I work 5 days a week,pay my own bills,wash my own car,pay for my own gas and pump it,he doesn't give me money thats why I work.I purchased all the furniture in our 4 bedroom 2 bath house.And I buy most of the household products. Would you be submissive to him?
2007-10-23 16:54:22 · 20 answers · asked by caramel she devil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no, keep doing what you're doing. His little ego is probably damaged, but he'll get over it.... or not.
2007-10-23 16:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have done all this, he doesn't give you money thats why you work hard and sounds like you have provided for quite alot where he has got it quite good. He wants you to be submissive and obey him....sorry but he is....in a relationship and marriage you are both equal, you don't get married to be controlled and obey his or her demands/commands.
But you already are playing submissive to him..... he doesn't provide you with any money while he's doing whatever with his and you have purchased quite a lot and probably paying for food to feed him too. To me thats not fair on you.....he is taking you for granted...most husbands that I know would pay for most of the furniture or goods and also pay their wives for housekeeping etc and they sure would pull their weight if their wives were working too. But alot also pay half half which is only fair. So no I would stop what I'm doing and stand up to him and not be submissive to him. You deserve better.
2007-10-24 00:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dancegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not!
My guess is that your man wants you to continue to do all the housework, have a job, pay the bills AND be submissive. He thinks he {almost} has it made but it would be even better if you would ask how high when he says jump. Your man is insecure with your independence and success and he wants to feel like "the man in charge" and wants to run your life. Don't do it!
Keep your independence and get rid of your man unless he picks up the slack.
2007-10-24 00:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being submissive means that he's going to have to start picking up the slack. Otherwise, where is the payoff for you?
Maybe he just means that he wants you to be less of a strong-willed woman...I don't know if you are or not. Do you nag him about doing things around the house? And if he does them, do you complain that he doesn't do them as well as you do? Things like that might be what he's talking about...but I don't know because I'm not in your relationship.
Ask him what it is about submissiveness that appeals to him and then try to give him that aspect of submissiveness...without having to submit to him, if at all possible. Did that make any sense? *LOL* :-)
2007-10-24 00:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, that is if we're talking about the biblical sense of the word. Finances do not determine submission. Just because things are the way they are now does not mean they will always be this way. I just hope you're not too much man for him.
2007-10-24 00:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by marcavelli0569 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband wants you to be submissive in the bedroom only that would have nothing to do with your equal role in everyday life. It's your choice - play along if you like it, say no if you don't.
2007-10-24 02:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, he ought to be submissive to you! You sound superior to him, so his wish to make you the submissive one is totally absurd and stupid.
Now, if you were a housewife who didn't work and didn't possess much of an education, it would sound reasonable for you to be submissive; but under the circumstances you described, it would be totally unreasonable.
2007-10-24 00:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends what he means by "submissive." If he wants you to quit your job and be a housewife, then don't do it. It's never wise to lose your independence like that. Don't quit your job. But if he wants to contribute more to your spending, why not let him? He should be paying for more things. Why isn't he?
2007-10-23 23:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels like he's not the leader of the home. It says in the Bible in the book of Ephesians: Wives, submit to your husbands. Now that does NOT mean that he's to be a dictator of the home. It means the husband is to be the leader of the home, and maybe he feels that he's not the leader of the home.
2007-10-23 23:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he want you to submit to? Sounds like he wants all the power and none of the responsibility. Also your husband seems to be living in the wrong century.
2007-10-24 00:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to do all the chores because of your job out of the house so that way you don't go to bars nor male strip clubs and meet other men.
2014-03-04 16:20:25 · answer #11 · answered by That Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋