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we have sex for three months now with this guy more on physical in nature. im married with two sons and he's also married with a son and daughter. im 36 he's 33 our relation is more on physical attraction but please dont get me wrong we both love our wives and family though we keep it very discreet and safe..we know we have cheated our wives..is it alright if we marry secrectly so that cheating will be out of the question and make it very secret as well. please me your thoughts.

2007-10-23 16:26:38 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

47 answers

you're idiot..and pathetic. dude you will burn in hell. i guess i think better than you do when im only 16...hope you pray to god so that he give cleanse you..

2007-10-23 17:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

You are already married. To your wife.

You can't have 2 marriages.

Does your State allow same sex marriages?

Even if you could/did marry .. you would still be cheating your wives. It would not matter how secret you make it, you would still be cheating your wives. This is crazy, but if you have one woman partner, and one man partner, in marriage - you would always be cheating on one of them.

Your wives, should be given the choice about both of you.

They should be given the knowledge that their husband is having an affair with another man .. and do they wish to accept that? It is their decision. However, the wives should definetly know about this, and be given the choice to decide.

One day, your discreet & safe secret, may be made know to everyone .. including your wife, and your children. And it could happen at a time that you are completely unaware.

Your wives need to have a choice.

This is your decision. The decisions you put in your life, determines your life.

2007-10-23 16:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1 0

I think the fact that you need to ask is it right or not means that there are problems.
This is the greatest betrayal that a man can carry out.
As not only have you betrayed your wife as her husband you have broken almost every rule in the book and then some.
You obviously need counselling for you have confused the need for a friend with sexual curiosity and tried to justify it by titling it love.
You talk about love, what a perverted perception you must have of the word and its meaning that you could find yourself in this situation at all.
Come on who are you fooling,certainly not me! You use words like discreet and safe as if that makes everything justifiable and okay.
Well I am sorry but you have a very twisted take on life and love. Where is the respect and obligation to be a good role model for your children?
Your wife may easily find a man, she is well rid of you and may likey be relieved to be so.
But where will your son or daughter find a father in the real sense of the word, most certainly not in you.
Do those kids a favor and get the hell out of their lives.
You really disgust me!.
You certainly don't deserve their love or respect.

2007-10-23 17:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 2 0

Number one, if you're in America that would be breaking the law (you can only be married to one person at a time). Second, you inconsiderate jerk, how could you go behind the person you "supposedly" loves back and cheat on her. You are being wrong to her, and in the process causing another man to be wrong to his wife as well. There is no way to make that right, so stop trying to find ways. You know what you are doing is wrong; and it is your job to fix it. Think about your kids, the woman who will be heart broken when she finds out, and the relationship you have that goes deeper than just a quick fix. I mean think about it, what if you were in a bad accident and you were paralyzed and could no longer do the things that are linking yall together. Who's gonna be there, your family who loves you (the wife who has been there through better and worse and the kids who look up to you as there hero and role model) or the man who thinks of you as his sexual release. You can find sex anywhere but love is rare. When you married your wife you made a promise to her, and now you're breaking that. Looks like you need to really look at the big picture and decide what is really important to you. You can't have both!

2007-10-23 16:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Life goes on 2 · 3 0

Have you completely lost your mind, do you hear yourself talking. You are living on the "DOWN LOW". First, your are running the possibility on carry a STD back to your wife. Second, even if you marry this man, you are still CHEATING. It would be illegal, anyway. Third, look at the damage you have or are going to cause both your families. Tell your wife the truth and then get tested. Could you imagine how she will feel, not one time did you think of your family and you are worried about making it right... please!!! Your wife and kids are better off without you.

2007-10-23 16:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by missymiss22407 2 · 2 0

Ok, I'm not sure you will find anywhere that will let you marry legally, not because you are gay, but polygamy is illegal most everywhere. That and marriage will not make your cheating ok, you will still be cheating on your wives, but then also your husband. If you can't not have the affair keep it discreet, it would tear your family apart if anyone discovered this.

2007-10-23 16:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gabe 3 · 3 0

What do you mean by saying that if you marry him you won't be cheating on your wives anymore? Are you planning on having them as your Best Man & Bride's Maid or what? Are you insane? I think so. Go get help this instant. If your wife finds out, she'll probably give you good reason to seek medical attention anyhow.

2007-10-23 16:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 1 0

nothing good can come from the down low. You will get caught and will loose your family. Maybe if you ask your wife she'll give you anal?

Why do you think cheating will be out of the question if you marry? You 2 obviously don't take your 1 vows faithfully.

2007-10-23 16:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by littleme836 6 · 1 0

How can you secretly marry someone else when you both are married? Im not a fan of cheating or sneaky-ness. You both need to decide what you want more so you can stop hiding and lieing and be honest about whatever relationship you choose. All of this hiding must drive you crazy. Stop and choose what feels right.

2007-10-23 16:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by That Special Someone 4 · 3 0

if you're married and having a relationship outside your marriage whether its based on physical or whatever...its an affair...there is no way around the reality of what it is...just because you commit yourself to this guy does not lesson what you are doing to your wives....and what you are doing to your wives is horrendous! and not just to mention your wives, but your children...affairs effect the whole family....you're cheating, you're a cheater. thats the bottom line. the only thing that will change that is if you cease your behavior...

2007-10-23 16:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by saraJ 4 · 2 0

Honestly, you're in a very tough situation, but the last think I would do is marry him as well. You've already betrayed not only your wife, but your kids, and you need to be honest with them. Do not marry him when you have a family, because evenutally they're going to find out, and it'll be worse if they find out later.

2007-10-23 16:31:29 · answer #11 · answered by sportzchick143 2 · 1 0

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