does anyone else suffer from low self confidence?

Question

i have very low self confidence and it's started to effect all areas of my life. I'm always doubting my abilities, including my work and personal life. Was wondering if anyone else suffers from this and if they know any techniques to build my confidence :)

Answer 1

Do u mean as in looks or your personality? If you mean looks wise i was born like i am and i would never change how i look as this is me and if you dont like it dont look at me...fair enough?? I am pretty confident about the way i look i dont really care really as this is me and i am who i am. Life in general isnt bad as im not an alci so i dont need 2 worry abvout drinking all the time. I dont wear loads of make up to hide away from the world. Im pretty determined to be honest, if i get let down in jobs i just keep sending cvs to the same places i sent them before to annoy people haha! You just need 2 look at life and think what you've achieived. Ive achieieved passing my driving test, I achieved bullying in school and still went back after doing home schooling and took at least 4 gcse's and i took a call centre course type thing and earned myself a certificate so i cant be that bad really haha. You just need 2 look at the advantages more. Your personal life you can easily change by being more forward and instead of people asking you to go out start asking people to join you and if they say no at least you've had the courage to ask them and show your interest. Life is about let downs and getting torn apart a little because it makes you stronger. I just think im 21 and have a whole life ahead of me and that i can achieve some thing and ill do it when the times right. Its about feeling happy with yourself and feeling your good enough for anything. If some1 tells u your not good enough for some thing all u should say is "yes i am i was born for a reason and every1 has a purpose in life" and from then on find your purpose and skill and then you'll be happy. Dont feel sorry for yourself tho as you need 2 keep an active mind and have people around you to feel happy and content. Being alone doesnt help so just wake up and clean yourself up and look in the mirror and say "im worth more than this, im a beautful person" I talk rubbish really but it works hahaha!

GOOD LUCK HUN XXX

Answer 2

I had very low confidence whilst i was going through the ages 12 - 20. During this time my parents moved from state to state due to my fathers work. My confidence went down to 0 i did not even want to get up in the morning as i thought i would fail in getting to my feet..

The best thing i can advise you to do is to look in the mirror and speak to yourself ask yourself why am i like this now?? Start writing all your thoughts down in a diary, then every night before you right in it again read what you wrote the night before. Make sure you write 5 good things that you are happy and confident about i.e that you are alive is a big one. Also write down the bad stuff your thoughts, what happened in the day and so forth.. if you find this does not help then go and see a counsellor. they can help regain your confidence in you.

Answer 3

Simple. Look around you and see how other people do things. I occassionally doubt my abilities, yet I was speaking to someone earlier who said they always like it when I am on night duty where I work.

But self confidence does not come from doing great things to impress others; it comes more from how you feel yourself. So you don't have to be the life and soul of parties. Also, every time you travel on a train, bus, or aircraft, it is like a room full of strangers but in a different way.

Recall the things you are good at.

Answer 4

It could be that you are suffering from clinical depression. Men especially are underdiagnosed because sometimes they don't recognize these feelings of low self-worth for what they are. Just check out some information with an open mind and see if you could be one of the millions affected by this biologically based disorder. Maybe you are just dissatisfied with your job and that is carrying over into all aspects of your life. In that case, find a new one.

Answer 5

I found that walking straight into whatever I thought I couldn't do worked for me. It takes stubborness rather than anything else for me, and I have a stubborn streak a mile wide.
But the more things I did, the more things I found I could do and gradually I didn't need to be stubborn because with everything I did my confidence grew.
Right now I'm still mildly underconfident and prone to depression, but there's nothing in that I can't beat.
Good luck, fella.

Answer 6

Oh yes and I think I still do but life just keeps rubbing in my face that I'll get nowhere with that attitude. It's hard to change when you're so used to self-pity but little by little you have to change. Practice in front of a mirror and think about all the good things you like about yourself, only the good ones, no side thoughts, just that. Ask friends for their opinions on what they think you should change and if they have any ideas.
Good luck. You have the power, use it!

Answer 7

step one to self confidence: just sparkle, literally! get up, brush your teeth, wash your hair, make yourself look like a pro!
step two: get outside and breath in the fresh air, think to yourself, "god put each and everyone of us on earth for a special reason, I can make my life whatever I want it to be!
step three: write down all of your good points, even if your not shure if there real, then post them on a board over your bed, or where you can always see it,
step four:what do you love doing? whatever it is, try it out! and remember, not everyone is perfect, so don't ever say, "I'm not perfect" there's no such thing as being perfect!
step five: go to a gym at least every other day, staying in shape really helps self confidence,
extras:
love people, love yourself, smile, make other people smile, whatever you give someone, you will most likely receive in return! =)

Answer 8

Achieve the things you want to do.This will give you confidence..Learn to trust and listen to your inner thoughts and instincts...Doubt makes things worse sometimes i bet ever one in the World feels it sometime unless they are some machine..Your actions will be more positive if you stop questioning your decisions...Nobody perfect,your unique ,accept yourself for what you are..Your as good as anybody else and your opinion as valid as anybody......Just one Word on Doubt..Some Ancient Greek geezer said" Everything in the world can be doubted except doubt itself but from this doubt we build a series of facts"..Well that's the basics,His name began with a D i think mmmmmmmm

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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