I am only 14. But my father is emotionally and mentally abusive. I could go on for hours about how horrible he is and it's not just because i am a teenager. He is a horrible man. Is it possible for me to take him to court so i can stay at my mothers full time? What kind of lawyer would i need?
2007-10-23 15:17:16 · 14 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
someone said they cant do anything unless you ca prove it. that is not true. you should contact social services and request information on obtaining a gaurdian at litem < not sure how that is spelled. at the age of fourteen you can chose which parent to live with. i know because my 14 year old nephew lives with me. his father is unknown and his mother was abusive. he had no proof of this it was just our word against hers, but the judge asked him who he wanted to live with ad when he said us, his wish was granted. good luck and i hope it all works out the same for you.
2007-10-23 15:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by jameson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're father is liable for child support payments AT LEAST until you are 18 (21 if you go to college), and in MOST instances, that gives him the RIGHT to see you on scheduled visits UNLESS the man is abusive to you in any way, shape or form. You've made no complaints probably to police or other agencies so you would be hell bent on proving such allocations in COURT, but being 14, you DO have your choice who you want to LIVE with... but as far as your father's right to see YOU, you probably should have your mom take you to FAMILY COURT where they will appoint a LAW GUARDIAN FOR YOU who you CAN speak to and who will advise you and your mom as to what can and CANNOT be done in this case...... you COULD just tell your father you are doine visiting him, but then HE might drag your mom back into court to TRY to get out of paying child support for you (he'd LOSE but he could TRY, which would cause SO many more problems for BOTH you and your mom..... I'd go the law guardian route if I were you.
2007-10-23 15:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You personally cant do this, but you need to talk to your mother and express how ur feeling, and possibly keep a record of what has happened, or is happening when your with him. Your mom would need to be the one to go to court and have u testify about how you feel. You may still have to visit your father but perhaps it would be supervised visitations.. It does cost money to get a lawyer, and they can run anywhere between 1500, to 2500 to just retain a "family law" lawyer. So the only option would be for ur mom to keep you at the house and not let you visit with your father, and let him be the one to take her to court and her just show up with you to court. But that "could" go badly for your mom to do that, she could be held in contempt of court. I really think you need to talk to both of your parents, i think u need to tell them both how you feel, and see if something can be worked out with out having to bring a judge into this.. Your mom could probably ask the judge to send ur dad to parenting classes during the supervised visitations in hopes of him getting better at being a father. But this is an issue your mom and dad need to handle between themselves, but u do need to make it very clear how u feel, and i suggest you have ur mother standing by when you tell your dad.
Good luck..
2007-10-23 15:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the Friend of the Court in your county. Make an appointment - be prepared with facts and not just innuendo - they can't do anything unless you can prove it.
If you want to, you can become emancipated, but then your mom wouldn't get child support and maybe you'd lose health benefits, so look into it first.
Good luck - but tread carefully - in case he's violent you're much too precious to be a casuality of his anger.
2007-10-23 15:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you father has sole custody, then your parents needs to take it to court. If your mother is the custodian, then you can stay with her except those times your father is allowed to see you. Either way, talk to your mother. If he's that bad, I'm surprised your mother hasn't done anything about it yet.
2007-10-23 15:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother would have to hire a laywer in your behalf. then tell the lawyer what it is you want have him file the paper work and then when you go to court have the lawyer file a motion to confer with child in chambers. neither your dad or mom will be aloud in to the judges chambers and you can tell the judge what is going on and what you want and why your doing this. and then the judge will make his ruling. good luck
2007-10-23 15:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother can take him back to court and because of your age the judge will take what you say into consideration.
If you do get that chance....don't lie because if the judge finds out you lied you will go where he/she thinks it's best for you and you won't get a say.
2007-10-23 15:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother and ask her to petition the court with you. If he is abusive, there should be no reason to make you go see him.
I believe an attorney who specializes in family law would be your best bet.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 15:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the nearest law school and pose this question to some students. You will find plenty of people eager to help.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 15:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what you are old enough to say no. You have to tell you mother you do not want to go and that is that. My son did not want to see his father and refused to go. Your mom has to stick up for you and tell him sorry but you do not want to go!
2007-10-23 15:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by iamhappyfourme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋