On March 3rd 2007, I had my first miscarriage, On June 26th I had my second miscarriage. I still cry over my babies. I have dreams about them, holding them, being with them. I wake up in a cold sweat and crying. My husband doesn't understand. I want to have a baby now. He thinks that we should wait now. I don't know what to do. I'm sad and tired and even though I'm not alone, I feel lonely. I can't stop thinking about my babies. Are the things I'm feeling normal? Should I wait?
2007-10-23 16:26:45 · 7 answers · asked by hayhay6287 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The feelings you are feeling are very normal, a lot of the problem are that society doesn't not consider your grief legitimate. However, I have had a miscarriage and I know the grief is very real. My husband had trouble understanding my sadness as well, and for some reason a lot of men do have trouble understanding your pain.
My opinion is that you should wait until you are back to yourself before having another, give yourself time to grieve your loss, the grief will never go away, but as time goes by you will be better able to handle it. Best of Luck, and God Bless.
2007-10-23 16:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by JEN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your doctor about PPD. This isn't always just after a baby is born, but can happen after a miscarriage also. I had 3 early miscarriages before having my son, and then last Aug lost a baby girl when I was 21 weeks along. I was depressed after each miscarriage, and had to go on anti-depressants after losing my daughter. It is completely normal to have the feelings you are having. When women first find out they are pregnant they start planning how they will decorate the nursery, picking out boys and girls names, thinking what their child will look like, etc. Guys don't have a connection to the baby until they are born so they have a harder time understanding how a miscarriage can be so devastating.
Please go to this website: www.angels4ever.com. This is a great site for people that have lost babies due to miscarriage, SIDS, stillbirth, older children, etc. They have an on line memorial wall where you can put the date of your miscarriage, etc. I have my daughter's name on the neo-natal wall with her name and the date that she was born and passed away (She only lived for 20 minutes). There is also a link to a yahoo group that offers support for women that have had miscarriages, stillbirths, etc.
2007-10-23 23:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the doc would be the best to say whether can u go ahead with another one ... because if your bag is weak then you wanna wait for future.
I know of a couple who 2 mis-carr like you ... they then waited 2 years and then delivered a healthy baby after 2 years 9 months.
Wait is a better option also heals your minds and makes to more strong. Good luck.
2007-10-23 23:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by BIBA I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that yes wait your body needs to rest try in a few more months you should go to the doctors i heard there is some kind of shot that they can give you if you keep having miscarriages and to prevent them
2007-10-23 23:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these feelings you're hvaing are completely normal. you will never get over losing them, the pain it caused you and you'll never stop crying about your lost babies either. i had a miscarriage 2 years and i think about my baby every single day and i cry for him as well all the time. nothing can replace them either. i'm so sorry for your loses. good luck next time.
2007-10-24 02:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by trace s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SO SORRY I JUST LOST MY BABY GIRL IN SEP 30 07 AT 22 WEEKS. I ALSO LOST ONE IN FEB OF 06 AT 6 WEEKS. ITS HARD AND I CRY EVERYDAY BUT THERE IS STILL HOPE I WILL TRY AGAIN IN A YEAR OR SO. EVEN THOUGH U FEEL U ARE READY U MAY BE NOT. GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL THE BABY WILL COME. TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT YOUR HEALTH AND WHAT CAN U SO TO PREVENT THIS FROM HAPPENING AGAIN. IT TURNED OUT I NEED A CERVICAL CERLAGE NEXT TIME I TRY TO CONCIEVE ITS HARD FOR ME BECAUSE IT TURNED OUT THAT I HAVE A SHORT CERVIX AND WELL MY CERVIX WAS REJECTING BABY BY HAVING CONTRACTIONS AFTER MY WATER BROKE MY BABY WAS BORN STILLBOURN. I JUST WANT U TO KNOW THAT OUR BABIES ARE IN HEAVEN AND THEY COME IN OUR DREAMS SO WE CAN HAVE SOME COMFORT IN OUR HEARTS, THEY DONT WANNA SEE US LIKE THIS. GO TO CHURCH IT HELPED ME ALOT. NOMATTER WHAT PEOPLE SAY ITS NEVER GONNA CHANGE THE WAY WE FEEL, AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS U WHEN IT COMES TO THE WAY I FEEL MY HUSBAND DOES NOT UNDERSTAND AND TO BE HONEST THEY DONT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT THE ONES WHO CARRIED THE BABY. THEY DO CARE ITS JUST THEY ARE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT US AND OUR HEALTH. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND TAKE PRENATAL VITAMINS LIKE ME. ILL PRAY FOR U AND I DONT WORRY MOTHERS WHO GO THROUGH THIS END UP HAVING BABIES AND THEY BECOME THE BEST MOTHERS IN THE WORLD. DONT GIVE UP HOPE I WONT.
2007-10-24 00:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jade Marrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal is relative when it comes to sensitive subjects like miscarriage...the way you are dealing with it is normal for you so do not feel like there is anything wrong with still thinking about your babies (they were little lives you were carrying inside of you!) so the feeling of loss is not going to just disappear...you are in my prayers
2007-10-23 23:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Savannah's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋