I'm 7mths preg and my husband doesn't think he has to help with his 3 stepkids that i had with a prev marriage and won't do anything with us as a family he is 23 im 29, he wants me to do all in the house, painting, pool cleaning, and cleaning, cooking, it all, i got mad cuz he watched football while i painted the living room to refi the house to get my ex's name off it so he would be happy, and all he could say was well i cut the grass after football and i'm sorry it took you all day to do a 2 hr job. i told him i needed more affection and a little help being i'm 7 mths preg, and if he couldn't then it was over, so he spit in my face and i hit him for it and made him leave. he went the next day and bought a 25000 truck and begged to come home when i let him back i found out he called a girl he met the day i made him leave and he says he did nothing wrong cuz i kicked him outand we were broke up.he says he wants us to wrk it out but won't change himself for me. what should i do?
2007-10-23 16:22:23 · 10 answers · asked by Susan A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are married to a 23 year old boy remember that he isn't ready to grow up yet and you at him isn't helping. I know how you feel i married a 21 year old and i was 27. We have been married for 28 years now and it wasn't easy marring someone so young. My husband just like yours didn't show me much affection only because he didn't know how to. Someone that young will cheat on you that's something you can count on. If you really love him you need to give him time to grow up to mature. I would really be concerned about him spitting in your face how was he brought up. If my husband ever did that to me that would be it for us,I'm sorry but anyone who loves you would never do something so horrible to you. It sounds like your husband doesn't love you and i think in the near future he is going to leave you for someone with know kids.
2007-10-23 16:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the exact same way.. My husband gives me attention after I have the baby because I am back to my normal size and he does not want me to cheat on him. I tell him that I need the attention while I am pregnant, like getting my back rubbed, feet rubbed, a massage and just affection in general. He does not listen.. I am 4 months pregnant and I will never ever have another child with him because of the lack of attention that he gives me. Good Luck to you and try talking to him and if he does not listen then you going to have to get use to him not being the affectionate type during pregnancy.
2016-05-25 08:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out without fighting physically or kicking him out because that only brings more hurt into the situation.
Could you sit down and share your needs with each other calmly (and remember that blaming only makes the other person defensive)? You know you love each other...you are just hitting some rough roads in your marriage, which can either make you stronger or rip you apart.
Remember that love is about meeting each others' needs, not expecting that the other person meets yours. You are a very strong woman. I know you can get through this.
2007-10-23 16:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Corvo's Wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i belived thats not ur husband first times spending days with prenancy woman,normally husbands only get excited for the first baby n after that,they r so called experience so they dun bother at all...Dun think abt all this now n take it as natural..coz ur hubby dun belongs to those concerning type so what u should do is to take good care urself n the babys,,coz i can tell u that,if a woman have their own kids,,,hubby is no more importance than own childrens n by the time u will feel,,maybe not now but times will ripe...
2007-10-23 18:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by rosa1132rosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to be a decision made by you alone ... because he is your husband.
He does not help you. He spit in your face, He met a new girl - and called her. He has no pity on you - and you are 7 months pregnant. He shows you no affection.
Go figure.
Is this what you want for the rest of your life ?
You are in a difficult situation right now because you are 7 months pregnant .. but .. you could use this time to THINK about the future .. and make plans.
The decisions you make, determines your life.
2007-10-23 16:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men handle pregnancy alot differently in all cases. some men are afraid of what to do, try sitting down and talking with him calmly, express your feelings to the situation but dont turn it inot a shouting match, approach this calmy and hopefully he will begin to help
2007-10-23 16:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by mommyt06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for you and your children! Please don't let your children see that, that is the way a man treats a woman he loves. He may not be the one for you, but it sounds like he is the lucky and lazy one too...All the best!
2007-10-23 16:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by linda s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE WRITING IS ON THE WALL------READ IT MOVE ON QUICKLY BEFORE YOU ARE DRIVEN INSANE
2007-10-23 16:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him say peace
2007-10-23 16:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by lollipopprincess101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the lonely club
2007-10-23 16:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋