Hi I moved from the east coast to the West Coast, specifically Irvine CA. its been more than a year since i moved, but I still feel intense homsesick and I think I try to reject every new change that happens to me now. I really can't move on and it sucks and is messing up my school and social life. I become so paranoid to call up my friends back east when some of them stop calling for awahile. Any advice?
2007-10-23 17:04:37 · 5 answers · asked by Gta345 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I understand what you are going through. People on the East coast tend to be more closely knit as families and also form strong friendship. Many never leave the East coast.
People on the West coast tend to be more free-spirited, adventurous, and often do not have the strong ties to family or friends.
I was originally from the Midwest (so, so), and moved to California in 1972. I spent over 20 years in California, Arizona, and Hawaii. I met a lot of great people, did a lot of traveling and seeing places and things (jobs also paid more). The weather was great most of the time, so we were outdoors a lot and I loved it!
Then, my husband was transferred to a large city on the East coast. I found people to be unfriendly—staying in their own little cliques, and family systems. People didn't invite us over for a cookout like they did in the West. Jobs paid terribly. It was the most miserable time in my life, and I was so glad to move back to Arizona.
I find that a church is by biggest source of strength, belonging, friendship and support, as well as the most important spiritual nourishment. Try visiting a few churches to see how you fit in.
Join the Sierra Club—weekend hikes are great! You can look your local chapter up at:
http://sierraclub.com/
Think about a hobby, like photography, and try to join a club to learn about that and make friends.
Also, it is great to take some kind of a class every semester or so, just to learn new things and keep busy. Or join an exercise group
You are not going to get anywhere if you continue to look backwards to the East. Look forward, to the West, and just get busy getting out! There are so many places to go, and people to see—get out of Irvine for a weekend and go camping somewhere!
Best wishes to you!
2007-10-23 17:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth Boaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live on the east coast now and sometimes think about moving west, although it would be very difficult for me. What you should know before you move is that people on the east coast lead much faster paced lives than people on the west coast, especially in New York. It may be a little overwhelming for you at first, but I'm sure you'll get used to it and learn to love it. Hope this helps! :)
2016-05-25 08:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by antoinette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a parent of six, that young people can, and do, make friends no matter where they go. We traveled from NY to Las Vegas, spent over a year in California, then back to Vegas, up to Idaho, back to NY...and so on. The kids got into activities where they met people who shared their interests...and never lacked for friends.
Your old friends will still be there, if and when you decide to go back. For now, however, live in the present, and do the best with what you have, where you are. Good luck.
2007-10-23 17:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is stoping you to move back to east coast / After a year of homesick you will never adjust to west coast By what you are saying you are doing anxiety and it will get worst Yes depression is awaiting you . Even if you have to loose a school yr move back Happiness and Health has no price I wish you lots of luck and courage
2007-10-23 17:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
embrace your new life. stop wallowing in your regret of moving out west. but if it really bothers you, just go back..somehow. transfer schools and go back. cause its pointless to suffer out here if its that bad.
2007-10-23 17:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by EECHANG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋