world for them to suffer
2.Adoption- SOME not all children go from home to home with no stability or sense of belonging to a family
3.God forgives when you ask for forgiveness.

Answer 10

The Bible states that if there must be a choice on who lives, the baby or the mother, the baby must live. That is a baby from conception. It is a sin to kill. How can anyone kill anyone? It breaks my heart to think of abortion. Why don't they have the baby and give the little one up for adoption?