we have sex for three months now with this guy more on physical in nature. im married with two sons and he's also married with a son and daughter. im 36 he's 33 our relation is more on physical attraction but please dont get me wrong we both love our wives and family though we keep it very discreet and safe..we know we have cheated our wives..is it alright if we marry secrectly so that cheating will be out of the question and make it very secret as well. please me your thoughts.
2007-10-23 16:30:06 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
dude..how pathetic you are..i dont know why there are people with twisted minds..im 16 but i guess i thnk better than you are..dude its wrong to marry twice when you're still married. i think thats the law..fear god and just pray so that you will be enlightened...i pray for you dude...hope my dad will not be like you ...thanks god
2007-10-23 16:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still cheating. Now you want to add bigamy to the list of wrong doings. For a grown up, you aren't acting like it. It doesn't matter if the affair is with a man or a woman, it is still cheating. You're being unfaithful to the promise and vows you exchanged with your wife before God and Man. You know your wife will be hurt by the affair. Even more so because she'll feel she lost you to a man. It doesn't matter who, why or what to your sons, they will lose respect for you because you are being dishonest in your relationship with all they have been raised to believe is FAMILY. I hope you reconsider the lives of your family, of his family that you both are and will be hurting by not forsaking ALL others.
I'm not judging you. I just think you need to sit down and have a long talk with your heart. Cheating is cheating. You can't have it both ways if you are married. Your children will only think that you don't love them. Your wife will be very hurt, and in that hurt, she will have a great deal of anger with you. F
Far too often, people engage in affairs out of lust and without thought for the people that will be hurt by those actions and lack of control. Far too often, what people lose in the end, doesn't seem to be worth losing. Spouse and life companion, children, respectability, self worth. I hope you and your gentlemen friend reconsider your relationship with each other and your wives while you can salvage something in which you can build on positively.
2007-10-23 16:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Carol T 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
None of my business, because I don't agree with the situation, only because you too are cheating on your wives. But it is not legal to marry someone else while still married it is called bigamy. It would still be cheating. Maybe you both should get a divorce and give your wives a chance to find someone whom will be totally committed to them. After all can you image what it will do to them if they find out that you too were cheating, not with other women but with each other? That will hurt them far worse than a divorce. Personally I am so against cheating either way it goes. Wither you are gay or straight I just don't believe in cheating.
2007-10-23 16:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on your wife is not good. I'm not sure where you live but I don't know of any place that you can be married twice.
You could be exposing yourself and your wife to a lot of diseases by cheating on her as well.
My advice is man up and pick one or the other.
2007-10-23 16:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
what is wrong with you. Your wife is not good enough for you, why do u have to cheat with someone else. you think just because you are the man in house, you can do whatever to want to hurt your family. Grow up!!! you are acting selfish, childish, and disgusting by cheating with someone else - gender has nothing to do with it. you better clean up your act or make a choice. what kind of role model you are setting for your family. i cant believe people like you actually existed.
2007-10-23 16:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by rainingurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living an entire secret life apart from your family and so is he. I will tell you this...the only thing that would be worse than my husband leaving me or cheating on me with another woman would be him leaving me or cheating on me with another man. You both "love" you wives? If you did, you would make the right choices. Everyone has temptations and choices to make, but the ones that want to stay true and dedicated to their marriage and really love their spouse, resist and work on their marriage, not try to find what's missing in someone else. You are so wrong. And you are doing an injustice not only to her, but yourself as well. You are selling out your marriage for a physical relationship with someone you say you don't love but want to secretly "marry"???? Sounds like therapy is in order...
2007-10-23 16:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by swtserenity43 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Same sex marriage?? You're kidding, right???
Marriage is NOT right for ANY couple, when the relationship is on the PHYSICAL level. Marriage incorporates BOTH PHYSICAL SEX AND companionship LOVE. Success comes when there's a solid strong mix of the two.
In your relationship---that's NOT it.
You and your bedfellow risk ruining your straight marriages, hurting your families and losing far far much more if you continue the affair and get caught.
I can't tell you what to do w/ your life, but I can show you what MAY happen; it's your call from there.
2007-10-23 16:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You have a wife and beautiful kids and you are willing to loss that over a guy. You need to leave him alone and be honest with your wife because you are putting your whole family at risk. AIDS is real and condoms don't protect against everything.
2007-10-23 16:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by TELO 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you're blowin' it with your wife and kids and so is he. When the wives find out (and they will sooner or later), let's see...divorce, alimony, child custody, child support, the house, car, dog, cat...adultry.
Why would you do that? To get your rocks off? Dude, get a grip.
2007-10-23 16:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by WildOne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell you wife what is going on, cheater, and get tested for sexual transmitted diseases. It is not fair for you to put your poor wife at risk. Leave her, you do not deserve a good family. You do not love her, if you did you would have never done what you did... I feel sorry for her.
2007-10-24 17:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by olisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, apart from the awkwardness of the situation, isn't it illegal to be married to two people at the same time?
Why would you want more secrets? Would marrying him solve your problems?I'm sorry but I think you're just rolling on a mountain of bull----. You're living half a life mate, how long do you think that's gonna last?
2007-10-23 16:35:31 · answer #11 · answered by Der weiße Hexenmeister 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋