Girls, both good and bad, prefer to date bad boys while they're young; they ignore all the nice guys, making us suffer in lonliness and despair while they go out and have all sorts of sexual pleasure with other men. But those bad guys dump them like they deserve, and now they want to marry a nice guy--the same nice guys (many of them virgins) whom they have selfishly neglected.
I, for one, will not tolerate such selfishness! Why should I take a sexually used girl? I don't want her, especially because she neglected me for the loser that abused her. It is for this reason that I will be searching for a modest foreign wife, not some selfish, used-up ***** in the States.
2007-10-23 15:12:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry for the tone. Forgive me. I'm just in a bad mood right now - I'm not usually this upset. Sorry.
2007-10-23 15:23:13 · update #1
"She may have sex with the bad or loser type, but she wants to MARRY the nice guy type. You get her for life, what are you complaining about? Get over it."
This is exactly the type of attitude that enrages me! If a girl has slept with other men (typically the "loser" type) and neglected me, I don't want her! She becomes a peice of garbage that I just don't want. While she was out indulging in sexual pleasures with other men, I was at home, alone, suffering in loneliness and despair, waiting for her - and you expect me to overlook that? Never!
The idea that I should overlook her adulterous crimes against me because I'll get her for life, is a outrageously stupid notion. If she wanted to be with me forever, she should've waited for me just as I was waiting for her, not indulge in sexual pleasure with other men while I dreamed about meeting her! I will not forgive her and don't want her at all.
2007-10-23 16:31:42 · update #2
those can be liars I am proud of you .You deserve better and I hope that someday you find it. Don't give up she will come around Mormons are very religious and they give most of their power to the man but they run the roost
2007-10-23 15:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience. Not all nice guys finish last, but your tone here indicates you may be putting off a vibe that keeps those nice girls away.
One woman should not set the tone for all. Instead of lumping all women from the United States (or any country) into one category, try taking the chip off your shoulder first. A lot of girls feel the same way about guys being selfish users.
There is no guarantee that if you find a wife from a foreign country she will be any better. If you don't like the country, you're free to move, though!
2007-10-23 15:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're probably looking for the wrong types of ladies. The types that would go for bad guys. And besides, I don't think nice guys finish last, just weak guys. Nice guys can be strong too.
2016-04-10 01:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi James,
Seems like you're talking from experience. But aren't you being too harsh?? Maybe the girl you wanted ended up with some bad guys (as you termed them). The truth is there are just as many nice girls who watched the guys they liked go out with some hot-flirty women, then when their relationships didn't work out, come back to this virginal girl. If we're basing things on externals like money & fame, then you're right "nice guys finish last"..But you haven't encountered the back-stabbing, the hyprocrisy, the snake-pit of that world. You also seem to forget those real issues that matters most. Peace-of-mind& happiness. This is where the good guys will finish first. Just a reminder, someone who is do-gooder, but is full of jealousy & insecurites can't be considered the good guys. The good guys are those who have a kind-heart, giving, caring & no inseccurities whatsoever. Believe those good guys will never finish last in any competition.
2007-10-23 15:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're attracted to just one particular type of woman. Many women here in the states seek nice men from the start. I did. If you feel another woman from another country will be your match who's stopping you. Go for it! Sorry you've had such bad experiences or feel neglected though.
2007-10-23 15:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James, here is another way to look at this scenario: Young woman stupidly and immaturely looks for love in all the wrong places....believing foolishly that dashing, smooth talking men are romantic. It takes her a few times of going through similar relationships before she realizes that she is throwing away her love, affection, and body on the wrong type of man. Luckily, she has learned from her mistakes and is finally mature enough to pick a mature and stable man, rather than a smooth talking jerk.
The experiences that she has gone through have helped her determine what type of man she really wants and needs, and hopefully that type of man can show her that she is valuable without having to 'give it all away'.
Have some compassion.
2007-10-23 15:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nice guys dont always finish last. i met my husband when i was 14 and he was 16. i was an attractive young girl and he was a very dorky young man lol. at first i didnt want to date him because he was such a dork, but i agreed to go on one date with him and found out that i adored him. he did end up having to move out of state and I was furious when he called me and dumped me, but 6 years later, when i was currently dating 4 very attractive men at once (dating meaning literally dating--not having sex with any of them and they all knew about each other) he called me. i went to see him and after spending one day with him i dumped all the other guys and began a relationship with him. we are ow married with four kids and more in love than ever! back to the point--i can tell you that most women date bad guys because they themselves have self esteem issues. women tend to be more self conscious and insecure then men. it is only when they mature that they realize they dont need a man with a bad boy image to make them feel important.
2007-10-23 15:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by jameson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sleeping with my boyfriend - but he happens to be a nice guy. He's the only man I've had sex with. I avoid bad/loser guys like a disease - I only date men I can see myself having a future with. I'm not some damaged piece of sh*t because I'm not a virgin. But for those girls who do sleep with undesirables - it's often a part of them growing up and maturing. They learn from those experiences, not all women have an inborn life of experience to draw from. She may have sex with the bad or loser type, but she wants to MARRY the nice guy type. You get her for life, what are you complaining about? Get over it - don't generalize the female population as used whores or otherwise to soothe your bruised ego.
2007-10-23 15:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
doesn't matter if you find someone foreign or from the states - girls will be girls anywhere! and, maybe as much as you think girls are going after wrong guys, you're just going after the wrong girls. there are plenty of nice girls out there that fit your taste. i was actually the homecoming queen of my high school and all that other junk that, stereotypically, would be the girl you're describing to go after such deemed 'bad' boys...but, i've always prefered the other boys. the one's who are smart, usually witty, maybe not the most attractive...but, who cares, makes me feel comfortable, safe and fun to be around them. i love nice boys!!!
2007-10-23 15:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 100% right but don't forget while the women were chasing bad boys the nice guys were working on more meaning things like career. Where are the bad boys now - working 10 levels below us.
2007-10-23 15:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by ensoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋